@Boorosie
I’m really sorry for what you are dealing with. But if you look at the facts it’s very clear he is lying to you.
Your earlier posts say that you discovered the love honey email first in November.
After this discovery you didn’t mention anything to him but I’m sure you were acting differently around him. Even if you tried not to, it would have been very hard to act 100% normal.
Your husband has clearly picked up on this and probably put 2 and 2 together that you had found that email which is the reason he’s then changed his passwords a few days after your discovery.
Instead of talking to you about it he has let you deal with this alone, coming up with all sorts of explanations in your head. In the meantime he’s not mentioned anything to give himself time to create a story in his head ready for if / when you confront him.
This is confirmed by the fact that when you eventually confronted him he didn’t act surprised at all and actually told you he knew you knew something.
When he told you his “story” he lied to you and said this started in October because he no doubt thought you had only seen the recent email and not the ones from March.
He then lied to you again when you mentioned the March emails. He said he didn’t know what you were talking about. Only when you said you have proof of the March orders did he decide to change his story again and say the blackmail has been going on for longer than he said.
I know it’s so easy to believe the person you trust, to want to fit things that don’t make sense into their story to try and make it true. But if you read this all back he’s already lied to you, changed his passwords and kept this from you. If this very unlikely “blackmail” situation had happened to my partner he would come home and tell me. Your husband actions just scream typical cover up behaviour.
Please don’t let him lie to you any further and insult your intelligence. If you look at the situation logically it’s clearly not true. One thing I have learnt is most people caught out in a lie with carry on with their lies and make you feel like you are the unreasonable one for not believing them. The reason for the orders is unclear as to whether it’s an affair or something different but they are your husbands orders and he is lying to you. You deserve to know the truth.