Online dating in your 40s - Part 2

[StarlightSparkle]

New thread as I don’t think we are anywhere near done on this subject!

Feel more confident when not online

@OutingMyself I'm with you. I need a mental break...also feel a bit more confident even I'm now online.

@Angelofdeath forgot to ask about Mr School Run...I still have my fingers crossed!

@Isitreally77 I have no faith in alot of these men online... but you never know. Fingers crossed for you too.

@VivaVegas good luck with your date..be nice if one of us gets one

@pineappleonpizzaornot move back

@timetochangeagainforever Mr Blue.... Alarm bells are ringing!!!

@OutingMyself I'm with you. I need a mental break...also feel a bit more confident even I'm now online.

@Angelofdeath forgot to ask about Mr School Run...I still have my fingers crossed!

@Isitreally77 I have no faith in alot of these men online... but you never know. Fingers crossed for you too.

@VivaVegas good luck with your date..be nice if one of us gets one

@pineappleonpizzaornot move back

@timetochangeagainforever Mr Blue.... Alarm bells are ringing!!!

Sorry for spamming the thread... send button not working correctly!

@Angelofdeath move on up... he's loss. OLD feels like trying to get a good job...I never thought it would be so hard. I thought OLD would make it easier meeting people but I think it's the kid in the sweetshop mentality...too much choice and also people are taken for granted... no effort needs to be made and no investing in a person.... someone else is just a swipe away

@sugarlost - I think its easier to get a good job than a decent man!
@Angelofdeath - Mr Schoolrun story has made me laugh! Sorry! I was hoping something might come of it....maybe hes shy?
Im still on the apps, but not talking to anyone, it all seems to have died a death since the new lockdown is coming.
I would love to move back home, but it depends on my job and if they would let me work from home on a permanent basis...I have asked, so we will see.
@Isitreally77 - Is your date tonight? I hpe it goes ahead for you and he doenst turn into yet another ego boosting prick!
@timetochangeagainforever -Have you heard anymore from Mr blue?

Ive matched with a couple that I would like to receive messages from, but not had any, so Im debating whether to message first? Not sure I could take the no reply back....or worse still, they want to get into conversation lol...no pleasing me at the minute!

*sorry for typos, fingers were going faster than brain!

@Angelofdeath - my life is patheticer! Its hard to read signals from men, especially when you're on the hunt for one, I suppose we look at each glance from a man as "OMG he wants me!". Hotel booking man....for god sake, what is wrong with these men!?
One of them that i wanted to message me did...it went...
"I like your hair"
me:"thanks"
"I wouldn't mind seeing you on your knees in-front of me so I can grab it!"
Me:"Blocked"
Where were these me dragged up....in a brothel???

Well Mr Computer Geek was messaging last night but no mention of tonight. I think I've resigned myself to it not happening before lockdown now if at all. It's a shame really(although I have gym classes until 7pm so it would be a rush) but I don't think he bargained for me when he swiped on me as I've made him work so hard, I think he thought he could just get a quickie from this older (I need to have words with him about calling me an older woman last week, I'm only 7 years older than him)divorcee🤣 but that is not what I want and I told him that from the start and the more we message I think the more he realised it wasn't going to be like that with me. I think we would make good friends if nothing else (like I told him last week).

Who knows he may surprise me but I'm not holding my breath.

@pineappleonpizzaornot just saw your message after I posted. Its supposed to be but I'm not holding my breath (see my post above).

@Angelofdeath - Im sure there must be sex sites for them or just sod off and look at porn! These are 37 year old men! I do think, what would your mother think if she knew what you sent to us poor women....sure she would be mighty proud!
@Isitreally77 - Fingers crossed for you!

@Angelofdeath 77! Ewww! Block!

@Angelofdeath, Im really not sure what goes on in their heads! I've just received a message from a 66 year old (Im 41) saying, wow you're stunning love! Barf! They are another planet....might turn lesbo :)
I did get a message from a female not along ago, I have no idea why! But she was the best looking person that has messaged me lol!

@Angelofdeath that's the thing, I'd do the FWB (done it before years ago) but I just want to meet the bloke before I even think about that.

Not heard from him today so I can take that as it's not happening tonight. I sent him a message earlier asking if it was still happening but if not I understand and maybe we could do the friend route as we seem to enjoy chatting to each other. I just wanted an answer one way or another. It's wrong to leave someone hanging like this.

@Angelofdeath - Ive only had the one woman, I should have had a moan with her, I was more shocked than anything! I agree, I dont mind flirty/dirty chat IF Im in a relationship with someone, but for a second message erm no thanks! Dirty boy!
So, my work wont let me work from home in my hometown on a permanent basis....even though the whole company has been doing it since March! Sooo....I either pack up go home and work for this company until Spring which they will let me do, or just stay up North and crack on it is what it is. Or I start applying for jobs in my hometown, just not sure its the best time to be looking for new employment.

Late update, I decided to get a taxi as I fancied some wine and last chance saloon for going out!
When I first saw him I was a bit despondent as I thought he's not for me! But he was really funny, we have a similar sense of humour and were laughing all evening. He grew on me.
Had a little snog on the way from the pub 😳
We have said we want to see each other again, we are both solo adults with children under 18 and neither of us are bubbled with anybody else but it means at one of our houses which I think moves things on too soon, not just from a sex point of view but I'd rather be getting dressed up to go out etc.
Due to childcare we can't see each other until next week anyway so will see if it actually happens.
Would be nice if it does but I know how these things can go!

@Angelofdeath still nothing from him, I thought the least I deserved was a cancellation but he obviously couldn't give me the decency of that. I feel like an idiot now, I even told him how I was stood up last year and ghosted and he seemed sympathetic but here he is doing the same thing. I got it so wrong again. Now the gyms are shutting tonight I don't even have that (and my hot gym instructor to flirt with). I just feel like shit now and am trying my hardest not to cry and turn into a sniveling mess.