Feel like husband doesnt care. 2.

[Chickencuddle]

Continuing from other thread.

I have recieved an email from womens aid lady. She said she thinks it's definitely abuse. She will ring me later to arrange a meet up to discuss options. I've told her I want to leave. She said she will help me.

You can do this chicken. They won't hate you, they'll love you, you're their wonderful constant, their mama bear: you're taking them and yourself to safety and you're amazing x

I'm at the refuge now. Will update later when kids asleep.

Oh missus

I am so very proud of you.

You are a lion

@Chickencuddle

I'm at the refuge now. Will update later when kids asleep.

Huge well done! Hope you're ok.

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What a brave, amazing and beautiful women and mother you are.

So very proud.

Please come and talk to your army here anytime you need to, we are all here for you.

Sending love and strength to you and your babies.

Oh well done, you brave, brave woman!
You and your children will eventually be so much happier, away from his toxic influence,( even if it's strange at first.)I

Take advantage of every single bit of help and advice and counselling they offer you.
You are such a good Mother to your children, you put their well-being first. Brava, and more

Well done. Bloody well done.

Yay well done! Please never go back. It might be hard sometimes at first, but stay away from him and you will all find happiness and peace. Have as little contact with him as possible. xxx

I'm in my room now for 48 hours can only come out for toilet. Dont know what to tell kids when they ask questions. I dont think theres any support until I'm allowed out. They were all very lovely on arrival and I know it's just the way things are but I just feel so sad and worried

You've done it! Bloody well done. It might feel dark now, but hold your nerve. The kids will be ok, they have you, they have each other that IS enough. I read on a thread earlier about the perceptions of children and how they differ from ours as adults. The children want your attention and love, and THAT is what they will remember. You've done the right thing, you're doing the right thing.

Chicken, don't feel sad and worried - you have done an amazingly difficult and marvellous thing. You have removed your kids from a place where you could not keep them safe and taken them to a place of safety. Ask the ladies advice on having no contact as he will be onto you soon enough, you need to stay strong. We are all with you xx

Well done @Chickencuddle hope you’re okay. Remember you’re safe there and the team at the refuge will take care of you

Well done, so so pleased for you all. 💐💐

Oh well done OP.
So brave.
Your children will thank you.
This is the beginning of a much better life for you all.

Keep posting your thoughts.
Don't worry if your head is all over the place.
Just keep in touch.

Bloody well done @Chickencuddle!!

Initially I thought the 48 hour thing sounded very hard, but it might be more of a blessing than a curse.

You are in a safe bubble with your precious wee babies. The outside world can't touch you. You are safe. For 48 hours you only have to deal with what you want to deal with. Do you have a TV, a bathroom in your room? Watch films, put the kids in a big long bath, just spend the next 48 hours loving each other as hard as you can, and learning to inhabit the space around you without the fear of what he will do or say or how he will react. That will be a long process I think.

You are strong. You are safe.

Well done

You are incredible

Well done x

Well done!!

That's very brave - you've done absolutely the right thing

Just take things hour by hour for now

That’s just brought me to tears, you are amazing, so brave. It’s going to be hard of course, but you have made the right decision.
I can’t remember which thread, (I think this one) a PP gave some lines/advice as to what to say to the kids.

Just promise icecream/toys/similar after the 48hrs. Give them something to look forward to. Maybe mention the other kids there and how they can play with them afterwards, any facilities/toys etc.

- you deserve about 10 bunches of these.

OP I am crying tears of joy and relief for you. Although it won’t feel like it right now, you have done something extraordinarily brave and have shown just how much you love your kids. You will be sad and worried at first, but that’s natural and normal - it’s a big change and if you’re a worrier you’ll be thinking about all the “what ifs”. The kids might not be overjoyed at first either, BUT you know what? A short time of difficulty is worth it for a lifetime of freedom: for your eldest DD to become a strong woman with opinions, like her mum; for your DS to be himself and not be terrified of getting wet on a beach; for your youngest to keep BFing as long as you both need and want to. And - just as importantly - for you to be able to wear, eat, sleep, and parent how you want to. You deserve the world and it’s in your grasp now. Hold on to that during the tough times and moments of doubt

Oh my goodness, well done!!

Of course you feel sad and worried, but each day will get a little easier. Don’t worry too much about details for the children yet, the workers can help you with that when you are out of isolation and feeling stronger. Just treat it as a little adventure for now, there is so much time ahead of you for all of that.

Don’t overthink for the next 48 hours. No future planning just yet. Just concentrate on the children, again, just baby steps day by day.

As someone said above, keep sharing your thoughts on here. It may feel lonely for a couple of days but that is the covid situation unfortunately, don’t let it get you down.

You’ve done it, you’ve done the hardest thing imaginable and you are over that hurdle. I could not be prouder of you if I knew you in real life x

Bloody well done Chicken. You've done it, you've left your abuser during a pandemic with no family or friends to help you. I am in absolute awe of you, you are such a strong person. Your kids will remember how you put them first forever.
What have you got in your room, is there a TV? What have they said about contacting him, I assume they've told you to block his number & no contact?

Oh chicken! Im so so proud of you. You should be very proud of yourself right now, i really dont think you know just how strong and amazing you are. Well done, heres to your new life xx