DP sulking as I wasn't available

[Fuzzyplant100]

Had a text from DP this morning (we don't live together) to say should he buy a bbq and come over to mine this afternoon with his DS. I replied and said sorry I can't today, me and DS are going to my parents for some food.

DP now seems to be sulking - taking forever to reply to messages, and only a few words each time. Nothing like normal. Definitely coming across as quite shitty in his messages.

Should I say something or just wait for him to get over it? I think he was expecting me to be available (i normally am), or cancel my plans with my Mum Maybe I should have?

Op, ffs, dump him.

This gets worse the more you post OP. He sounds like an obnoxious arse.

Stop putting your life and your plans on hold for him OP. Do what you want to do. If he wants to see you, he will take the hint and make plans. If he doesn't, then he's not someone who you want around.

Read your replies to all the questions. Read them as if from a stranger. Does this seem an equal relationship to you?

Did you meet him op when you were at a low point in your life?. It would not surprise me if this was the case.

What did you learn about relationships when you were growing up?

Would you want your son as an adult to treat a girlfriend like you are being treated by this man?

Can I assume if he brings his kid your feeding both of them for free?

He has it made with you really (You are his controlled compliant slave) so I can see what he gets out of this. But I fail to see what you get out of this. I do wonder if you think he is all you deserve from a relationship.

@AttilaTheMeerkat I'd been separated from my DS' Dad about 6 months when I met DP. My ex was what I'd consider abusive (still having problems now. Was never physical).

So he's not as bad as your ex but he's not treating you well...

@Guiltypleasures001 To be honest I'm not sure if he'd of brought food over with him or not, although I would have thought he wouldn't have come empty handed!

Sounds slightly unbalanced - you're providing him and his DS with food for half the week.

I really hate sulkers. That is a form of abuse. Silent treatment to get you to toe the line in future.

You've gone from an abusive wanker to a wanker. Just because he's not as bad as your Ex doesn't mean that he's a good man to be with.

Dump him.

You've left one abusive man only to replace him with another.

Nothing more tedious than a sucker. I'd be a lot less available from now on.

Sucker? . SULKER!

Just give him a call instead of messaging, much easier to sort things out that way.

Op you really need to reassess this relationship.
He sounds like an abusive prick

What aquamarine wrote. You have indeed gone from one abuser to another, albeit of a different stripe, but abusive all the same.

He targeted you op and your boundaries, already messed up by previous abuse, are being further weakened by this man. You really do need to end this relationship for your own sake as well as your child’s.

Please enrol yourself onto the Freedom programme which is run by Women’s Aid.

Stop texting him.

He let's you pay for all the food he eats at tours and then goes 50/50 in takeaways. Bin him.

lets, yours*

Think about it OP. You're paying this man for his company.

Why don’t you suggest going to his for a barbecue, then turn up empty handed. If he says something, just add that you assumed he was buying the food. See how he reacts, and whether he expects you to provide.

This guys ripping the piss right out of you OP... emotionally physically mentally financially.... WTAF see him for what he is..... please

He's trained you not to raise issues that you want to talk about.

He's trained you to feed him and to accept an imbalance of paying way more for food.

Now you feel he's training you to prioritise him over plans already in place.

Your boundaries are weak.

Stop being a mug