Partner keeps touching his own nipples

[sharonJJ55]

Recently slept with new partner for the first time and he has this habit of keep flicking and pinching his nipples to turn himself on. Literally every time his hands weren't on me I could see him doing this to his nipples & it was a bit of a turn off. I've never had a man do this before, especially to themselves so much during sex. Would this put you off and how do I bring up this subject to him? Is it a bit worrying that he needs to do this so much to turn himself on?

---

If you've found this page in your search of nipple toys and clamps that have been recommended by fellow Mumsnet users, you might find our guide to the best nipple toys useful. Hope this helps! MNHQ

Being camp should be used in a derogatory way.

@talltreewessex I'm not saying all camp is bad in life, I'm bi/pan and I enjoy camp, all I'm saying is it doesn't do it for me in the bedroom. Nothing wrong with saying that.

Like if someone goes 'ooooh, smack my botty' in the bedroom, I'm a sub so that's a turn-off for me. I'm not kink-shaming by saying it's not my personal thing, nor am I being homophobic by saying campness is bed doesn't light my candle.

My neighbour plays with his nipples whenever he strokes his cat so it’s never going to be something I’m ok with tbh

@talltreewessex

*sammylady37 “This camp thing” is very very disrespectful.

To call someone camp in a disrespectful manner is not cool in 2020. I’m no woke but I know that you’re being very uncool*

It was @SoulofanAggron who called him camp in a dismissive and somewhat derogatory fashion, not me. Goodness knows why though, as touching one’s own erogenous zones is hardly camp.

Funnily enough, on here women are frequently encouraged to touch their clit during sex, and they’re certainly not told not to do that as it’s not doing anything for the man, but when the man touches himself in a way that doesn’t stimulate the woman, it’s ‘fetishy’, ‘vomity’ and now ‘camp’. The MN responses are sometimes truly bizarre.

@DeliciouslyFemale

I’m just glad you corrected your spellcheck. I was really creeped out by mama’s nipples. 🤣

Me too! Especially as it was due to being part of “gore play” - urgh! 😂

On a serious note, I wouldn’t like this.

My neighbour plays with his nipples whenever he strokes his cat

This is just not a sentence I ever expected to read.

Who would’ve thought one mans nipples would cause so much fun. 😀

Men really get some stick on here. Ooh. Maybe he’d like that 🤔

Men’s nipples can be just as, if not more so, sensitive as women’s. Their only purpose on males serve as an erogenous zone. A Men’s Health study showed 52% of men in the United states report nipple stimulation to enhance sexual arousal. In other words, it makes them cum harder/quicker. Sure, if he’s doing it all the time to HIMSELF, he should just go off somewhere and masturbate on his own. But maybe you should engage him more, and do it so he doesn’t have to. So before you go shaming him for this thing that turns him on so much, just consider how much shaming he’s done to himself because of all the toxic masculinity that’s linked to the sexual stereotypes we’ve created for gender roles. Maybe he’s struggled with sensitive nipples all his life (despite having man boobs or not) and now he finally finds a partner he can show a little bit of vulnerability with and not have to feel the way he’s always felt.

The op has every right to feel how they feel though. Since it is a deal breaker and it sounds like you can’t look past this “fetish”, perhaps it is best you two don’t see each other anymore.

You must realise this thread is from a year ago, @Tahoetransplant. OP is probably well rid of the nipple tweaker by now.

Either sack him off or tell him you hate it so he can sack you off.

I'm sure most of the posters here would rather split up with someone rather than not be allowed to enjoy sex.

Some people have kinks and that is fine and normal. Some don't, also fine and normal. What's weird is people here acting like he's committed some atrocious act. No need to be twats about it or pull faces.

Ugh why do people reactivate zombie threads?!!!

ZOMBIE THREAD 🧟‍♀️ 🧟‍♂️

@AveryGoodlay

Ugh why do people reactivate zombie threads?!!!

Why was he searching MN for nipple threads?

A mystery for the ages.

I’m trying to find common ground with men and women on the subject, internationally. I came across this forum and discussion this afternoon

Maybe do the tweaking for him next time? It's possible he was just trying to signal that he'd like you to. He may need/want less of it if coming from you. But yes, must be weird to observe.

As I was saying about breaking down toxic masculinity and not assuming gender stereotypes in the bedroom, it’s evidently becoming more apparent that more awareness needs to be brought to the matter. A little compassion and understanding goes along way, despite any past transgressions you’ve had dealt to you by the opposite sex.