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Secret planning to leave DH - days to go .

929 replies

Mydoghasbettereyebrowsthanme · 03/07/2020 15:34

Hi there - previous thread started with DH AWOL , arrested for drink driving . Final straw for me in out marriage , planning to leave in secret on Thursday. 6 days to go . Feeling shit about everything - pain the kids will have to go through , pain and upset his family and him . Wishing he was a reasonable person enough that we could separate amicably. Wishing I could predict which way this is going to go- hating the double life I am currently leading .Sad started this thread just for the hand holding whilst the proverbial hits the fan over the next 7 days !

OP posts:
763freedom · 09/07/2020 08:06

Thinking of you op xxFlowers

DameFanny · 09/07/2020 08:10

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Old but good, if you need a soundtrack for today Flowers

Indoorcamping · 09/07/2020 08:10

Delurking to wish you luck for today!

Maybe a mention of how nice the golf clubhouse is might get him out? Wouldn't normally advocate encouraging him to drink but needs must.

Also ignore the stay no matter what poster. I hazard a guess if you looked at their role models growing up you wouldn't find healthy relationships.

CiCiFreakingBabcock · 09/07/2020 08:13

Good luck !

NightOwl19 · 09/07/2020 08:15

Good luck today OP

blitzen · 09/07/2020 08:19

Today's the day! Wishing you all the best for a smooth day and a bright future, OP. Channelling my personal motto: "game on, motherf*er" xx

Butternutsqoosh · 09/07/2020 08:23

Wanted to wish you the best of luck today!

jackdaw141 · 09/07/2020 08:33

Good luck. Remember to leave £20 on the table so he can go down the pub (which he most certainly will).

FridaKFangirl · 09/07/2020 08:38

De-lurking to say good luck for today @Mydoghasbettereyebrowsthanme

Sawyersfishbiscuits · 09/07/2020 08:42

Wow OP, good luck, today is the beginning!

Flyg · 09/07/2020 08:46

Good luck x

wantmorenow · 09/07/2020 08:49

Delurking too to wish you well today.

Borntobeamum · 09/07/2020 08:49

Hoping today goes as you planned.
We are all thinking of you x

ladykuga · 09/07/2020 08:50

The VERY BEST of luck to you. Smile

ThePollutedShadesOfPemberley · 09/07/2020 08:51

Good luck Dogs.

WitchDancer · 09/07/2020 09:00

I hope you find a way around him not going. Thinking of you and praying it goes well 🤝

Keepingthingsinteresting · 09/07/2020 09:03

Good luck today OP

Vebrithien · 09/07/2020 09:05

Just another voice reaching out across the internet, wishing you the very best for today.

If it helps/gives you something to focus on, St Monica is the patron saint of abused wives. Just like asking St Anthony to help you find something lost, you could try asking her to help you escape.

itbemay1 · 09/07/2020 09:06

Good luck today OP Thanks

YabbaDabbaHooooo · 09/07/2020 09:06

Good luck today. I hope plan B works out xx

GemmeFatale · 09/07/2020 09:08

Good luck today. Another cheering you on. I hope things go smoothly for you.

FattyBoom · 09/07/2020 09:10

Thinking of you today OP, I hope everything goes ok

okiedokieme · 09/07/2020 09:11

Another one woken up thinking about you. Take care Thanks

MulticolourMophead · 09/07/2020 09:22

Good luck for today Thanks

Defender90 · 09/07/2020 09:25

Good luck today OP!