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Secret planning to leave DH - days to go .

929 replies

Mydoghasbettereyebrowsthanme · 03/07/2020 15:34

Hi there - previous thread started with DH AWOL , arrested for drink driving . Final straw for me in out marriage , planning to leave in secret on Thursday. 6 days to go . Feeling shit about everything - pain the kids will have to go through , pain and upset his family and him . Wishing he was a reasonable person enough that we could separate amicably. Wishing I could predict which way this is going to go- hating the double life I am currently leading .Sad started this thread just for the hand holding whilst the proverbial hits the fan over the next 7 days !

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Dinosharks · 09/07/2020 09:29

Thinking of you today, Good Luck! @Mydoghasbettereyebrowsthanme hope everything goes as smoothly as possible and look forward to seeing your message tonight to say you the children and dog are in your new home

Trichford · 09/07/2020 09:33

Good luck, I hope it goes as smoothly as possible 💐

Delbelleber · 09/07/2020 09:49

Omgoodness OP good luck and I hope that dick head goes out so you can get your stuff the hell out of there!
New start and new life FlowersFlowersFlowers

Iwantacookie · 09/07/2020 09:56

Good luck today op. Hoping everything goes smoothly and next time you post you'll be in your new home.

GenghisCalm · 09/07/2020 10:07

Good luck I hope it goes smoothly for you.

frazzledasarock · 09/07/2020 10:08

Everything crossed for you for today.

If you need to, tell the police you are leaving, ring women's aid today and ask for their advice. And take friends around and collect whatever you need, take a roll of extra strong bin liners and throw everything in.

Stay safe, things can be replaced.

Much love and strength.

Sarah75Lou · 09/07/2020 10:12

Good luck for today, hope it all goes smoothly xx

Floralnomad · 09/07/2020 10:19

Hope it all goes well today @Mydoghasbettereyebrowsthanme

Mulhollandmagoo · 09/07/2020 10:26

I remember your thread about the drink driving!! good luck today, you should be very proud of yourself Flowers

RedElephants · 09/07/2020 10:31

Another de-lurking
All the best for today Op, will be thinking of you all

ZeldaPrincessOfHyrule · 09/07/2020 10:36

Wishing you all the best for today OP. You got this!

lovemenot · 09/07/2020 10:39

Thinking of you today.....godspeed on the road to freedom x

ohwhattodowithmylife · 09/07/2020 10:42

Just saw the thread, I think I commented on your original one.
Wanted to wish you luck and let you know I'm a year in and it's the best thing I did for me and my children. There is iOS and downs but I'm a completely different person and can't believe the shit I put up with. You will be better than fine xx

longtompot · 09/07/2020 10:42

Hoping today goes well, even if not as planned, that you end the day in your new home with your kids & dog Flowers

bigknickersbigknockers · 09/07/2020 11:00

Good luck for today, see you on the other side x

BarbedBloom · 09/07/2020 11:02

Have been lurking for ages. Good luck for today. I had to flee my ex years ago with my laptop and clothes on my back. Years on it was difficult but remains the best decision I ever made

welshladywhois40 · 09/07/2020 11:04

Good luck today! Hope all goes well!!!

OrlandoInTheWilderness · 09/07/2020 11:05

Good luck for today!!!!!

Noshowlomo · 09/07/2020 11:07

Good luck love x

Teana89 · 09/07/2020 11:16

Good luck today! I hope it goes smoothly and you and the kids are settled in quickly.

wateraddict · 09/07/2020 11:30

All the best for today, I wish you speed OP! X

bisopharm · 09/07/2020 11:32

Thinking of you today! good luck and hope it all goes smoothly for you x

ChewChewIsMySpiritAnimal · 09/07/2020 11:38

Good luck you brave woman. It's amazing that you have so many women in your family who will help you as well. I hope all goes well.

NettleTea · 09/07/2020 11:51

good luck today

Shadow01 · 09/07/2020 11:51

Good luck today x