DP said a very strange thing tonight ?!

[Underpressure13]

DP has called by tonight to hang out for the evening with me and the kids .
When he came through the door the first thing he said was ‘ok so where are these sausage rolls to reheat ?’
Earlier today my mum who was caring for the kids whilst I worked, cooked some sausage rolls and left the remaining ones we didn’t eat in oven for me to reheat for DP and kids tonight.
There’s no way he’d have known of this as both myself , nor my mum have mentioned this to him today and he knew they were in there without being told or even looking . They hadn’t recently been cooked and place didn’t smell of them.
When I questioned him on how he knew, he just said ‘ oh, instinct I guess’ no further explanation
Is it strange he said that? I can’t quite work this out !!

FFS OP, just ditch him already and format all your devices! Look how much headspace you are wasting on him this weekend. How will you ever trust him?

OP, you do not have to be in ANY way technically advanced to know that someone linking YOUR technology to their accounts is utterly wrong.

It's so unbelievably simple.

There is absolutely no explanation as to why he should be connected to your private devices in YOUR home.

He's not going to admit anything.
Why would he?🤷‍♀️

Aside from all the sausage based activity. He sounds like a nut job. Have it out with him and see if he owns up to anything. Beware though he's probably going to try gaslighting you/fobbing you off.
I'd also be happy with some sausage right now and not the type wrapped in pastry.

Underpressure what do you hope to get from having it out with him?

I agree, why are you bothering to this extent. There’s no trust. Just end it.

@peachypetite

I agree, why are you bothering to this extent. There’s no trust. Just end it.

This. You have kids. You have a life that doesn't need to include him. You're wasting time, energy and damaging your self confidence, your belief in your decision making and your self worth the longer you stay. It really is simple. It is. Break up with him and then don't have contact with him again. Break up with him and tell him, DONT ask him, that you don't want to stay in touch. Then stick to it. Anything else is wasting time and energy. You must be fucking exhausted of all this teenage back and forth drama!

Whilst I understand your concerns, so much of what you have described is basic laptop/speaker settings. Realtek etc is just your laptop speakers.

Just end it op. Even if he isnt spying on you(which seems highly unlikely) The fact that you suspect him of spying on you is enough to end the relationship. Your instincts are screaming at you that something isnt right. Trust them. You clearly dont trust him and trust is paramount esp when there are young children involved. Just walk away and take all of your devices to police station. Good luck x

I just saw all your previous posts! Nothing adds up, I remember all your posts. DP or DH? I thought you'd been married 11 years and lived together in your other posts? You seem to have 0 understanding of technology (which is fine) as you are so worried about realtek speakers and microsoft onedrive. If any of this is real I think you need to get a separate laptop and not share one!

Why do you need 'evidence' and exactly what will you confront him with?

You don't trust him and he won't give a straight answer. IMO there's something clearly dodgy going on so just bin him off. You don't need this drama in your life.

Fuck evidence and fuck him - aim higher and do better for yourself and your DC.

What concerns me is everyone seems to have lost sight of what happened to the Sausage Rolls?
Were they heated up, eaten cold or even discarded due to the sinister goings on...

I’d contact the police
I wouldn’t be a bit surprised if he has history for this sort of behaviour, If he doesn’t it’s well worth it being logged on record anyway.
The lesson of this thread for me is to trust your instincts. If something doesn’t feel right, it usually isn’t.

@ButtonMoonLoon

I’d contact the police I wouldn’t be a bit surprised if he has history for this sort of behaviour, If he doesn’t it’s well worth it being logged on record anyway. The lesson of this thread for me is to trust your instincts. If something doesn’t feel right, it usually isn’t.

Hate to say it but the lesson of the thread for me is that some OPs want the truth to be so different to reality that they are wilfully ignorant and unwilling to get rid of a man who is so obviously unsuitable. Despite having children and their own life separate to the man. Life is too short, but some people only realise when it's too late.

@MarthasGinYard

'I just saw all your previous posts! Nothing adds up, I remember all your posts. DP or DH? I thought you'd been married 11 years and lived together in your other posts?'

Quite

Is this the DH you've been with 18 years??

She left him in April 2018.

Ah I see cheers

She left him in April 2018

In that case no amount of reheating is ever going to make that sausage roll anywhere near edible.

Give it a rest. She physically moved out in April 2018. She told her ex she was leaving before that.

She's clearly rounded up her relationship time with the BF.

At least take the time to read though her previous posts if you're so keen to troll hunt. Or report her.

Regardless of whether it's real or not, this shot does happen. I went through something a bit similar. So it will have been useful regardless.

Just confront him

"I’ve had enough drama in this 2.5 yr relationship."
That says it all to me. This is not a good relationship.

"I’m going to speak to him somewhere public about it all tomorrow eve if I can get my mum to look after the kids. I’ll bring everything up- all on the table - ..."
If you're looking for a confession, you won't get it. Nor do you need one to end this relationship. All you need is to not want to be in it any more. You don't trust him. That's enough. You don't need him to agree to the end of the relationship, if that's what you're looking for. You just have to tell him it's over.

And look into getting your phone etc. looked over by a computer shop. See if they think there's any software/connections there that there shouldn't be. And dump the speaker.

She must be a very good troll if it isn't real tbh; i feel quite invested and have been here since quite early on. Just with people bringing up old threads made me think

I had wanted to name change as it might be confusing reading back through threads to 2017 ish ,but I didn’t figure out how to.
This is DP of 2 years 4 months to be exact ( yesterday to be even more exact ) .
DH and I were together 2000-2018 when I left in Feb 18 but didn’t move to own place till April 18 . Not sure why any of that really matters though! But for context / background perhaps