Worried about my sons dating life due to his size

[ComputerDad]

Hello Everyone,

This may be an odd question, however I worry a lot about my son ( Dont all parents!? ) and I just want him to be happy.

My son is a small young man, hes just under 5'7" tall and weighs about 61 Kg. He is 17 years old and not likely to grow any taller or according to the doc.

This normally wouldn't concern me, however I have seen posts on Mumset about short men, and my Wife mentions to me often that she loves how tall I am ( I am 6'2" ), and never liked men unless they were over a head taller than she was.

I worry that he will struggle in life due to his height, and have trouble finding women that like him.

He is a handsome young man, with thick dark hair and thick dark facial hair, with Italian features from his mothers side of the family. Even still, I am worried, by the way I have heard woman talk about smaller men.

I have no experience with this, as I have always been large, and never had to think about my size when trying to date woman.

Am I being irrational? Is this something that I should even be concerned about? Is there anything I can tell him or advise him when it comes to woman and his size?

Id appreciate any input you can provide.

One of my son's close friends is about the same height and he has no problems getting girlfriends. Like your son, this lad is good looking. He's also good with people.

I really wouldn't worry about it. Plus it's not as if you can change his height - so don't give it a second thought.

Teach him to be a kind and respectful person. Help him develop a good self esteem.
I know many short'er' men, most are lovely. One particular one I know has a constant need to prove how good/macho/strong/muscled/attractive he is.

Honestly, I do like taller men, but if a guy is interesting and sexy, it's totally irrelevant. I've dated two men shorter than me and I'm 5 foot 2 inches. They were fun and we had a good time. Charisma counts for more than height.

Hehe I´m 5.8 and a girl. Funnily enough I always said this crap about height when I was younger, but in my thirties I met my husband who is 5.7 max and liked him and his personality. My best friend is my height and has turned down nice guys waiting for this hypothetical tall guy. >It never happened and she is single.

@SodaPerson

You'll find that height becomes less relevant if he has a successful or well paid career.

Hahaha true

If he is kind, smart and funny with dark Italian looks, he will probably have to fight girls off with a big stick. His height is just superficial nonsense.

In the meantime,I can’t believe that no one has mentioned Prince! 5’3” and one of the hottest guys to strut across the planet.

I have actually been put off dating a few short men, not because of their height but because of the horrible complex they had as a result of being a little shorter than average.

Make sure your son is confident but not arrogant and has a healthy view of women. This will be much more advantageous to him when dating!

@Ratonastick

If he is kind, smart and funny with dark Italian looks, he will probably have to fight girls off with a big stick. His height is just superficial nonsense.

In the meantime,I can’t believe that no one has mentioned Prince! 5’3” and one of the hottest guys to strut across the planet.

An enthusiastic YES to all of the above!

Is there anything I can tell him or advise him when it comes to woman and his size?

I’m 5’ 11”. The advice I’d like your son (and young men like him) to have is to not neg taller women. I’ve had so many shorter men comment negatively on my height. I’ve never had a tall man do it.
I genuinely think some do it to compensate for their personal issues with their height.

Also, tell him not to fetishise tall women. Have definitely encountered a few of those over the years

You could worry about it for the rest of your life but it isn’t going to make your son any taller.

My ex was 5ft1 and managed not only to get numerous girlfriends but to cheat on each of them with half the other women in the town. A lot of factors go into making a man desirable. Height is just one of those, and not for everyone.

My dd is 5'4 and hates heels - she finds tall men intimidating. There's someone out there for him I promise

I've also dated men over 6ft (I'm 5,1 myself) and it just never worked for me sexually. Most positions were just awkward, kissing was hard, it was all just wrong haha. Current dp is 5,10 and that's much better.

My dad was only 5ft 6 as is my husband as am I . One son is 6ft but the other is 5ft6 and is absolutely gorgeous ( Italian family) he has had girls queuing around the block since he was 12 . 20 years on he is as popular as he ever was and has so many gfs I lose track of them . He has a great job and his friends range from 6 footers to his own height . Your boy will be fine just fine

Always had tall Bfs and was married for donkeys years to a tall guy . My first lover after divorce and my current H are not as tall . I much prefer it - much more aligned

Your wife loves that you are so tall because she loves you and you are tall.
Other women love the height of the men they love. Your son will be just fine.

My brother is the same height as that but he does completely fine. He also interestingly tells me its a british woman thing to be concerned with height, others just dont really think about it (i couldnt tell you, im not into men)

There are women who think this way because they are living in the past and think men need to be taller, better educated and earn more.

Decent women of course don’t care.

Honestly it will weed out some idiots.

Tom Cruise is 5'7" and I think he's done alright.

@trixiebelden77

There are women who think this way because they are living in the past and think men need to be taller, better educated and earn more.

Decent women of course don’t care.

Honestly it will weed out some idiots.

Yeah, no.

Sexual preference isn't indecent. Or do you think women owe it to men to find them attractive? Because we don't.

His height is still taller than the average girl, so I wouldn't worry. I'm 5'4".
My cousin married a taller woman! Not all women go for taller than themselves.

My husband is short. My eldest son towers above the both of us and my youngest son will likely be short.

It's strange over the years many female friends and colleagues have been quite openly dismissive of dating men below 5.10 saying they all have small man syndrome. Yet if men were chatting loudly in a bar that they couldn't envisage dating a woman over size 12 they would be considered misogynistic arseholes.

There was a related 'Dear John' post as part of Dolly Alderton's column in Style (The Sunday Times) a Sunday or so ago. Worth a read, OP. Only the guy was considerably shorter than your DS.