I’m going to cancel Christmas in my house

[Unsurekitten84]

I think the UK should have made that decision tbh. No mixing of households. Keep the tier system. Just leave it this year.
I’m quite looking forward to not having to put the tree up or wrap the stupid stocking presents. In fact it is possibly one of the few covid upsides. The downside is my MiL will still demand to see us and is looking forward to everything going ‘back to normal’ for five days, during which she will see everyone she’s ever met 🙄. I’ve said I don’t want to go but dh has overruled me as apparently she has to see her grandchildren on Christmas Day.
We won’t be seeing my family though.

@TonMoulin

PLEASE READ THE FULL THREAD

There is nothing confusing to anyone who has read the OP’s posts.
She is deeply unhappy because she is in an abusive relationship. She isn’t a grinch or hurting her dcs. She is at the end of her tether.

So just READ before making someone feel even worse than she is.

Sorry to bang on about it, but this is true. Please don't put the boot in any further.

@Unsurekitten84 are you ok ?
Can you go to parents with your children to give you some head space.

RTFT @Choirbells

@Choirbells

No excuse to cancel your childrens Christmas, it's just plain evil

Seriously @MNHQ, you either you think this OP is legitimate or you dont.

If you do, can you please protect a vulnerable poster - and posters potentially reading this who are in a similar situation - from being bombarded with these messages?

Christmas is a very dangerous time for women in abusive and coercive relationships. This is the first Covid Xmas we've ever seen. Go figure.

Thanks.

The OP has been called all sorts on here (the ones I remember off the top are "mean", "boring", "miserable", "selfish", and, now, "evil").

Read the full thread before you make disgusting comments to someone who's evidently desperate.

Fuck me just for the sake of your dc put your flaming tree up! Jeez

I did read the full thread.

You honestly read the full thread, @Choirbells, and you still told the OP that her post was "plain evil"?

Words fail me.

@3littlewords

Fuck me just for the sake of your dc put your flaming tree up! Jeez

@3littlewords For the sake of the OP, read the flaming thread. Jeez. Unless you think it's fun to have a go at someone who's desperate.

I feel so sorry for your children 😞

OP you really should kick out your abusive drunk husband, he can go running home to mummy and you and your kids can have a lovely wee Christmas together with no aggro

@ivfbabymomma1

I feel so sorry for your children 😞

Did you even consider reading all the OP's posts?

You can’t say that on the thread @Pluckedpencil.

You need to report.

I did report, I didn't know you couldn't say it though. Oops. No offence OP, maybe you just like to repeat yourself and ignore people!

I can relate to feeling overwhelmed at this time of year and having to take on most of the planning myself as otherwise it just wouldn’t happen.

I can also relate to children waking up early and bickering as mine are similar ages, and this can be very wearing.

The mil issue seems to be a common problem this year, not sure why mil’s feel more entitled to see grandchildren? (I’m basing this purely on other threads I’ve read not personal experience).

I agree with others that your dh sounds controlling from what you’ve posted and that there should be some compromise and discussion so it is fair for everyone.

I agree that your low motivation could mean you are depressed, and that accessing some support may be helpful.

The thought of children living in this makes me want to cry.

@nobdie FWIW I know exactly what its like to be in an unhappy controlling relationship and to have an over bearing MIL , still doesn't mean I won't make the effort for my dc at Christmas when I feel like im dying inside.

@MNHQ need to sort this out, either it’s a troll or someone in real need of support, I’ll stick my neck out and say it’s the latter.

The thought of children living in this makes me want to cry.

The thought of being at this low an ebb, not just as a parent but as a person, makes me want to cry too.

Sort it out how @Smellbellina? This is a discussion forum.

Some complete knobs on this thread, the op is clearly not coping well and her decisions will not be rational, remember be kind....

Could you not see your parents first and then your mil after?. That way you won't pass anything from mil to your parents?

I completely understand the irritation at doing all the Christmas work and yet having your DH dictate who you see over Christmaa but couldn't you make something work somehow so the children dont miss out?