Online dating in your 40s - Part 2

[StarlightSparkle]

New thread as I don’t think we are anywhere near done on this subject!

Yay new thread.....Im going backwards regarding dating thats for sure!

Not done....ladies we are only getting started!!!

@Bequick Id go for the Dr Marten outfit :)

pineappleonpizzaornot

Fab thanks. That's kind of where I was leaning myself.

@pineappleonpizzaornot

Yay new thread.....Im going backwards regarding dating thats for sure!

I'm not going backwards, im shutting shit down much earlier than before. Sadly the quality on offer is still poor but my red flag spotting is getting more honed. I'm having a little dating break, going to see what happens organically, have also heard about a vibrator called a stronic (I think) from the family who made the womanizer. This one supposedly thrusts as well as pulsating but I don't think it does lying, debasing or degrading so going to do a bit of investigation and see if it can fill a gap (pun intended)

Thanks Starlight -looking forward to the chats

I've just ordered myself a new pair of DMs. My old boots are literally falling apart.

I hate wearing them in but they're worth it in the end.

Angelofdeath

Yep. Totally!

Ooh can I join please? I've recently split from my boyfriend of 18 months and starting to think about online dating again. I did meet someone online a couple of years ago, it was a minefield. I used Match before and it was ok, I found that paying a subscription weeded out some creeps but not all!

placemarking

Ive decided that I find absolutely nobody attractive OLD. They all look like potato men, or players with their tops off :(

I agree.

I've likened it to standing outside your local Spoon's at kicking out time.

My profile is hidden.

I have my messaging preferences set at must be within 6 years of my age either way; must live within 75km and must send a message of 50+ characters. I've had two men take the trouble to message me to say that if I make it that difficult for men to contact me, I'll be single forever 🤣

I'm guessing it was the character number? Tbh, if you can't find 15-20 words to say, I'm not interested anyway...

And yeah, so many potato men. I know exactly what you mean!

Thanks for new thread.

I have date with Mr Green tonight and have a message from Mr Blue saying mg he'll be flying back on 14th ....whoop whoop I'm getting nervous now as REALLY like him so far (but the money thing is a bit of an issue, for me, not him tbh)

Mr Green seems very nice no red flags and we chat with daily but it doesn't feel the same...but hey ho gives me something to do tonight if nothing else.

Enjoy your dates everyone going on one over the weekend.

I treated myself to some rather impractical shoes yesterday. Mr Computer Geek likes them. Not heard much from him today but I suppose he has been working and is probably now at home with the kids.

After being out all day my head is a bit clearer, I think if he can honestly tell me its over between him and his ex then I might be able to go there. If he can't tell me that then I will move on. I won't be the other woman and I won't be used to scratch his itch.

@StarlightSparkle new thread

@Angelofdeath wish we could all hug too

@Isitreally77 shoes sound good! Sounds like your making a good plan depending on outcome with Mr Computer..

@timetochangeagainforever enjoy your date. I'm still suspicious of Mr Overseas... speaking of suspicious...

I have a confession I contacted Flaky because I'm sad like that and we spoke...he sounds 20 years older than his picture... something's not right...serves me right!

@Angelofdeath your dream of ex sounded scary! Last night I dreamt of FWB (if I can call him that but so hot and not seen him for nearly a year) it was our first meeting a year tomorrow....I dream he text me to arrange meet... I still have a bottle of wine he brought around....I really am the saddest thing....

Thank you for wishing me a nice date - but it's not happening tonight!

Update on Mr Green .......he's blown me out....I assume

He was messaging on whatsapp all morning - having been text me early asking to meet for breakfast but I declined so we agreed tonight and get the train from work in central London to my station. From the start he'd been more keen than me, messaged yesterday asking to meet last night but I was tired and prefer more notice. I told him I was supposed to see my parents tonight but could swap to tomorrow if he wanted to meet tonight and he said he did. We discussed places to go and he booked a table. I then messaged him at 5 to confirm arrangements, no reply. I then called at the time I knew he finished work and it went straight to voicemail. His photo has disappeared on my whatsapp......I've been blocked haven't I? I'm finding it funny more than anything and am in my dressing gown eating a ready meal like they do on Dinner Date!

What bloody bizarre behaviour, he'd been asking me for days when we could meet and suggesting places to go! This hasn't happened before but I guess something Ill need to get used to.

Mr Blue is still messaging, calling and sending me photos of his day, his hotel suite, his work project etc....I've told him I'm nervous about meeting and he's been really reassuring. I do hope that he's genuine but I can't find anything online. I'll just have to wait and see how it pans out but will continue to message the 3 I'm still in contact with.

I stupidly deleted the photo of his work contract as I could have looked into the company. Oh well roll on 15th November.

I hope everyone everyone has a nice evening,

@famousforwrongreason that made me laugh, probably a better idea

Hi ladies. Can I just ask what people are doing in Tier 3 locations? I am new to dating following divorce but in a Tier 3 town so don’t see the point currently as spending loads of time outside with a stranger doesn’t really appeal. Is it best to just not bother until things get better?

@Angelofdeath I just lol at your mum's comment but I'm such a scared cat I sometimes think of the worst scenario...I like to meet where there are cameras(if something happens) as I don't tell anyone I'm going on a date in real life just you ladies and there hasn't been many that has materialised except Mr One Night(maybe 2 hours) & Mr Catfish. Meet him in a busy spot and in daylight hours.
I hope your date goes ahead and is nice on your birthday

I'm not meeting Flaky unless we video call...I don't know what the F he may look like going by that call. Apparently he will message me at the weekend.

Sorry you had such an awful dream... these men really do a number on us. In time we will heal.

My dream seemed so real.. for a moment I was happy again. He was arrogant but a good lover , extremely attractive and I felt comfortable with him. Despite my initial reservations...I needed him for the brief time I saw him...

I will drink the wine this year I hope...I also have some condoms he left...shall I fill them with water and Chuck them out the window?

@famousforwrongreason I lol.... thanks for the recommendation...we need all the help we can get