Does you husband w*nk?

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I have been married for 11 years. My husband recently announced that he has frequently masturbated (every 2-3 weeks) throughout our entire marriage. We have a good sex life, currently making love 8-11 times a week. I found it insulting that he told me he had a wnk this morning, even though we made love last night.
We are fairly adventurous in the bedroom and make plenty of time for using toys etc. He has discussed this with his friends who all tell him he is perfectly normal & they do exactly the same within their marriages. One even admits to wnking every day, despite having sex 4-5 times a week. Comments please.... :)

8-11 times per week?

Maybe he occasionally needs a 12th time and that's why he has been wanking.

What happens if you hit 11 shags by thursday? Do you have to wait until monday again?

I’m sorry but I can’t get past the 8-11 times a week? Is there a method to your calculations like once a day but twice on Sunday’s or twice a week Monday-Friday and once over the weekend?

I would have thought that men wink more times a week than have sex?

I can wink with one eye , I tried again the other day to wink with the other eye , it just looked pretty stupid the faces I pulled trying to wink , however my DP can wink with both eyes
That is my comment

..we have 2 kids
Are they twins?

@QuacksInTheDark

You have sex everyday sometimes more than once? Eeee hen you’ll get a sore chuff.

Love this phrase!

Why would you care? I wank and it's none of my DP's business

They say the more you do it the more you want it

Start doing it 1-2 times a week and see if that curbs his wanks

So your husband shared details with you about his friends sex lives. Classy.

Margo34 I showed him this and he just said "yes some men lie but I don't, we have sex very often and I genuinely don't feel the need!". To be fair unless he does it in the shower which is his only chance. When he gets home we are with each other until he goes to work the next day and we are together on his days off. I'm not naive, my exes were addicted to porn etc my Fiance shows absolutely none of these signs.

It's not called 'hand relief' for nothing OP :)

You are presuming no-one on here is in a relationship with a woman?

Wanking is normal- every couple of weeks isn't much. I suppose some people just have a really high libido so they want it on top of a lot of sex, or they enjoy it.

It's not a reflection on you.

It's only a problem if it's some much that it negatively effects your sex life.

So your husband shared details with you about his friends sex lives. Classy.

@Changethetoner I think it's more that OP was saying that wanking was abnormal/wrong, so he asked his friends if it was normal.

99% of men will admit to masturbating and the remaining 1% are liars

I don't get this thread.
Apart from it being childish, the OP seems to think it's a bad thing that her partner masturbates? Like he's cheating or something.
Don't you masturbate together in your sex life?

@fantasmasgoria1

Margo34 I showed him this and he just said "yes some men lie but I don't, we have sex very often and I genuinely don't feel the need!". To be fair unless he does it in the shower which is his only chance. When he gets home we are with each other until he goes to work the next day and we are together on his days off. I'm not naive, my exes were addicted to porn etc my Fiance shows absolutely none of these signs.

But so what if he does?

To be fair unless he does it in the shower which is his only chance. When he gets home we are with each other until he goes to work the next day and we are together on his days off

He could easily do it at work. I know at least one man who wanks in the toilet at work.

Dunno if he does but I do

I have no idea and no intention of asking.
He's entitled to privacy.

I'm sure he does but so do I ... I think it's natural and also you know exactly what you're after at that given time and exactly what thoughts and feeling you need

Oh. We’re not talking about winking I see.

Is your DH 18 OP? 8-11 shags a weeks PLUS wanks? That’s quite an outstanding performance from him.

I should hope so....he's only human!

@FinnGermey

99% of men will admit to masturbating and the remaining 1% are liars

I really don't like this kind of statement. Unless you're talking about the MRS GREN functions of all living things (movement, respiration etc. and even these don't all apply to all men- for instance not all men reproduce) you can't say, 'all men' do anything. It's sexist and reductive.

@FourPlasticRings Yep, agreeing with this. Not all women cook / clean / wear pretty dresses (or any other stereotype) and not all men wank or watch porn.

@EatDessertFirst

8-11 times a week? Not many people have time for that AND wanking! Does he suffer with friction burns??

2/10

Me and my partner have sex this much, easily! And he wanks.

Not sure why this is so hard to believe??

OP, it's no reflection on you if he wanks or not. Only an issue if he prioritises it over sex with you, which he obviously doesn't. No need to be so precious.