DP cross there's no food

[droopyears]

My DP of 4 years has just had a go at me because there is no food in the house. He doesn't actually live with me.
He knows I do my food shopping on a Wednesday so am usually pretty low on a Tuesday.
He seemed really cross that there wasn't a huge menu of snacks available
I just wanted to vent really

Definately get your locks changed today. I wouldn't put it past him to settle onto your sofa while using your electric for his console and clearing your cupboards while you take your DC out for dinner.

He is a grade A cocklodger and he has his feet well and truly under your table. I can't believe you continually allow him to be vile to your children in their own home though. How many more times will it take before you tell him to do one for good?

Talking is not going to be enough. He will not change. You should take actual action before more damage is done to your DC.

I know I may be preaching to the converted now (I hope), but I just wanted to say that although it will be hard for your DC at first, it's better to break that attachment now when you know that long-term the relationship will be far more damaging.
Good luck, OP.

Well done OP! You've dodged a bullet there. He clearly sees himself as another one of your children rather than your partner. Would you really want a future with a man-child who plays video games anyway?? There are enough posts on here to show you how that ends.

You were fair and you gave him a chance but he blew it - and some. Your DCs are lucky that they won't learn the terrible way that man treats women - you and his own mother. He's a user, ergo selfish and egotistical. Get rid ASAP. He'll never change!

what a selfish arse! He wants to play HIS game and have HIS dinner cooked and he doesn't want to help or make any effort whatsoever. Yes, your eldest sees him.

Your dc are boys aren’t they?

You want them learning how to have relationships from your (hopefully STBX) “D”P?

End it and have a good chat with them about how people treat each other

I’ve done this myself and it’s v important because boys learn a lot from men- no matter what we tell them.

The only reason your DC 'adore' this man is because he behaves like one of the DC. Hangs out with them and plays games console and they all sit there waiting for mum to cook there dinner and get treats in.

I think it's important to tell your children why it wasn't working out, he should've been setting them a good 'father' example. They need to know the difference.

X isn't my boyfriend anymore, I've not been happy for a while about him coming over each night. He ate our food and didn't bring any shopping or give me any food. I work hard to make sure we have enough money for us, but when I asked him about contributing he became mean. That's not the kind of person I want in our lives. So it'll be just us three for a while.

@Droopyears - you need to start a new thread soon.

You have done amazingly well - recognising what he is - it must be really hard having your eyes opened so quickly.

Two things - 1) change your locks ASAP - it is really easy.
2) Tell your children WHY you split up with him - that he didn't treat THEM or YOU properly. Your children will see you standing up for them and for yourself. It will be empowering for you all.

Oof just read your updates OP. What a man baby. And that’s a insult to babies!

His behaviour is so deeply grim and unattractive. Your youngest will be fine with your support.

Sad that you eldest had to see an adult act in that way! But sounds like maybe it was needed to tip you over the edge.

Change your locks! Wishing you the best OP, tho be careful, I’m sure he will be over to you soon expecting to be fed!

You are going to SO enjoy cooking the food and doing the things you three like.

Oh, he thinks you're his mum. Return him to his rightful owner and treat yourself to a take away for one this evening.

What an awful example of an excuse of a man.

Bizarrely, I noticed earlier that all the tokens have been removed from the milk and yoghurts in my fridge. I know he was collecting them, but so was I...

@droopyears

Bizarrely, I noticed earlier that all the tokens have been removed from the milk and yoghurts in my fridge. I know he was collecting them, but so was I...

Wow, that’s got to be a new low!

That is unbelievably petty yet entitled. Remind yourself in moments of doubt OP that he took your milk tokens. (Echoes of Maggie Thatcher, milk snatcher, for those of a certain age)

God he gets worse. He truly had his feet well and truly under your table, contributed little, feels able to swan around helping himself to your food and snacks with zero shame and steals your tokens too.... I do hope your taking time to reflect on the past 4 yrs....

I know it's hardly the point, but what are milk/yoghurt tokens?

@excelledyourself

I know it's hardly the point, but what are milk/yoghurt tokens?

Yep Valley 'Yeokens' I guess?

oh my god, I didnt think he could go lower.
That is really unbelievable

Text him and ask for them back - just very matter of fact,

e.g. "DP, did you take my tokens from the milk/yoghurt? I'm collecting them, so please bring them back when you're next over. Thanks"

And you need to start a new thread, OP! :)

@LannieDuck

Text him and ask for them back - just very matter of fact,

e.g. "DP, did you take my tokens from the milk/yoghurt? I'm collecting them, so please bring them back when you're next over. Thanks"

And you need to start a new thread, OP! :)

Don't invite him back!!!

I also want to know what the tokens are for!! Either way, a new low for Spongeblob.

So he's a thief as well. Jesus H Christ.🙄

You paid for the milk. He stole them.
He thinks its ok to steal them from you.

Locks changed now.