New fella watches a lot of porn and I don’t look like the women on them.

[Inexperiencedinthis]

I’m not very experienced when it comes to men. I’ve had long term boyfriends before and was engaged but not experienced in this part, maybe it was always kept from me.

My new guy I know watches a lot of porn and from what I can see likes big boobs, like that kind of typical pornographic image. This is not me, I’m only like a 30D, given the small back size it’s not big at all, and I’ve lost weight so smaller then I’ve ever been.

Do all men watch a lot of porn? I’m not really like the women on the videos and I’m unsure what he is seeing in me. I’m a bit quite, but kooky apparently, size 8, no real curves. Perhaps I’m just putting myself down. I’m just thinking what’s he looking at when he sees me, it’s not those women with big boobs and curves.

I’m sorry but “pork” hahahah
But yes I appreciate your reply. His response to me is just how else can I masturbate and that it makes him relaxed.

He isn’t watching it throughout the day like an addict. I guess really I’m a bit put off as I don’t look like the women on there and it does make me feel a bit low about myself.

As long as he's not addicted, then it's not a bad thing.

An addict will:

Have erection problems after the novelty of his new woman (you) has worn off.

He'll search for women online to look at, including friends on Facebook and Instagram.

He'll probably pay for porn but will blame lack of money on other things.

He'll be looking up porn or women at unusual times, like when he's on the toilet.

He'll be searching for porn based around an actress he's seen in a film or on TV.

He'll probably be selfish in bed and pay little attention to your body once the novelty wears off.

He'll struggle to cum - this is known as the death grip because they're used to wanking.

You'll start to feel like you don't exist. Like you're not good enough. You'll feel it.

Lastly, there's little you can do to fix him. Don't stay in a relationship with a porn addict hoping they'll change. Many women waste their lives not feeling good enough in the hope the addiction will stop, but it rarely does, and the woman is left feeling broken and unattractive.

If he's watching Pork that's a whole other issue

I don't agree with the poster below, not all porn objectifies women.

Plenty of women also enjoy watching porn.

What you're preference is in genre, if anything, is up to you, and what you're prepared to accept your potential partner watching is also up to you.

Do people who can't have a wank without port have no imagination? 🤔

@Harmarsuperstar

Do people who can't have a wank without port have no imagination? 🤔

No it just means they think there's a socially acceptable side to rub your cock(burns) from...

(Sorry, but I am loving the auto-corrects on this thread).

it was 'have a walk without port' I saw one but the other got away.

(I love port 🍷 but it seems difficult to find a vegan one 😕)

Nice port pun BTW 👌 👍

You've got to listen to your instincts here. You asked a question, there must be a reason you asked it. Are you really comfortable with this?

@Harmarsuperstar, I love a drop of Port with my Pork. I really enjoy a nice bit of crackling lol.

It’s maybe not so much the watching but the type of women. I’ve seen pictures on his social media of women, big boobed etc etc nothing like I am.

Well anyone can have a range of tastes. Just because I like chocolate for example, doesnt mean I don't enjoy crisps too. ...as my waistline will attest to.

Rn i have a major crush on tom felton (the blonde draco malfoy guy from harry potter). But I'm dating a dark haired guy who is covered in tattoos. I'm not even into tattoos. But they look great on him because they suit him.

I like slim guys but I also like a little more to love (cuddle) guys. It depends on the person. I'm sure it's the same for men.

He picked you so he obviously fancies you.

Oh stop it PP.

I almost spat out my tea at pork.... but then came along port hahaha ha

@inexperiencedinthis, feeling insecure isn't just a female thing and it isn't something to just brush under the carpet either.
The guys in many of these films are very well endowed with six packs and who seem to cum in large amounts of thick white goo.
I consider myself to be average size down there but my emissions aren't creamy white. Hopefully not TMI but as you see we can all feel inferior compared to porn (pork).
I also have a deep dread of losing my DW to some rich, handsome lothario but Mrs Firewalker has put up with me for almost 37 years so I must be doing something right.
We all have insecurities but you have to live in the real world and deal with what the dear lord gave you.

@Inexperiencedinthis

It’s maybe not so much the watching but the type of women. I’ve seen pictures on his social media of women, big boobed etc etc nothing like I am.

Op, hope you don't mind me asking, but don't you ever watch porn or masturbate?

I have been known to watch porn, the people in it are usually not the main focus, its usually just the act, or the situation that is the turn on.

The women he is watching is no reflection on his attraction to you, a living, breathing, real person, his partner.

Your insecurities are your own, it sounds like you are comparing you to them, not him.

You are good enough, he chose you.
Only you can decide if his porn habit are a problem, but please don't make this about you and your own attraction.

On the face of it I dont think you have a problem yet.Its early days of course ,but things like making a flask for you to have a drink, seems kind and caring .Many men may have a "type" but if they like you, and are into you it wont really matter (Sounds like he is ).Big or small boobs are often the thing that turns men on! I would not worry ATM just enjoy being together .Obv if anything comes along you are not happy about .Just say No and he should respect that .As FirewalkUK mentions above most men watch it at some point or another .

How do you know what porn he has been watching?

Port isn't vegan?? 🤔

Tbh I'd be much more bothered about what the lots of porn watching says about him and his attitude to women than I would about what shape of woman he prefers in his skanky videos.

How do you know what shape of porn women he chooses to watch?

OP - where is this deep insecurity coming from?
You are in a very early and mostly physical relationship with a guy who clearly finds you attractive. You have enjoyable end consensual sex. You aren’t even emotionally attached to him....
So you are dating. You aren’t even an official couple yet, by the sound of it....

So why on Earth are you concerned with how he masturbates and what pictures he looks at? If he didn’t find you attractive - he’d struggle to have sex with you.
Simples 🤷🏻‍♀️.

So he likes boobs. You have them. Ds aren’t small - as an owner of AA sized ones I can guarantee most men are OK with Ds.
Porn is a visual wank aid and as such exaggerates things.... If I watch - as a female - I like to see men with huge assets too... Makes for a nicer watching. But of course it doesn’t mean that in real life I’d be choosing a man by the size or his penis...

[quote firewalkeruk]@Harmarsuperstar, I love a drop of Port with my Pork. I really enjoy a nice bit of crackling lol.[/quote]
Thanks for letting me know

@Namechanged1122

Port isn't vegan?? 🤔

Some wines are fined (clarified) using gelatine from fish or egg whites or various other animal products

@Josuk

I’ve always thought you were a dude.

I'm going to be honest, I watch porn as a woman (once in a blue mind you) and I like watching blonde petite women but I'm married to a very dark haired, dad bodied man and I love him so much, I wouldn't leave him for a blonde women 😂 it's all fantasy I think, unless he is an addict and it's causing problems in your relationship (sexual, financial etc) I wouldn't worry too much about the types of things he's into, unless he ever tries to push the fantasy into you.

Theres nothing wrong if porn is a dealbreaker for you, but if hes not expecting you to recreate it and is respectful to you then is it such a big deal? Its pretty common and not everyone is aware of the issues in the sex industry or is politically aware