Worried about my sons dating life due to his size

[ComputerDad]

Hello Everyone,

This may be an odd question, however I worry a lot about my son ( Dont all parents!? ) and I just want him to be happy.

My son is a small young man, hes just under 5'7" tall and weighs about 61 Kg. He is 17 years old and not likely to grow any taller or according to the doc.

This normally wouldn't concern me, however I have seen posts on Mumset about short men, and my Wife mentions to me often that she loves how tall I am ( I am 6'2" ), and never liked men unless they were over a head taller than she was.

I worry that he will struggle in life due to his height, and have trouble finding women that like him.

He is a handsome young man, with thick dark hair and thick dark facial hair, with Italian features from his mothers side of the family. Even still, I am worried, by the way I have heard woman talk about smaller men.

I have no experience with this, as I have always been large, and never had to think about my size when trying to date woman.

Am I being irrational? Is this something that I should even be concerned about? Is there anything I can tell him or advise him when it comes to woman and his size?

Id appreciate any input you can provide.

My husband is tall but I've always preferred and dated short guys. I'm only 5'3 so it hardly matters.

Short men tend to have nicer personalities and are normally extremely funny.

My two brothers aren't tall and both have extremely gorgeous (and rich and successful) girlfriends.

I actually have a real soft spot for men of this sort of height and size- I've dated quite a few and my DH definitely falls into this category. I adore their fine features, their gorgeous cheekbones, their beautiful slender wrists, the way they look great in clothes, the lack of beer belly! I could go on but you get the idea! If he's a decent and kind guy he will have no problem, us women can be wonderfully diverse in our tastes!

I'm a 5'9 former catwalk model. My DH is 5'7.

An athletic build is far more important than height imo.
Small women seem to appreciate taller men so your son may end up with a six foot amazon and his sons towering over him. My fifteen year old is already 5'11

*My mother always said that women want the sixes:

6ft tall
6 figure salary
6 inch penis*

Six inches? Christ, is that all?!?

That’s pretty much the average, @ChelseeDagger

www.nhs.uk/live-well/sexual-health/penis-size/

My sexiest ex is 5ft8, he should be fine. Also note that he may continue to grow until 21, is his diet and health generally good?

That’s pretty much the average,@ChelseeDagger

I know but it doesnt much equate with the above average height and salary, does it?

I'm 5ft 9 but have dated a few women 5ft 10 & taller. Its all about his confidence in himself not your insecurity about his size.
As long as he feels happy in who he is who gives a shit! Don't pander to society and some of the shallow superficial views you may read on hear. Make him feel loved and valued for all of his 5ft 7 and instill the core values that will carry him confidently through life. Being his size will not stop him succeeding in life, however creating an issue most certainly will.

My ex is about 5'7. The reasons I fell in love with him were absolutely nothing to do with height. The reasons we split up were absolutely nothing to do with his height

My dad is shorter than your son 5'5 and my mum is 5'7. She's now heavier than him too but still worships the ground he walks on.

An old boyfriend was 5'6 (I'm 5'5) and he was bloody gorgeous, popular and never short of offers.

In my experience shorter men can be note stylish and wittier as they feel they probably have to try harder. Height has never really bothered me too much. I'd date a 5'7 guy, no question.

Statistically being tall definitely benefits men in terms of career, love life, etc, but then it's not really a consignment to the scrap heap. Remember, statistically simply being a man is a massive benefit for career, not to mention being white, being straight, coming from a middle class background, being young, being able bodied, being attractive etc etc. If you don't tick any of those boxes then you're basically going to be fighting an uphill battle your whole life, but with only one or two you should get by, with understanding.
Not wishing to dismiss your totally valid feelings but there are so many ways the world discriminates, actually being short is probably one of the less concerning things that nature may bring someone.
Obviously me saying other people have it worse is not helpful in itself, but i hope you can see that so many people have good lives despite setbacks.
Good luck!

5:7 is only a smidge shorter then average

I have never dated a man over 6ft, I find it vaguely irritating to have to look up all the while just to have a conversation.

Statistically being tall definitely benefits men in terms of career, love life, etc,

I keep hearing that but then see how tall many Hollywood stars and famous musicians are - so many are well below average height.

I carried on growing until I was 21

Honestly I can't believe you're even giving this head space. Completely irrational. My husband is 5ft6. I'm quarter of an inch taller than him. I don't actually consider him to be short.

At 17 my son was a similar size as yours . He looked about 12 and every time he went out in my car he was stopped by the police cos they thought he was too young to drive .
Fast forward 29 years and he is 6 feet 1 inch tall and weighs 16 stone . I wouldn't worry about things that you cannot change . What will be will be .

I’m 5’6” and unfortunately people can be rude about shorter men. I’ve been laughed at by men and women. Short jokes seem to be acceptable, and back when I was dating some women were rude about it. I’ve been told “oh I won’t date a short arse” and “short men don’t look like real men”

I’ve been told at work that short men don’t have gravitas and find it harder to get promoted. I’ve done ok but I do think there’s some truth in that in some businesses.

I’m me. I’m happy with me. But being shorter is definitely seen as less desirable by society in general

I was two inches taller than my first husband when we got married, couple that with heels and a foofy veil it looked a lot more! We split due to amicable differences, nothing to do with his height, and that after 3 kids.

Not everyone is as shallow as your wife.

I should add, he was 5/4

My partner is tall 6ft 2 and although I love him I’ve always preferred shorter men. Height has never bothered me, I’ve always found that it’s the guys who are shorter tend to have to problem with their hight rather than me.

Your son sounds like a handsome chap so I’m sure he will do fine in the dating world. Lots of beautiful shorter women out there :)

5ft 7 isn't that short for a man as far as I'm concerned

I have two male cousins who are shorter than me, and I’m 5’6 at a stretch. They both have lovely long term girlfriends who they live with. My uncles and grandfather are all short (under 5’7) too - no issues for any of them!

When my son was 17 he was about 5’9,he’s now 19 and 6’3. There’s every chance he will grow more .
I’m 5’9, many guys I’ve dated in the past have been shorter . My DH is a bit shorter than me . It’s never been a problem .
If he’s a nice guy who treats people with kindness and respect he will be just fine , guarantee it .
Any woman who doesn’t want to date anyone purely because they’re not tall enough , really is no loss anyway .

He'll be fine.
1st DH RIP was a short southern Italian man.