Dating Thread 197 - Dating into 2021 and beyond

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The Rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. Know your worth.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Treat others as you'd like to be treated 12. Any relationship you have that could get ruined by having a conversation about your feelings, standards and/or expectations wasn't really stable enough to begin with 13. The things you choose to ignore/ tolerate now are the reasons you will break up in the future 14. OLD can get very time consuming. Keep doing other activities you enjoy.

Optional: Please give your irons (potential dates you are talking to) nicknames like Mr Scottish. Initials are allowed (Mr S) when you are an item

I text him in advance of the big midnight and he’s replied

This always amazes me I send my RL OLD support teammate a picture of someone I think is so unbelievably handsome and hot I might just melt/swoon on the spot and she's usually 'Nope. Not getting it' or she'll send me a pic and I'm all 'Not even if you paid me'

Abso- fucking- lutely. The most gorgeous and godlike and wonderful of all my "ones that got away" was WilliamItWasReallyNothing.....he was insanely, toe curlingly educated and fascinating and impressive and physically gorgeous, my God I was so smitten and wanted to jump him on the spot and it came to nothing .

A single friend actually knows him socially, and after months of back-and-forthing finally went on a walking date with him . Apparently he asked if he could lay his head in her lap and she was like "Ooh, no! I really didn't fancy him!" I was like "WHAT. How? HOW?!"

@LongtimelurkerL see! Now i texted Mr Yoga at 9pm and nothing. I know he has fallen asleep. Rock and roll.

Mr Double Decker and I are creating our perfect imaginary NYE party. We're thinking a "Goodbye to the EU" theme, with warm beer and a fancy dress Carry On theme. But on the beach....

My travel plans for tonight .

Happy new year everyone 🎆🎉

Happy new year lovely threadies I’m in bed all my physio and yoga done.

I have received standard slightly affectionate mainly polite messages from both my irons and the plan to stay up and eat snacks is dead.

Xxx

I got dressed up in my lovely dress tonight and if I do say so myself I looked hot. @cravingthelook has the photo proof.

Thank you everyone for the words of advice and all the support you have given me this year. Without this thread I don't think I would have realised my worth when I did. Here is hoping a better Spring and Summer is on its way next year and many dates and irons to go along with it.

I’m on the couch in the pjs with my dog and the kids are scattered about the house.
I’m feeling very emotional all of a sudden- it’s been a tough year (as for you all no doubt).
This thread has been a lifeline for the dating newbies like me. I’ve gotten great advice and straight talking when needed, and a listening ear always!
So happy new year to all of you wonderful folk. It can only get better

Happy new year gang!!! This will be a good one!

Happy new year 🎊🎆

Happy new year everyone. Even if it starts in April sure it will be cracker. x

Happy New Year everyone. This thread has been such a help over the last year, and you've all been so supportive and amazing, I'm so grateful you've accepted me onto the forum.

Here's to a 2021 where we can actually meet for proper dates, and meet the people we deserve.

Happy new year wonderful people! Wishing us all health, happiness and love (whatever that means to you). And respect

Happy new year!
I spent the evening with a panicky pup.
The giant wackamole game that is NHS track and trace has got me and I’m indoors for 6 days isolation. Thankfully I only miss two days work and can run my business from my house. I just can’t make any money.
I have an iron who I’m a bit hopeful about so fingers crossed he will wait till next weekend. I hate phone conversations and FaceTime but I’m actually considering it now.

Happy new year all - I fell asleep before midnight

Happy New year! Was woken by the fireworks in London! Hope this year is a positive one for us all.

Happy New Year 🎉

Not heard from Mr Brain so guessing that's over...... after 5 great dates....who'd have known and I wonder what went wrong! Trying not to take it personally but it's difficult not to!

Happy new year all - I was home alone last night so was asleep by 10.30pm 😁

whoknows11 sorry to hear you've been let down. Remember- its always them and not you 🤗

In a turn of events I met up again with my iron from a few weeks ago who has stayed in touch but who I wrote off because of his voice. Turns out it doesn't actually bother me that much after all. Hes attractive, attentive, lovely, and has his life in order. I don't know if it will go anywhere- especially as he would be the oldest I've ever date being 8 years older than me - but ill see where things go if anywhere. I will name him MrTatts

Sorry whoknows what a way to start the year. After 5 dates it's impossible not to go through every interaction in your head to work out what-you-did-wrong. I'm sure we've all been there. You didn't do anything wrong of course and there is nothing wrong with you - it just didn't work out 😪

Cowardly not to talk to you about it though. Which goes to show he doesn't deserve you. There is someone out who does 💐

Argh @Whoknows11 def not you - out of interest is there a possibility he was waiting for a text from you? I know there’s the ‘If he likes he’d text’ thing and you will know better than me

Happy New Year everyone ! Let's hope that it's a good one in every respect.
whoknows not a nice feeling when someone disappears. And rude on his part after 5 dates. Just to clarify , there is no way he thinks you are the one who has walked away ? Did you make the last contact? If so then definitely one for the fuck it bucket. Unnecessary behaviour which tells you what he is really like so head high and into 2021 where hopefully you will find someone fantastic.

@Slothmomma, that sounds like a promising update ! I am a firm believer that you don't know until you let yourself find out. When I met my previous RS we were both a bit weary from OLD and I said to him that as long as we cleared the first hurdle of do I find them physically attractive in person then we would commit to at least 2 dates to give ourselves the opportunity to learn more about each other. I think it's very difficult to gauge from one meeting sometimes. Apart from the obvious 'no way, not ever' reactions which of course I experienced and clearly irons felt the same way about me sometimes. There is no short cut to finding out if you are compatible. Hairyarsedman often advocates the slow and steady exploration of what this new person coming into my life is going to become. I have several longstanding great male friends that I have made through OLD who were never destined for romance but came into my life and stayed for other reasons. I know others on the thread have mentioned the same.

Happy New Year🥳

Here's to a much better dating experience in 2021😁

Thanks to everyone on this thread, its a great little community💕

And last night I was in bed by 9.30, woohoo what a way to celebrate🙄🤣

Thanks for all your comments on Mr Brain. I messaged him.and we had a small message chat. I'm now seeing him for date number 6!! I'm literally going to take it as it is and not get my hopes up! I'm not sure he knows what he wants!

We need a clever witty hopeful title for the next incarnation