Feel like husband doesnt care. 2.

[Chickencuddle]

Continuing from other thread.

I have recieved an email from womens aid lady. She said she thinks it's definitely abuse. She will ring me later to arrange a meet up to discuss options. I've told her I want to leave. She said she will help me.

I had a dread yesterday that you wouldn't leave. I am so proud of you.

Tears of relief and happiness here

You are amazing
If things are hard now
It is only short term

You have done SO WELL
Please keep posting

Be gentle on yourself
Block all contact with him
If you need maybe the support workers can be the go between please check with them
He may try to get you back - IGNORE
You had to go im so sorry this happened to you all xxxxx

Incredible news! Well done lovely.

You are AMAZING Chicken, you're safe! I'm so relieved for you all. What a journey, you've come so far. We're all here for you x

Well done, that took courage but you did it! I hope you and your children can now start to have the life you deserve.

Delurking to say you're the bravest person I know..
You've taken steps today that will transform your life and the lives of your children for the better.

You are an awesome mum.

Another delurker here. I'm so pleased you found the strength to leave. Stay strong, you've made the best decision for your children.

Another one de lurking here too. What an utterly brave lady you are.

Well done you, you incredibly brave and selfless lady. You've done this for a better life for you and your children.

I have to admit when you were wavering that I thought you wouldn't go through with it so I apologise for underestimating how strong you are!

Take it one baby step at a time.

amazing, I know u won't feel it now but u did the right thing.

Bloody well done! Don’t doubt yourself, or the professionals who are supporting you.
You are on the way to becoming FABULOUS again ❤️

Well done you! I was so scared you wouldn't go. Take time to be kind to yourself. You have taken the first big step in protecting your family

I'm so glad you did this Chicken, so, so glad. I really thought you had lost the will to leave and I raced through the last pages desperate to see that I was wrong! Please think about that, I'm a stranger who knows only what you've told us and I was DESPERATE to see that you'd left. I know this is going to be very hard but you have absolutely done the right thing for you and your DC. You have the power now to break the terrible chain of abuse, your DD doesn't have to model your relationship and marry someone who will treat her like scum, like a non person. I'm sure everyone who's read all your posts will join me in saying that you have done a brave and wonderful thing for your DC. I wish you all the luck in the world, you deserve it

You've done it. Wow. Complete respect chicken. You've done the right thing. Don't ever doubt yourself. You can sleep easy tonight, just you and your kids, without that complete cunt groping you like you're an object. You're a free woman now and your children will have so much to look up to. Your daughter is finally free to be herself. Well done xxx

Well done

Don’t forget to block his number love. I’m really hoping you’re okay?

I’m so proud of you for leaving, I know it’s not easy but you’ve absolutely done the right thing. You can have a great and happy future with your children.

Huge respect OP, have been following your thread. You have done an amazing thing. You can’t see all the abuse yet but you will when you look back on it, and you will see that you have absolutely made the right choice, not just for you but for your lovely kids as well.

Massive well done.

Oh wow - well well done - Chicken lady you need to change your username to lioness or something like scarlet Ohara as in gone with the wind woohoo! Is find my phone/ location switched off? You probably won’t feel strong enough to delete him yet but don’t get dragged into texts or conversations- when he wants to know where you are say youve left, the kids are safe and you’ll be in touch. You may even want to tell the police you are safe incase he tries a mass where’s chicken gone to flush you out. Don’t trust anyone who has joint connections with you as he’ll be furious and go a long way to find you - not sadly because he loves you but because he can’t control you now. Enjoy the best sleep ever- well done you have done the most wonderful and important thing for all of you

How are you this morning @Chickencuddle you're so very brave xxxx

Not good. Feel like I've made a terrible mistake. Jyst feel like crying but need to put on a happy face for kids. Confused and upset. Tired.

That is entirely normal OP and to be expected

How are the children? The isolation time will be hard so just rest and let them and you have the emotions you need

@Chickencuddle please have a read through your posts on here to see that you've in fact made the best decision for you and your kids by getting them away.

You have been so brave and you must be feeling so tired. 1 more day in isolation until you can have access to the people who will help you see how wonderful your life and your kids lives will be going forward.

You are so brave. You are a wonderful mother. Don't forget that.

Remember small steps OP, Maybe have a wash if you’re able to and have a little cry away from the kids, you probably have so many emotions stored up you need a good cry to let some of them out. (I find a good cry in the shower helps sometimes!) Not long until the isolation ends and you will be able to get support from the refuge team.

You'll be ok Chicken. It's so crap you have to isolate on arrival, but you'll get through it. You haven't made a mistake, you've done the best thing you could for your kids.
Have you had any contact with him? What have the refuge said, are you allowed to or must you go NC?