My apologies for such a delay - I haven't had much time since posting yesterday, and I don't even know where to start. I started panicking too, and I feel so poorly all the time.
I never thought I would even be thinking of NC, but I just can't deal with anything else.
I seem to have really upset my (il) family, to the extent that I stopped hearing from them altogether. They still picked the phone up to message each other - including my DH - but when asked what I'd done to cause such an extreme reaction, my DH never got an answer - he started asking around Christmas, and we are still none the wiser.
It has been more obvious because we've had xmas, new year and a number of birthdays.
So, there appears to be more than 1 issue, but we don't have an answer to the main reason (point 2), which seems to be driving all this.
1)) They didn't agree (and made it clear), with our decision to stick to covid rules. I'm here for my CEV Brother if needed.
2)) There is a problem with me, and apparently I'm the reason that mil doesn't know our DD, (our DD has also been brought up within the same context), but we have no idea why?
3)) DH and his Brother had an uncomfortable discussion re: point 1, but my bil brought my Dad into it - who has passed away - to try and compare the situation, but again, I wasn't here when that happened but my DH was incredibly angry & upset about what was said.
Now, all this seems to be hardly anything (and I agree), but this has led to such an extreme reaction on the il side that texts, when I was still getting them, have changed in wording & amount received.
I now feel that I don't have any option but to distance myself completely, as I can't keep going through this awfulness whenever there is a birthday, anniversary etc.
I've spent months crying daily and tbh, we've (DH & I) had to cope with so much in the last 10 years as it is, that I don't think I should be treated like this every time I do something, or don't do something, they disagree with. Or, should I allow myself to be treated this way?
I can only describe it in the context of like being sent to coventry, and it really does seem to drive you mad. Maybe I'm in the wrong, but I just don't know what I should take, given they're my (il) family.
Just for full disclosure The last 10 years have included us dealing alone with: 2 SEN children, meltdowns and all that entails, 2 of them out of school for a long time, 2 of them being taken to different schools - 1 of them was always late dropped off and picked up, School Tribunal for 1 child, PIP Tribunal for the other child. DH has ended up with mental health difficulties, and the main ones, which were going on throughout all of this is My Dad died (I ended up having therapy for PTSD, but had to stop it because of the following) & my Brother was days away from dying and wasn't 'supposed' to survive what he did, and needed lots of care. Oh, and I've been really struggling with peri-menopausal issues.
Any suggestions would be amazing, as things can't get any worse.
Sorry it was such a long reply.