At the end of my rope with DP's disgusting habits..

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I'm not sure why I'm posting. I hope people don't think this is a joke, I feel stupid but I've reached the end of my tether with DP's farting and burping....! Ok I might occasionally burp, I cover my mouth if I do.. I don't fart to be honest! I don't know why, I probably do during the night or something but I don't register it when I do.
He literally farts most of the day. It's loud, it's annoying, obviously smells obnoxious and I can't help but find it disgusting. He does it while we are both eating and doesn't apologise. Does it in bed next to me, straight after sex 😕 before sex..!
A few weeks ago he visited the GP for something unrelated and I asked him if he was going to mention the farting, as it could be IBS. He said no and I asked why, he said he "likes farting". I can't seem to make him understand that it's driving me up the wall and I find it incredibly rude. It puts me off sex and I now find sex repulsive mainly because of the habits he has.
I'm not a prude and I can take a joke. But am I being ridiculous and unreasonable for finding this gross?? I'm looking for opinions..
Sorry this sounds ridiculous
Thanks

@ilikemethewayiam

Eeeeuwww, I went out with a guy once who, when we got back to his house, did a massive fart. He didn’t attempt to apologise and when i told him it was gross, he grinned, belched, thumped his chest and said my house my rules. I felt utter disgust. I picked up my car keys and left, blocked him everywhere. In my view when a man deliberately does this, he’s testing you to see just how low your standards are and what you will tolerate. Show him you have standards and leave. Make sure you set the bar high next time. Good luck OP

how utterly foul and well done on walking out straightaway and not waiting to see what other bad habits he had in store! A lot of women on here could take a leaf out off your book

Run for the hills OP, if he’s like this now imagine what he’d be like if you were stuck with him forever 🤮 (imagine what he’d teach any future kids was acceptable behaviour...both the farting and the ignoring your feelings..)..

Why did you move in with him? Was this going on at that time?

If you hate it then it's very rude of him. Although I certainly don't think he needs to go to the GP for farting a lot if he's not uncomfortable or in pain.

Oh I think I requested the wrong post removed there!

OP I was basically agreeing with everyone else. Why the hell are you still there?! DUMP!

You're not married, you've no kids. Leave!

It hasn't always been like this, at least not for the first couple of years.. unless I didn't notice as much. I also think he was more respectful of my feelings at the beginning and would either go to another room or at least apologise. Now he doesn't even apologise while I'm eating.
I'm scared to leave because I have no support network. I feel lonely as it is. But I'm viewing a flat next week (I'm not sure I'll actually take it, I'm just having a look) so we'll see. Its not just the habits, it's other things. Terrible sex mostly. And the fact that I don't want sex with him. I'm really craving sex with someone I fancy - I know that's awful

I need to be brave

Yup, be brave, get the hell out of there and build yourself a much much better life!

@Colourmeclear sorry but I'm literally cackling to myself about the exaggerated lean.. Yes I am 7 years old 😂😂😂😂

I'm really craving sex with someone I fancy - I know that's awful

Why in the hell is that awful? That's what most people call "normal."

Take the flat and get out of there.

He doesn't have a medical problem he has a respect problem

Get rid of the vile bell end

Also how can anyone "like" breaking wind..i do everything I can to avoid doing it and if I have to it's in private or in the bathroom.. I'd be absolutely mortified to let one out in front of anyone especially a partner!!!

what's awful about craving sex with someone you find attractive who doesn't fart all over the place? Hope the flat works out!

oh and if/ when you do leave, please make sure to tell him about the farting being a main reason. He needs to know he is grim

I would be leaving, end of story. I would also not be letting him know, I would just get my things in order, and move when he was at work

I would leave a note that simply says I have repeatedly told you I find your burping and farting disgusting, you did nothing so I have. Goodbye

Then block

Many years ago before I was married I was in a relationship with a guy who frequently sat next to me and picked his nose then ATE IT! 🤮 He’d even do it in company in the pub with our friends and I’d see them squirm. I asked him to stop a few times but he never did so when our lease was up on our rented flat I moved out and ended it. It sounds ridiculous to say I left the man I lived with because he picked his nose but the ick set in and that was that.

I had an ex who farted non stop. The whole house smelled like egg and methane. Repulsive.

Glad I dumped him. The house smells way better now!

@Sunnydaysstillhere

Tell him to find alternative living space. Yanbu to Ltb.

Given it's HIS house I don't really think that's a viable option!🙄

A couple of things.

Everyone farts, on average 15 times a day. If you think you do it less/ hold it in- it comes out when you sleep. I learned that I do this from my charming DH.

Some people think being able to fart together is a sign of intimacy and it’s a natural act etc. Miriam margolyes (sp?) in an interview said she knew she was comfortable with her partner when they could fart in front of each other. So people have different views.

I do not think farting means intimacy and I also want you to close the door when you use the loo. I grew up being told it was polite to hold it until you went to the bathroom or fart outside- not in an enclosed space with others. So I find it rude if my partner does one in my presence or near me- but I accept that he doesn’t think it is a sign of disrespect, he has just never had to think about holding it in (well I’m sure he wouldn’t let one off in a meeting so that’s not true). But at home and comfortable, I get different rules apply.

But finally- there is intimacy/ overrelaxing and forgetting boundaries and being just disgusting and mistaking your romantic partner for a teenage male friend or something - farting/ burping in an exaggerated way at you is just disgusting. I’m not surprised you’ve lost attraction for him as it’s pretty instinctive to not be attracted to something that repulses you.

If you’re fed up and it won’t change - you should walk.

@NellyJames how could you ever kiss him boak (not envy).

I honestly have to close my eyes and concentrate really hard to not heave if I see someone doing that, eg on a train. Makes me queasy just thinking.

I hope the flat is ok. It would have to be pretty bad for me to prefer to keep living with that repulsive selfish disgusting twat.

Support network? To live alone in a flat? Come on, you're an adult- you can do that without a huge fuss!

LTB!

I think you may need to consider that he actually wants you to leave. Being a coward by literally gassing you out of the place because he knows you hate it so much. Grant his wish and move asap.

@AnyFucker

He doesn't have a medical problem he has a respect problem

Get rid of the vile bell end

Does he have a vile bell end too?