At the end of my rope with DP's disgusting habits..

[ivehadenough11]

I'm not sure why I'm posting. I hope people don't think this is a joke, I feel stupid but I've reached the end of my tether with DP's farting and burping....! Ok I might occasionally burp, I cover my mouth if I do.. I don't fart to be honest! I don't know why, I probably do during the night or something but I don't register it when I do.
He literally farts most of the day. It's loud, it's annoying, obviously smells obnoxious and I can't help but find it disgusting. He does it while we are both eating and doesn't apologise. Does it in bed next to me, straight after sex 😕 before sex..!
A few weeks ago he visited the GP for something unrelated and I asked him if he was going to mention the farting, as it could be IBS. He said no and I asked why, he said he "likes farting". I can't seem to make him understand that it's driving me up the wall and I find it incredibly rude. It puts me off sex and I now find sex repulsive mainly because of the habits he has.
I'm not a prude and I can take a joke. But am I being ridiculous and unreasonable for finding this gross?? I'm looking for opinions..
Sorry this sounds ridiculous
Thanks

I'm amazed there is any sex at all!

You don't fancy him, you don't love him, you don't have children or own a house together - why wouldn't you leave? Why would you stay?

Of course you'd rather find someone you like, respect and are attracted to and who feels the same about you, to have sex with. Who wouldn't?!!

sorry but I'm literally cackling to myself about the exaggerated lean.. Yes I am 7 years old

@Puppy72 It's not original. And I imagine if someone kept doing it for months etc it would have less of an amusing impact.

My latest ex- we had a bit of a dominant and submissive thing going on, but not to a massive extent (well, not officially, but there was already a power imbalance.) At one point he suggested that he could deliberately fart while I was doing oral on him; and I agreed. It was hideous. Luckily I think it was only for that one session (though he did it several times.)

I just added that for anecdote's sake.

@ivehadenough11 Maybe my point is (as you say about him being territorial about it being his place) you're in a relationship with a power imbalance. It's like the 'Zimbardo cookie experiment'- the people with the most power felt they could take up more space, take more cookies, eat more messily etc.

You could find someone who sees you as an equal, worthy of respect.

@ivehadenough11
That's gross. My partner does similar but it makes me feel ashamed to admit it.
He even walked past me not too long ago while I was lying on the settee and farted in my face.
I couldn't believe it, he was laughing hysterically.
I told him its filthy and I got a mouth full off him about me being 'pretentious' 'stuck up' and am I so saintly and perfect that I never fart.
Well yes I do but I would never do that.
I feel like I can't even complain about it because he gets his hackles up about it and turns it onto me.
Its disgusting and yes, it puts you right off sex.

He sees himself as one of the lads, once told me a 'hilarious' story about him and his mates having fart competitions. I've even seen him wafting it towards his face while smirking and pretending to enjoy it.

I often wonder if he does it to get a reaction.

My husband once farted at the dinner table and grinned like it was something to be proud of.

Let me tell you, I made it very fucking clear that he was never to do something so disgusting again.....and he hasn't dared to try it again.

This man is beyond help. Just bin him off and enjoy your lovely life.

It won’t get better. For your own sake leave.

My 45 year old husband actually stands up to let the fart out. Thinks it’s hilarious. Wasn’t funny 14 years ago and still isn’t. If we are with people he will let out a massive burp and not even try to be discrete or apologise. He is embarrassing.

@SoulofanAggron of course. I was merely finding the way in which it was construed as amusing not the actual situation in itself. I'm sure on a daily, repetitive basis it's extremely soul destroying

Everyone has different standards clearly. Me and my partner fart and burp in front of each other, leave the bathroom door wide open, go to the toilet while the other is brushing their teeth I thought that was what most people do. Clearly not reading this, honestly would never occur to me for leaving a partner for farting or burping all the time!

My exh used to do the loudest longest farts. He thought it was funny and I thought it was rancid. I made it clear to my new dh I won't tolerate such bad manners!!

I’ve just remembered one time he pushed out a fart in bed and shat himself.

Gosh. I had no idea that farting was so disgusting to so many people.

OP, you do not have to stay in a relationship where you are unhappy, for whatever reason, and it sounds like this man does not make you happy. YANBU.

But so much pearl clutching about farting on this thread! I grew up in a windy household, it was just one of those things we all got and a fact of life like sneezing or burping. Be polite and try and control it in public and ignore it if someone else does it. But on its own, not a LTB reason.

Although, saying that, I had a boyfriend once who shouted “nurse” and laughed every time he farted (loudly). But he was a cheating wanker anyway, the farting was just a sideshow.

Mine parts his arse cheeks with his hands because he "might shit" himself if he doesn't, and he says he can't help when the need arises.

He honestly doesn't understand how disrespectful it is. Luckily no burping, but I can commiserate with the fart problems.

I think my next potential partner needs to read this thread.. I could not deal with any of this.. I really couldn't.

@Chocolate1984

Good God, how have standards sunk so low? Are younger people really so base and coarse that farting and belching in each other's faces is acceptable? Get rid and work on your self respect.

I had a phase once of passing a lot of rearward wind and it did stink then after some time it all went away, can't place it on any reason in particualr. These days eat a lot of usually healthy things veg and beans and greens and all within wind tolerances..

But matey boy here sounds a real wazzock best to LT_Belcher!

This thread is sad for what some of you have to deal with and what you put up with.

Maybe being single is alright. Like PP I couldn't deal with this, It's disgusting and disrespectful.

@ilikemethewayiam

Eeeeuwww, I went out with a guy once who, when we got back to his house, did a massive fart. He didn’t attempt to apologise and when i told him it was gross, he grinned, belched, thumped his chest and said my house my rules. I felt utter disgust. I picked up my car keys and left, blocked him everywhere. In my view when a man deliberately does this, he’s testing you to see just how low your standards are and what you will tolerate. Show him you have standards and leave. Make sure you set the bar high next time. Good luck OP

This. 1 million percent.

No it's unacceptable on every level. It will turn you into a shell of a woman if you stay. Please go

Have to say.. My parents were married 40 years and i never once heard my dad behave like this in front of my mum. OP, you sound genuinely soul destroyed by this. I don't think it's going to get any better.. If a man truly respected his partner he wouldn't do half the things we would potentially complain about.

@Colourmeclear

I shared your horror. My ex used to burp at me and then expect sex. When I turned him down he would explode. He was constantly farting too with an exaggerated lean for maximum effect.

I'm not sure what to suggest. If he likes it (and it is a bodily function) maybe he could leave the room?

I know this is a serious thread but this has really made me laugh. The ‘exaggerated lean’ haha. I keep farting too. My children don’t like it but I can’t help it. I don’t do any particular posture though.
Op it sounds disgusting and I don’t blame you for feeling repulsed. I know that sounds hypocritical but I totally understand you. No idea what you can do about it though. At least you suggested the doctor so you’ve broached the subject.

It's hardly a support network where you are, with someone who repulses you - I couldn't live with that either. Time to move OP!

I hope you are getting the message loud and clear OP, you are living with a pig. Pack up and move out. It would be very hard to find someone else as awful as this. Raise your standard and get some self respect. You know you deserve better. Just be glad you don't have children together.

Leave the guy in his sty.

Me and my partner fart and burp in front of each other, leave the bathroom door wide open, go to the toilet while the other is brushing their teeth I thought that was what most people do

Errr, no. No, it's really not.

It's not awful to crave sex with someone you fancy.

Having sex when you don't want to is beyond awful, though.

@boredboredboredboredbored

My exh used to do the loudest longest farts. He thought it was funny and I thought it was rancid. I made it clear to my new dh I won't tolerate such bad manners!!

I sometimes do some never ending farts and they are bloody rancid.

To a PP, dh and I are both fairly relaxed about flatulence and do see the funny side but not everyone does and OP doesn't have to put up with it if she doesn't want to.