AHEM, [BLUSH] RECEIVING ORAL SEX..... AM I A TOTAL FREAK?

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Right, dh and i have always had a good sex life. I love giving him blow jobs and indulging in a little mutual masturbation.
However, I really don't like receiving oral sex. it makes me uncomfortable and self conscious. I dont like losing control (although I do orgasm through masturbation and "normal" sex) when I'm drunk and we try it, i enjoy it, but can't relax when sober.

Am I a freak? There has to be someone else out there who feels like this.

Am a regular mner BTW, but namechanged

I tend to feel the same, but I think it's cos my nerve wiring is a bit wonky. So while I'm happy to be uninhibited, there has to be something worth getting uninhibited over, IYSWIM

It's a bit like: oral sex? Well, it's OK, but I couldn't eat a whole one.

I might enjoy it more if my DH was any good at it.

Yeah - it does seem to be one of these things that men like to do more than women like to recieve.

As for us guys - well, we like to recieve anything thats going.

At all.

Even an accidental stroke.

Lovely.

tbh, i cant even let him have a go, then irt ruins the rest of the session (so glad im not a weirdo!)

LOL.

And it's always the men who are most incompetent or whose OH's are most indifferent who want to try it, isn't it?

celery..does your dh know your chat name?

pmsl at EricL's begging

Actually Eric, that's almost the nicest thing about it. DH is so happy that he's making me happy that I get all loved up. So actually we do it quite a lot..more for the emotional value than physical pleasure.

ericl
that is so not true

"it does seem to be one of these things that men like to do more than women like to recieve"

Really?

lol

dh IS good at it, but i just cant relax enough so it ruins the mood for both of us, then he gets all insecure and i feel like shit, because its NOT him, it really IS me!

I wouldn't say you were a freak. I'd say I was more of a freak because that's the only way Dp can get me to come. Penetrative sex does very little for me (and it's not just Dp, it's been the same with every partner I've had) Everyone's different, I don't think there's a right or wrong way to feel tbh.

its just that everyone in rl seems to make a big hoo ha about it, and i was worried that i was being a bit rubbish

Not being able to orgasm from penetrative intercourse is not unusual at all - in fact the opposite! Most women require more direct clitoral stimulation.

I'm sorry (but not surprised) to hear that some women have a hard time receiving oral sex. Do you feel self-conscious? Or perhaps uncomfortable (selfish?) relaxing and letting someone else give you pleasure? Are you nervous about how your genitals might look or smell or taste? What's going on?

not bothered for it either

glad am not freak

I agree that it is not something that I enjoy.

NQC - I think you have hit the nail on the head there, I do feel self-conscious and quite selfish. But it has never bothered me so it's not an obstacle I have ever felt the need to 'get over'.

I just think "I could be having sex now"

But you are having sex if you're having oral sex.

It's certainly not a sexual requirement, but it's always nice to have more sexual activities that work for you and your partner.

And let's face it, we're all going to end up old and wrinkly, and less erection-focussed activities are going to be pretty damn useful, at some point ...

No, you're not a freak. It can be overrated IMO.

I love it but the fact that my DH is so bloody good at it has a lot to do with it. Whatever floats your boat...

TMI

(I am bored)

I certainly feel differently about it since having given birth

not surprising really, a lot went on up there

It does nothing for me at all but then i have never climaxed with a partner & i can only do it if im on my own in the house how weird is that!