Online dating in your 50's - mark 2

[Fiftyandmore]

Here we still are :)

Thanks for the tip @HairyArsedMan I've found that OKC doesn't exactly stick to my criteria. It's showing me profiles from all over the place. And there seem to be quite a few 'familiar faces' from the other sites haha. I don't think I'll be paying as I doubt it'll change anything. I do match occasionally (eg on Bumble or Tinder) but far less than I used to pre-50. Makes me feel great. Not!
I think I'll be suspending my account later as I'm in danger of becoming one of those 'familiar faces' myself. I can imagine all the blokes thinking 'Not her again!' Give me an 'eyes meet across a crowded bar' any day - or even bumping into someone interesting in the ready-meals-for-one aisle. But with lockdown and masks, both are highly unlikely for a while yet!

Yeah @LittleBeee if you pay it allows you to filter properly, but if you don’t they throw people at you from far and wide (and vice versa) so you and them accrue a lot of pointless likes. More likes = more chance of someone paying for a subscription.

I see another phenomenon on some sites and that is someone reappearing as ‘New’ when they are one of those familiar faces. One woman seems to do this every week - makes me think it’s a campaign to catch someone’s attention. Or maybe lots of attention, knowing that new profiles are heavily promoted (again, for the purposes of converting people to paying subscribers).

Hi there. I think it's done me good to have a break from online dating. I'll probably have another try in the summer if it's safer to do so.

I've hidden my profile on POF but sometimes have a look when I am bored. No one really takes my interest but then I'm not going to find a 50 something Bridgerton Duke am I 😊

I went on a Covid secure walking first date on Saturday. We did about seven miles. It was nice enough but not for me.

Hi there. Has anyone had any dates?

Hi @hotchocolatey how are you?
I've had some lovely dates just lately as I was seeing someone ... however, I ended it a few days ago.
Have you had any dates recently?

Hi. I'm OK thanks. Sorry to hear you had to end things. I haven't had a date since last year. I might start looking again at the end of the year.

Just thought I'd say hi and update you all. What a successful couple of weeks I've had online dating!

I've been offered escort agency work and been approached by someone who claims he is recruiting for Naked Attraction. Report/report.

I've also been ghosted by someone who seemed promising. I was hoping for a drink in the sunshine this weekend.

All in all a resounding success! Ha ha.

Anyone got any good news or updates?

Hi @hotchocolatey

Sorry to hear you're experiencing the joys of Online dating to the full.

I'm not doing any better.

I always vet any potential dates with a phone chat first. The last two men I matched with -had nice phone calls & dates were planned & then afterwards they've said things via messaging which has crossed my boundaries so I chose not to meet either of them!

the search continues..... slowly.

@Fiftyandmore @Techway @Onesmallstep67

Any news or updates to give us hope? x

@WildestDreamsSunset Sorry to hear that but it is good to have boundaries. If I get any inappropriate messages I report them.

Just thought I’d drop by and see how everyone’s doing :). I’m still resolute in my desire to never do OLD again!

It's that time of year when I start reevaluating things! Just thought I'd give this thread a bump and see where everyone is at.

I've changed jobs twice this year, sold my house and had the house sale fall through, had a very worrying time with one of your dc, and haven't really given dating or relationships much thought.

If I have given it any thought, it's been to think along the lines of I'm past all that now. I'm finding there's a big difference in me from my early 50's to my late 50's (which is where I'm at now). However, I got randomly complimented earlier tonight so maybe there is the possibility of dating it again - if I want to! Not sure if I do.

How is everyone else doing?

That should of course say that I've had a very worrying time with one of my dc!

Hi. @Fiftyandmore - hope things work out with your DC.

I only go on dates with men who want the same things as me now. It should be a no brainier really but I dated someone who didn't seem to know what he wanted a few years ago and don't want to go there again.

Hi @Hotchocolatey good to hear from you. It sounds like you're in a good place and know what you're looking for!

@Fiftyandmore - nice to hear from you too. It sounds like you've had a hell of a year but so let us know if the "complimentary person" gets a date

Yes, I'm in a good place to have a relationship at the moment. I haven't really liked anyone for years but I know what I'm looking for and can recognise red flags. All I need now is a bit of luck

Wishing you the luck you need then @hotchocolatey! Where are you looking?

I have had a bad year but I think so many people have. Things still aren't great but my main concern is for one of my dc. If I can get him back to a good place, then I will be happy.

The random compliment came from a man at the airport yesterday (I'd been to drop my Dd off) so just a one-off!

I don't know if you remember from our earlier threads that I had a rl friend who was treating dating almost like a job, and who was going on at least one date every week. Well, she met someone in February and seems to be happy. So there is hope - she's 59.

Hi. I'm on a couple of dating sites. That's good news and encouraging about your friend.

I've posted previously under a different name. I gave up on online dating for a while, but I've been back on a couple of apps/sites in the last couple of weeks. Three days ago I started chatting to someone, he's three years over than me, lives half an hour away, we've since spoken twice on the phone, each time for well over an hour, we have lots in common, he's funny and seems to like me. We're hopefully going for a coffee on Wednesday 😬 I'm really looking forward to meeting him, I find him attractive - which is a first on the apps for me! - I'm just hoping he find me attractive too. I've put on a stone recently, which I'm going to try and loose from today onwards, but my face and stomach are much rounder 😬 is there anything I can do in a couple of days to get a flatter stomach at least and how can I apply makeup to make my face look a little less round? My photos on the sites weren't old, but probably between six months and two years ago.

I think he might be a possible, so don't want to blow it. I'm pretty good at dressing to hide my stomach though.