Partner keeps touching his own nipples

[sharonJJ55]

Recently slept with new partner for the first time and he has this habit of keep flicking and pinching his nipples to turn himself on. Literally every time his hands weren't on me I could see him doing this to his nipples & it was a bit of a turn off. I've never had a man do this before, especially to themselves so much during sex. Would this put you off and how do I bring up this subject to him? Is it a bit worrying that he needs to do this so much to turn himself on?

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So men really can multitask

That would turn me off too OP.

I don't think anyone on here is saying it's weird for a man to enjoy nipple stimulation. What people are saying would gross them out is the fact he's doing it CONTINUOUSLY to himself all throughput foreplay and sex. This would really put me off.

@Kittykat93

I don't think anyone on here is saying it's weird for a man to enjoy nipple stimulation. What people are saying would gross them out is the fact he's doing it CONTINUOUSLY to himself all throughput foreplay and sex. This would really put me off.

Yes they are saying it. Including comments like eughh and it being a feminine trait and bizarre.

Now apparently some genitals were stomach churning. Really? Would it be acceptable for men to say they found a woman's genitals stomach churning?

Now apparently some genitals were stomach churning. Really? Would it be acceptable for men to say they found a woman's genitals stomach churning?

It’s neither acceptable or not acceptable. You can’t really apply logic to what people find attractive. If we start saying ‘no you’re not allowed to not find this person unattractive for any reason’ then it’s a slippery slope (ooer missus) imo.

MsWonderful

Oh ok. Good to know that people won't be bent out of shape with the men who only find so called designer vaginas attractive then right? Seeing as it's ok to find certain things unattractive and even stomach churning?

Lol, no I won’t be bent out of shape, don’t worry. Do you have a funny looking cock or something? You seem to be taking this very personally 🤔

Nipple tweaking always reminds me of the film 'Good Morning Vietnam' when he shouts 'Tune In Tokyo'.

He needs clamps as to keep his hands free for you me thinks.

@MsWonderful

Lol, no I won’t be bent out of shape, don’t worry. Do you have a funny looking cock or something? You seem to be taking this very personally 🤔

Nope, I'm a woman. I just hate double standards. Rank hypocrisy to accuse men of misogyny for finding aspects of a woman's body unattractive (with all of the body issues that can lead to) but then turn a blind eye to women stating a man's genitals were stomach churning.

He needs clamps as to keep his hands free for you me thinks.

Why? Is op concentrating on what he likes then?

So how should someone behave if they find that their partner’s body turns them off? Just lie back and think of England or what?

EDSGFC It was a lighthearted comment...I don't really understand your response.

@MsWonderful

So how should someone behave if they find that their partner’s body turns them off? Just lie back and think of England or what?

No, we're all free to find people attractive or unattractive. I just don't think it's a good thing to be posting on public forums how physical appearance of genitals is stomach churning. As I said, I'm sure most of us would take issue with any man posting on here that his new partner's genitals were a different shape or size to what he was used to and he found them stomach churning.

Personally, I think some opinions are best kept to yourself. Why not just quietly move on with your life rather than adding to the long list of body parts people now feel insecure about?

Had a smile at “ gore play” 🙂

I’m sure there are male-dominated forums doing just that. In fact the size and shape of women’s bodies is constantly commented on all over the media and irl. Nice of you to cape for the poor men, but I think they’re probably gonna be ok!

Urggh this sounds AWFUL!

I wouldn't be able to tolerate this at all

Perhaps he was trying to tune into the Archers?

MsWonderful

I'm not particularly caring about men, I'm saying that body shaming is not right, regardless of who it's aimed at. Just because a male dominated board somewhere is doing it about women's bodies I don't see how that makes it ok for us to do it too. If for no other reason than men reading it on here may well get the idea that it's ok to continue. Do unto others and all that.

@EDSGFC

MsWonderful

Oh ok. Good to know that people won't be bent out of shape with the men who only find so called designer vaginas attractive then right? Seeing as it's ok to find certain things unattractive and even stomach churning?

Meh A man can get the ick about a woman just as easily as the other way around. It would be a bit weird for a man to start talking about that on mumsnet since most of us are women but if they want to talk about the ick with their mates that's up to them.

@EDSGFC

MsWonderful

I'm not particularly caring about men, I'm saying that body shaming is not right, regardless of who it's aimed at. Just because a male dominated board somewhere is doing it about women's bodies I don't see how that makes it ok for us to do it too. If for no other reason than men reading it on here may well get the idea that it's ok to continue. Do unto others and all that.

It's not body shaming. You've totally misunderstood what the ick is and you have no right to tell people not to talk about it!

Name changed obvs

I knew someone who did this - extremely unnerving! It was the tip of the iceberg wrt deeper sexual dysfunction and he had quite a nasty streak (not good nasty). Dump him for that association alone OP!

A lot of men have sensitive nipples, I really don't get what you're all getting "eww gross" about, it's really not that unusual.
Makes me wonder how experienced in bed you all really are.

OP's partner going solo with it was a bit weird, admittedly. Sounds a bit sad you two couldn't communicate better your likes and dislikes. But it's not like nipple stimulation is some kind of bizarre hardcore fetish
You don't strike me as very sexually adventurous...

The ew gross is the thought of a man diligently and unceasingly twiddling his nipples instead of I dunno touching the OP or kissing her or just not no handed wanking into her whilst frantically squeezing his boobs
It's just an unattractive image and that's that

It's not body shaming. You've totally misunderstood what the ick is

The pp said that her partner's genitals were stomach churning. Another compared it to white dog poo - no mention of the "ick" in either post. That's body shaming

Men are so weird

I mean this is the thin end of a fucking massive wedge of cheese..

But it's still vomity