At the end of my rope with DP's disgusting habits..

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I'm not sure why I'm posting. I hope people don't think this is a joke, I feel stupid but I've reached the end of my tether with DP's farting and burping....! Ok I might occasionally burp, I cover my mouth if I do.. I don't fart to be honest! I don't know why, I probably do during the night or something but I don't register it when I do.
He literally farts most of the day. It's loud, it's annoying, obviously smells obnoxious and I can't help but find it disgusting. He does it while we are both eating and doesn't apologise. Does it in bed next to me, straight after sex 😕 before sex..!
A few weeks ago he visited the GP for something unrelated and I asked him if he was going to mention the farting, as it could be IBS. He said no and I asked why, he said he "likes farting". I can't seem to make him understand that it's driving me up the wall and I find it incredibly rude. It puts me off sex and I now find sex repulsive mainly because of the habits he has.
I'm not a prude and I can take a joke. But am I being ridiculous and unreasonable for finding this gross?? I'm looking for opinions..
Sorry this sounds ridiculous
Thanks

How utterly vile. What the hell has happened with the old fashioned virtues of respect and decency?

He will no doubt be distraught and what is about to happen - but how can he blame anyone but himself.

Please make tonight the last night you stay with this repulsive creature.

Farting during your wedding vows
Burping at the midwife
Farting at parents evening

That could be your life. Get the fuck out.

@Ditheringdooley, I really struggled. I lost all interest in sex and once or twice whilst he did it right next to me on the sofa or in bed, I genuinely wanted to physically attack him. His complete disregard for my feelings made me so angry. I often wondered if he ever stopped or just went through life wondering why all these woman lost interest.

Fucking hell, move out.

Tomorrow if you can.

@NellyJames not surprised you felt that way!

On the bright side, you would never have had any ‘what if...’ thoughts about that particular ex, which is a certain freedom

Everyone else has already said what they think you should do.
I'm just here to add to it. You've got the ick (quite rightly too!). Once you have the ick, there's no coming back from it.

I hope that flat turns out to be the right one for you. If lack of support network means you may struggle to make that step, do know there is a lot of support on here if you should need it. Even if it's just a support thread where you post if you're having a down moment etc.

Leave.
You don’t need a huge support network, you must work and see people there, go out with them if you need to.

Hope the fall is ok, and get your stuff moved,
Can’t see anything keeping you at your existing place, the man is a pig.

You’ll be much happier 😊

Flat , not fall

Yeah, I'll chime in with everyone else. He's grim and you should plan to head out. Seriously, singledom would be BLISS compared to putting up with him. Vile! Once you have the ick that's it.

YANBU - fair enough everyone needs to pass wind from one end or another but the way in which it’s done can be controlled.

My ex was the same. Belching down the the phone at me or farting in bed or even worse farting in his hand and wafting it under my nose. I use to go ballistic. Disgusting

Make sure you tell him you are leaving because you find him repulsive and don't want to have sex with him any more.

Where do people find these louts?

Just leave. Ffs life is too short to put up with this rubbish.
I cannot stand people who think burping and farting is entertaining, it’s so juvenile and pathetic. Not to mention it’s a huge turn off. He can’t seriously expect you to be attracted to him after this?
Just leave.

How about dating him but not living with him (if you want to).

Not married
No kids
Got the ick

Leave

Once upon a time, this man would genuinely NOT ATTRACT a mate and he would die out alone.

Let the grim fucker live alone. He is literally mocking you and seeing how much shit you'll put up with.

Oh good God OP. Do you feel you need permission to leave this hideous relationship? You're not married, no kids, he's absolutely repellent... If you need permission, I and every other poster give it to you in bucketloads. How can you think it's terrible to want to have sex with someone you find attractive??

@annabel85

Where do people find these louts?

I do like to remark sometimes that posters here often describe men so vile that other women wouldn't sit next to them on a bus.

It shows an utter lack of respect for you. He has very little regard for you.

Leave him to it

I think it sounds like your relationship is over, OP.

Once upon a time, this man would genuinely NOT ATTRACT a mate and he would die out alone

Exactly. You know what? I bet if he couldn’t get a woman to date him, these disgusting habits would miraculously stop and suddenly he’d be down the doctors trying to sort it out! Funny how motivated we can be given the right circumstances. Of course he doesn’t care now- he’s found a woman who will put up with it.

Gross. He clearly doesn’t care about trying to impress you any more.

If he genuinely cannot control it then he ought to get himself checked out. It it sounds like he doesn’t care and it’s that lack of respect that would do it for me.

Eww! He sounds revolting. I would be eating and sleeping separately from him until I could move out.

Tell him (as you walk out the door) that he’d be well advised to put his revolting windy habits in his online dating profile. It’ll save everyone a lot of time and nausea.

And feel free to tell everyone the exact reason you’re leaving. His parents should reap a bit of what they’ve sown. Yuck.