No breakfast after DTD

[Notanotherfreak]

So I’m not sure if I’m being unreasonable, and need advice! Been dating a guy ..we’ve had 6 dates & had dinner at his last night (we’ve both had Covid before I’m flamed!). Was discussed beforehand that I’d stay. So he cooks me a lovely dinner, I stay, we DTD. All good. DTD again in the morning then get he gets up. I have a cup of tea then he says he has to walk the dog & then going for a run... it’s obvious then he’s not going to make me a coffee (I asked) or make me breakfast before I go. So I leave but tbh feel pretty pee’d off as it was all a bit efficient and kind of thought it would be nice to offer me breakfast before I go! Am I being precious? It’s not a work day but a Sunday! Am thinking maybe he got what he wanted and just wanted me gone? Not sure if this is a red flag or he’s just been a batchelor for so long he’s just is entrenched in his routine...what would you think?

Sounds like he got what he wanted.

His behaviour was very cold and the opposite of romantic.

You’re right. Not even a coffee?!

Sorry to say but it sounds like he got what he wanted and wanted to then get rid :(

You're not being precious, any guest in my house (those were the days) would be offered basic sustenance, whether they were a sexual partner or not. Find someone with basic manners, he's not a keeper!

This is how I feel. It’s shit isn’t it!

How long have you been dating?

Um yes, that isn’t very friendly or respectful behaviour, given you’ve had 6 dates (ie it’s not a ONS.) It’s a bit hard to explain really. I think I’d cut my losses, but if you decide not to I would be keeping an eye for any other flags - either that or just have it out w him.

‘(we’ve both had Covid before I’m flamed!)’

Pardon?

A month dating. He was romantic before we DTD, but I did wonder if he was a bit on the spectrum. But it left me feeling empty & upset.

Get rid of him no coffee even that’s just rude and bad manners.

He either got what he wanted or is just thoughtless. Either way it's not relationship material I wouldn't see this as a long term thing. sorry OP

@Notanotherfreak

A month dating. He was romantic before we DTD, but I did wonder if he was a bit on the spectrum. But it left me feeling empty & upset.

on the spectrum? Because he didn’t make you breakfast?

Wait, did he have a cup of tea and pffer you nothing, or you had a cup of tea? Tbh if you had a cup of tea I wouldn't think yk offer you a coffee aswell.

I had a cup of tea, but it was obvious he wanted me to leave straight after as he had to walk the dog and get on with his day. So no breakfast.

So I was out of the house by 9.15.

I don’t eat breakfast and haven’t for over 20 years, so maybe he doesn’t and it didn’t occur to him to offer you any

If you'd had a cup of tea I wouldn't think to offer you a coffee. Also maybe he doesn't eat breakfast? I don't eat breakfast, just make something for the DC.

Agree that it sounded like he wanted you to go home sharpish though. Not a nice feeling.

I'd have thought he might suggest you come along on the dog walk. And maybe he doesn't have breakfast himself?

But yes, it sounds like he did just want you to go.

Was this the first time you’d stayed over / DTD?

Have you heard from him today?

Yes maybe that was it. I was thinking of ending it as I felt a bit shagged & discarded. But I’ll sleep on it perhaps.

Yes did hear from him to say how sunny it was. But no thanks for coming over it was lovely text.

How did you get the tea?

If he already made you tea then why would he make you coffee? I think you’re being a bit weird about it tbh!

On the spectrum because he didn’t offer breakfast? Wow that’s a new symptom!