DP cross there's no food

[droopyears]

My DP of 4 years has just had a go at me because there is no food in the house. He doesn't actually live with me.
He knows I do my food shopping on a Wednesday so am usually pretty low on a Tuesday.
He seemed really cross that there wasn't a huge menu of snacks available
I just wanted to vent really

I’m not quite ready to LTB

Blimey. What would he have to do to make you ready to leave?

Did he go home to mummy?

@OnCandyStripeLegs

So he came round to yours to play his game when you cooked his dinner? And then when you asked him to play nicely and share he had a tantrum and went home.

Please do read this back OP - it's exactly what has happened. He's that selfish and immature.

Although he can be a bit stroppy or moody, he wouldn’t normally flounce out the house in a tantrum. I won’t be texting him, I’m horrified that he has behaved this way, and in front of my eldest too

So that’s both your boys he’s treated like shit in the space of a week.

I do wonder what it will take to make you want to leave him. Genuinely.

Before people start shouting, I said I wasn't ready to LTB before tonight happened

Territorial. We said it before. This was another example of marking territory. If he had really learned his lesson he would have turned up with the ingredients for your dinner and have set you up playing with DC while he cooked your dinner. But noooo. He comes in and plonks himself down on your sofa, ignoring you, ignoring your DC, then gets pissed off that you don't live by "My house, boyfriend's rules."

He is ramping up punishment when you don't recognise that he owns your house. Stand
back and look: entitlement, territorial marking and attempts to make you subservient.

Take it he didn’t bring any groceries along with that console?

I'm so glad you've decided to end things. What a relief it will be to have this dickhead out of your hair and out of your cupboards! You need to make sure you get your key back too, as last time you asked him not to come over he let himself in while you were out which was creepy as fuck.

There was clearly a transaction going on here that you feed him and let him stay overnight nearly every night and he will be nice to your children. You put your foot down last week and now he feels no need to be nice to your children.

Unfortunately you were not in on this deal and thought he was just a nice bloke who was nice to your children!

He isn't. He wanted to take the piss out of you and he has now seen that might not continue. He can't be bothered to make an effort now and you are seeing his true self.

I’m not quite ready to LTB

Before people start shouting, I said I wasn't ready to LTB before tonight happened

Hallelujah 🎉

your Son deserves tenfold better as do you 🌺

He's really showing you who he is. No acknowledgement that he was in the wrong and stropping off when you (indirectly and politely) tell him he's behaving like a child.

I hope you're seeing him for who he is now.

He was there to get fed, play his game, maybe get laid. What an absolute tosser.

Is that the kind of guy you want your DC being attached to?

Did you even discuss last weeks events before you proceeded to the kitchen to make his dinner, yet again? And while you do that, he's not even bloody bright enough to think he should be decent to your kid. Again.

Ah OP, sorry I cross posted. Sounds like your blinkers are off, and you’re realising how much more you and DC deserve than to be treated this way.

Well he's making it very easy now isn't he?

What did he come around for? Dinner and hopefully a shag??

Wasn't to spend time with you and he refused to be kind to your DC

@droopyears oh wait so have you dumped him? That’s great!

*because in fairness you did say you’re not quite ready to LTB, not that you weren’t.

That’s why people got confused I’d imagine.

And yes, you said you weren't ready and you haven't actually told him to F off yet. You just said you haven't heard from him since.

Not trying to force you into it, but that is why people posted as they have

What a selfish pig he is and how little does he thing of you and your kids. If he wanted to play his game alone, he could have stayed at his own house. He must think he is some sort of mini god when he comes to your house that he thinks he will he waited on hand and foot and he can treat your boys badly.

Agree with a previous poster, you are seeing his true colours now.

Sorry if I didn't word my post that well - I meant I decided over the weekend that I wasn't ready to LTB just yet and was going to put some boundaries in. Then tonight happened. I won't be contacting him and will spend the next few days working out what to do with his belongings etc

Christ i would not have been joking if someone had been so mean to my child in my child’s own home.

Thank god youve now reached the point to end this.

Good!

Box them up and dump them at his door. Zero communication required.

Well done @droopyears. Seriously! I know it’s not easy. But it really is for the best.

He is now showing even more clearly that he doesn't care.

He's trying to manipulate you, and/or planning to dump you.

Get in there first and dump him, you'll feel better for taking your power back. xxx

What a selfish prick, and what a mean thing to do to a child. He is a complete self absorbed arse. Yes start boxing up his stuff!

Good on you OP. He is not worth you or your kids time x

How much stuff is there? A couple of boxes?

And please be completely honest with your boys. They'll bounce back if you're truthful.

And then stick to your decision so your sons see that no-one messes with their mum, and no man benefits from such crappy behaviour.

Best of luck, and sorry about the awful boyfriend We've (mostly) all had them at some point. The key thing is to learn from it, I think.