Hi all, hope everyone is ok.
So yes I hear from Mr Blue throughout the day and eve and he's sorted the container situation but I think it will delay the job finishing and therefore him coming back....I'm getting cynical now thinking he's never coming back so although I do really like the communication, I'm not getting too excited.
Also heard from Mr Green who blew Me out last Friday! Full of apology saying he smashed his phone and didn't get replacement until today. I just replied 'Oh really!?' - he's then sent messages apologising asking if he can make it up to me, am I still interested, when would I be free blah blah.....I've not yet responded. Maybe I will, maybe I won't, not much we could do for a date now anyway.
BUT the biggest news is, the girlfriend of my abusive controlling ex messaged me when I ignored her FB friend request, asking about his behaviour when we were together. I replied, giving examples. Turns out he's doing the same to her (jealousy, gaslighting, controlling, stonewalling, coercing) told her a pack of lies about everything including me - said we were together for 1 year when it was 8, that we split up Jan 2019 when it was Sept 2019 ......and they got together in Feb 2019 when I thought he was working away! We are both shocked. She found me as I have an unusual name and I gave her my number. His mask had begun to slip and she was questioning herself and actually said to him "you said timetochange was mad - I think it was you who drove her mad" . We had a good chat yesterday. I sent her evidence of our 8yr relationship and the fact we were still together when he met her (texts and emails and photos) She was very apologetic, poor woman was shaking - neither of us had any idea. She had already told him to leave her house and to stay at his flat during lockdown as his behaviour and mood swings were waving red flags, but now she told him last night to leave for good on Friday. I really feel for her as she's more entangled than I was, they practically live together where as he hardly came to my house as my older kids hated him. I told her that I'd reported his behaviour to the police when we split so it's on record if he gets nasty with her, there's evidence there already. What a prick, I'm a bit shocked but I'm so over him, im not bothered really, just concerned about the woman he did it to after me. She's just glad to get out after almost 2yrs and not longer and was very grateful to talk to me. She's going to call tomorrow as he's still in her house and again on Friday so that I know she's ok. She has an older teen daughter living there too who is aware of the situation and she sounds strong and determined, angry but relieved I think. Men eh......makes me wonder whether to pursue this OLD