At the end of my rope with DP's disgusting habits..

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I'm not sure why I'm posting. I hope people don't think this is a joke, I feel stupid but I've reached the end of my tether with DP's farting and burping....! Ok I might occasionally burp, I cover my mouth if I do.. I don't fart to be honest! I don't know why, I probably do during the night or something but I don't register it when I do.
He literally farts most of the day. It's loud, it's annoying, obviously smells obnoxious and I can't help but find it disgusting. He does it while we are both eating and doesn't apologise. Does it in bed next to me, straight after sex 😕 before sex..!
A few weeks ago he visited the GP for something unrelated and I asked him if he was going to mention the farting, as it could be IBS. He said no and I asked why, he said he "likes farting". I can't seem to make him understand that it's driving me up the wall and I find it incredibly rude. It puts me off sex and I now find sex repulsive mainly because of the habits he has.
I'm not a prude and I can take a joke. But am I being ridiculous and unreasonable for finding this gross?? I'm looking for opinions..
Sorry this sounds ridiculous
Thanks

What do you get out of this relationship now?. Why are you and he still together at all?.

I don't get much out of it anymore to be honest.. I'm looking to leave, we don't have children and we're not married. I want to live somewhere where I don't have to deal with being revolted on a regular basis. It's not just this, it's other things but this is what makes me the most angry. He must see that I don't like it by the expression on my face but he does it anyway. I've given him an option (to speak to gp) and he dismisses it. It feels like territorial behaviour.... (it's his house and I moved in).

I shared your horror. My ex used to burp at me and then expect sex. When I turned him down he would explode. He was constantly farting too with an exaggerated lean for maximum effect.

I'm not sure what to suggest. If he likes it (and it is a bodily function) maybe he could leave the room?

Have you told him how he’s making you feel? He may not actually realise just how serious it is. My DH has ibs and he knows the foods that make him fart more so tries to avoid them for everyone’s benefit.

It sounds like you don't really want to save the relationship but if you do, other than pulling a face have you actually clearly said you hate it! When he does it when you are eating tell him you would prefer he wouldn't or would eat elsewhere. When he does it before sex tell him he has put you off. If he does it after sex tell him he has just ruined it. He has to fart but if it bothers you he should pick his moments.

I think if I asked him to leave the room he'd either get really annoyed or just refuse.. I do find it difficult to communicate with him.
If it was me, I'd definitely get it checked out. We eat the same things - except he drinks a lot of beer and I don't.
Think it comes down to the communication issue.

If he did that while i was eating, he'd get his dinner over his head. What a coarse, uncouth man. And I wouldn't leave him to read the expression on my face, I'd tell him straight out that I find him repulsive.
But he won't improve. You've no ties, pack your bags and walk out.

Gross. Has he always done it? You couldn’t have been attracted to him from the start if he has.

Tell him to find alternative living space. Yanbu to Ltb.

Blimey you’re not married and you have no children - you’re as free as a bird! If you’re thinking this is not a good enough reason to leave him, it is if this behaviour is not good enough for you.

OP,
He sounds like a disgusting juvenile pig.

Don't waste anymore time trying to change his revolting habits.

Thank goodness you can leave.

Get organised and get out.

I couldn't bear to be in the same room as someone so awful, not to mind share a home.

Stop trying to make this bettet.

He is disgusting.🤢

Move on.

He sounds disgusting.
Plan to leave.

I fart a lot but I do try and go out of the room, but I'd never do it whilst eating, that's just plain disrespectful and gross

He has no respect for you, I think he knows full well how you feel as you have expressed your disgust often enough. I'd cut my loses and start planning my exit, you clearly deserve a better class of bloke !!

He sounds completely disgusting - deliberately farting when eating, in the same room as you and before/after sex? No thanks. I think you know what you have to do OP and it'll solve a lot of your problems - not just the smelly ones!

Intimacy and disrespect are NOT the same - he will only learn if you leave.

Eeeeuwww, I went out with a guy once who, when we got back to his house, did a massive fart. He didn’t attempt to apologise and when i told him it was gross, he grinned, belched, thumped his chest and said my house my rules. I felt utter disgust. I picked up my car keys and left, blocked him everywhere. In my view when a man deliberately does this, he’s testing you to see just how low your standards are and what you will tolerate. Show him you have standards and leave. Make sure you set the bar high next time. Good luck OP

Totally disrespectful and treating you with contempt. Please raise your bar

If you find him disgusting, then just end it and move out. What's the point?

Why are you still with him??

You've got the ick and there's no coming back from that. Get the hell out of there as quickly as possible.

For gods sake leave this pig. He clearly has zero respect for you.

If you dont have children and you're not married, why on earth are you still there

Filthy pig. Just make plans to leave. If that doesn't give you the ick, I don't know what will.

agreee with the masses - move out?!
your free as a bird ! leave and start a lovely new life with a non burping and farting man