I've been a lurker on this thread but first time posting. I would be grateful for any words of wisdom as none of my RL friends have had to deal with OLD in their 40's.
I've met a man on line (had a few dates but nothing after date 2 for various reasons - a conspiracy theorist, a cocaine problem, too needy, too young - not the same man!) who seems lovely. We've been messaging and then talking for a couple of months and all going well but we can't see each other as he's working abroad until next week.
We message all day and speak on the phone every evening and plan to meet up as soon as we can.
It transpires last night that he is very wealthy, no clue in his profile or from our previous conversations - we just did one of those questions and answers sessions last night (favourite food, music etc). Turns out he owns outright a house in central London and two very expensive cars - I've googled and together they would be worth well over a million £. I obviously connected with him before I knew this and am in no way a gold digger, having always been financially independent.
My problem is that I've never been in this situation before and I don't know how to deal with it. I've recently (since 'meeting' him) been made redundant so income is very low and I'm struggling to find a job.
My exH was well paid and I've always worked, he earned far more than me by the time we split but when we first met I was the higher earner so it was equal and we were married with shared finances. Same with my exP, as I had a decent salary so I could always pay for myself, and did.
So, I don't know what to do as this current guy, although his hobbies are walking, music, cooking (e.g. Not expensive and the same as mine) he obviously has a lot of money and I feel a bit embarrassed about my current situation. I've been honest with him. I have a modest flat owned outright (got made redundant during divorce to couldn't get a mortgage and had to move away to the outskirts of London to buy a small place outright). So he knows my financial situation and just said 'it will be ok, don't worry'
I'm just thinking, should I not pursue this otherwise seemingly lovely connection or give it a go and hope that I'll get another job soon? I don't want him to think I'm after his money, I'm so not but being unable to be financial indecent at the moment makes me feel inadequate.
We are both late 40s with no dependent children.
Any views, advice would be appreciated as we are due to meet as soon as he's out of quarantine.
I know he is genuine as sends me photos daily of the project he's working on and I've seen photos of the work contract which is worth 4million!
He seems so lovely and I've definitely fallen for him as much and I could without physically meeting but we have do much in common hobby wise, political views, films, music, expectations from a relationship, food choices, holiday choices etc