Accused of cheating - beginning of Relationship

[Lalata]

Hi everyone, I met a great guy About a month ago. He brings me flowers, open doors, he is very affectionate and really into me. I like him a lot too. However, last time I saw him he wasn’t as affectionate as he usually is so I send him a message later on asking if he is ok and his reply was that he is very sorry, but he has a feeling I cheated. And that it’s probably irrational and it’s his insecurities, but he is not sure he can get over it. I’m shocked. I didn’t cheat of course. What now? It’s so strange! We will talk about it tonight as he is coming for dinner. But I’m kind of freaked out

@Bluethistles

Politics is as relevant here as your opinion of me, so you go ahead and believe I'm talking bullshit. Nobody's really bothered.

@BlueThistles

Are you usually this angry when you get the wrong end of the stick?

Eckhart explained what they meant. They are a stranger to you. Getting worked up and accusing them of lying doesn't do anything other than make you look silly.

Run and as quick as you can,

He will explain it all away when he sees you aren´t going along with it, and you will continue the relationship with someone who will slowly chip away at your self-esteem. Life is offering you a chance to get out here, OP. Take it.

i hope op gets back to us and lets us know that she's okay.

Hey Eckhart, do women not get killed by angry men then? God, can't believe I have lived this long and have the wrong impression of angry men! Must stop reading the news.

[quote youvegottenminuteslynn]@BlueThistles

Are you usually this angry when you get the wrong end of the stick?

Eckhart explained what they meant. They are a stranger to you. Getting worked up and accusing them of lying doesn't do anything other than make you look silly. [/quote]
no she did not.. she has an agenda to slate a high profile politician .. take yourselves off here if that's your focus .. and leave those helping OP to do just that

Mistystar, you'd best call the emergency services if you think OP is at such a high level of risk. I'm sure they'd tell you you're being dramatic too, but they have more authority than me so perhaps you'd listen to them.

God, can't believe I have lived this long and have the wrong impression of angry men! Must stop reading the news

How long have you lived? You sound about 14.

[quote Eckhart]@Bluethistles

Politics is as relevant here as your opinion of me, so you go ahead and believe I'm talking bullshit. Nobody's really bothered.[/quote]
wrong place wrong time

I take 14 as a compliment lol

I had an ex too who accused me of cheating and physically abused me. Unfortunately I wasn't aware of mumsnet when I was 20.

You're very privileged to be on here.
You need to listen to the advice of the women on here.

This is a major red flag.

He's a love bomber, he's got you hooked and now he's started the mind games.

It will get worse, I had one just like him for two years. I finally got a backbone and dumped his sorry ass!

Run for the hills for sure.

@BlueThistles

You're right. Let's allow the thread to return to OP's issue, rather than you criticising me out of nowhere and me trying to defend myself against a totally nonsensical attack. Let's not respond to each other again.

That says a lot, Mistystar.

[quote Eckhart]@BlueThistles

You're right. Let's allow the thread to return to OP's issue, rather than you criticising me out of nowhere and me trying to defend myself against a totally nonsensical attack. Let's not respond to each other again.[/quote]
Stop bringing your political agenda onto OP's page... raise your own Thread in politics if you're so bothered by it ... and leave OP's thread to those supporting OP

@BlueThistles

Let's not respond to each other again

[quote Eckhart]@BlueThistles

Let's not respond to each other again[/quote]
Political forums.. are next door

@BlueThistles

You're continuing to post about things that have nothing to do with OP while telling others to stay on topic... very odd. I hope you're ok, must be tiring being so angry with strangers on the internet

[quote youvegottenminuteslynn]@BlueThistles

You're continuing to post about things that have nothing to do with OP while telling others to stay on topic... very odd. I hope you're ok, must be tiring being so angry with strangers on the internet [/quote]
Stay on Topic ... pleeeeease

Sorry your thread got derailed by weird personal grievances that make no sense OP!

Do check in and let us know you're ok later, hopefully you'll have had time to mull this over and see how big a red flag his behaviour is. Not healthy, not acceptable and not relationship material.

I hope your okay OP 🌺

Why are you going on and on, BlueThistles?

If you think the thread to be about OP, why are you deviating it by focussing on me?

Wow, he has a feeling you cheated!
What the hell are you supposed to say to that 🤔

@Eckhart

Why are you going on and on, BlueThistles?

If you think the thread to be about OP, why are you deviating it by focussing on me?

Stop

Yes, @Lalata, please let us know how you've got on this evening. This thread got odd without you!