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Secret planning to leave DH - days to go .

929 replies

Mydoghasbettereyebrowsthanme · 03/07/2020 15:34

Hi there - previous thread started with DH AWOL , arrested for drink driving . Final straw for me in out marriage , planning to leave in secret on Thursday. 6 days to go . Feeling shit about everything - pain the kids will have to go through , pain and upset his family and him . Wishing he was a reasonable person enough that we could separate amicably. Wishing I could predict which way this is going to go- hating the double life I am currently leading .Sad started this thread just for the hand holding whilst the proverbial hits the fan over the next 7 days !

OP posts:
Seriously79 · 09/07/2020 07:07

Looking forward to seeing messages from you tonight, safe with the kids (and dog) in your new home x

lovemyfurrywuff · 09/07/2020 07:09

Been following from your first thread and think about you lots. Just want to add my good luck wishes. I left my alcoholic husband 8 years ago with my dogs and a car load of belongings. Life is so much better now. You can do this. We are all behind you.

lovemyfurrywuff · 09/07/2020 07:09

Been following from your first thread and think about you lots. Just want to add my good luck wishes. I left my alcoholic husband 8 years ago with my dogs and a car load of belongings. Life is so much better now. You can do this. We are all behind you.

Buggedandconfused · 09/07/2020 07:11

Good luck!

Literallynoidea · 09/07/2020 07:12

Good luck OP. First day of the rest of your life.

TheMotherofAllDilemmas · 09/07/2020 07:14

Best of luck with the move, I hope you manage to make an exit free of dramas and the kids manage the news ok.

Middersweekly · 09/07/2020 07:15

Good luck today @Mydoghasbettereyebrowsthanme thinking of you Flowers

SheRaTheAllPowerful · 09/07/2020 07:18

Fingers firmly crossed for you

VallarMorghulis · 09/07/2020 07:18

Hi OP, I've been following your threads although I haven't posted. Good luck for today. I'll be thinking of you.

Figgygal · 09/07/2020 07:23

Good luck op
I remember your original post and pleased to see the progress you’ve made
Good luck today

howtogetoutofthismess · 09/07/2020 07:23

Been thinking about you and how strong you are. Good luck for today

CupoTeap · 09/07/2020 07:24

You got this

Iloveyoutothefridgeandback · 09/07/2020 07:33

Good luck! I hope he buggers off to golf today...

tracyon · 09/07/2020 07:34

Good luck! If the worst happens and you’re rumbled.. stand there and tell him why you’re off!

thatcarolebaskinbitch · 09/07/2020 07:34

I read your first thread and then lost it, so glad I've just found this one so I can wish you the best of luck today OP Thanks

Needanewnamenow · 09/07/2020 07:36

Just delurking to wish you the best of luck

unicornsarereal72 · 09/07/2020 07:39

Hope all goes smoothly today.

Oddgirlout · 09/07/2020 07:40

All the very best for today x

Rowgtfc72 · 09/07/2020 07:44

Delurking to say hope today goes ok.Flowers

YouAreMySunshine19 · 09/07/2020 07:51

Good luck Thanks

Skinnydecafflatte · 09/07/2020 07:58

Woke up thinking about you. Hope it all goes well today. Today is the start of your brand new life, you’re a brave lady, you've come this far and after today hopefully you can enjoy the life you deserve for you and your DC.

Survivingchipandkippee · 09/07/2020 08:03

Sending you strength for today x

UncertainFuture · 09/07/2020 08:04

Good luck for today OP, I'm thinking of you and hope everything goes well x

Mumof3dogs · 09/07/2020 08:05

One of the many thinking of you today OP - sending strength your way Smile

I hope you find a way to get DH to go to his golf, if not you may have to brazen it out and say - well the golf lesson was so we could do this the nice way, now you won't go it has to be the hard way. We are leaving you this afternoon and it is not up for any discussion.

picklemewalnuts · 09/07/2020 08:06

Remember plans are just that. If it all goes to pot, all that matters is you and the kids getting out safely. Everything else is just details.