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DH says we’re too old for oral sex!

282 replies

OldGirl72 · 06/09/2020 12:02

I’ve re registered here after years of not being on MN to get opinions on this as can’t talk to anyone in RL.

DH recently decreed that we were too old (51 and 48) for oral sex and that he only wanted to have missionary position sex from now on. He thinks ‘dirty’ sex is for the young uns and feels weird about doing it nowHmm. I always known he didn’t really like doing it to me but he was good at it and seemed to enjoy it when he got going. It never made him aroused though. He definitely enjoyed me doing it to him and I’ve got quite good at it over the last few years.

Obviously I’m pretty upset about this as sex is pretty pointless for me without an orgasm (only get them through oral really) and I’m thinking that this is grounds for divorce!

Is this normal at his age? Any opinions?

Cant post in the sex forum as just joined. Apologies for any offence caused at a sensitive topic.

OP posts:
galgaf12 · 09/09/2020 21:05

The worst thread mumsnet has ever produced.

StarlightLady · 10/09/2020 02:01

@DeadSouth - Very few people can “easily leave”.

DeadSouth · 10/09/2020 13:47

@StarlightLady If she’s in a position to post about considering divorce over not receiving oral then yes, in this case, she can easily leave.

Cheeseandwin5 · 18/09/2020 13:11

@ravenmum

(I do think it's unfair to debate on whether OP's partner was being coerced when she's not here to defend herself or explain.)

Sorry I don't understand this argument at all. Should we also wait for the OP's DH to show up so he can defend himself??
The OP has present the case from her view ( which is likely to paint her in a better light) ppl are commenting on that - its basically the same as any other post here

Cheeseandwin5 · 18/09/2020 13:12

There are plenty of posts about women being asked for acts by their partners that they hate- I look forward to all those supporting the OP and denouncing her DH to be posting the same on them ( Yes I know I will be waiting along time for that fairness to happen)

Appledaze · 18/09/2020 22:55

@Cheeseandwin5

There are plenty of posts about women being asked for acts by their partners that they hate- I look forward to all those supporting the OP and denouncing her DH to be posting the same on them ( Yes I know I will be waiting along time for that fairness to happen)
I see this opinion often on Mumsnet and it is incredibly boring and tedious. People can give whatever advice they want on whatever set of circumstances that they read about.

I often read posts I disagree with, but it doesn't mean they aren't valid or don't have a place. Nobody gets to decide what advice is more valid that others ( except perhaps the OP). Being Mumsnet it is also mainly female contributors. Get over it.

Cheeseandwin5 · 22/09/2020 15:54

@Appledaze
Sorry, I disagree. If you are going to change your view purely based on the gender of the ppl involved than you should be called up on it.
It also invalidates your argument and reasoning. The problem with hypocrites is there don't see it in themselves.
Would you use the same thought process if ppl made the change based on colour of skin? Afterall Mumsnet is also mainly white contributors....
Instead of me getting over it , maybe you should think why your advice would change.

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