Couples who got together from uni

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If you know of a couple (or perhaps you) who have met their other halves at uni, are they still together? Happily?

I got together with my DH at 18. I'm now in 30s and I sometimes wonder how things might have turned out otherwise.

My sister met her DH at uni and they seem very happy, they are in their 40s now.

By the way, they don't have to have gone to uni i just mean it as a shorthand for 18 to 21-22, because i think younger than 18 is too young and older than 22 is still sort of ok in my view to start a serious relationship

We got together at uni' at 20, engaged at 21, married at 23. Still very happily married.

Oh, and currently 49.

We met and started a relationship when we were 17, married at 22 and celebrate our 25th wedding anniversary this year.

I've had the best marriage and wouldn't change anything.

Im afraid most of the couples I knew at uni were cheating on.each other when they got the chance, often with other members of the social group. It didn't give me a good impression of the functionality/success of "serious" relationships from teenage or early twenties years.

I mainly thought it was far too young to get into a longer-term, committed, leading to marriage type relationship.

I also share experiences with the women who've found so many men through work to be potential cheaters and always wonder if the happily marrieds who.got together young just don't know about their partners attempts to cheat (or actual cheating) and think all is rosy.

*long-term

I'll give you an alternative story. I met XH when we were in 1st year of uni. Married not long after university finished; I was doing further study and he was working. Divorced at 30, no kids. We went from a compatible, intellectually matched pair to really not liking each other. XH really started to force trad gender roles when I was trying to build my career. I wouldn't play ball so he found himself a replacement. I can't say that ultimately I wasn't delighted after the divorce as I met DH a few years later. Older, wiser and I also knew how much I wouldn't tolerate in a marriage.

Met at university. Been together 25 years. Love of my life.

And still just about speaking to each other.

Fairly comfortably certain my fella isn't cheating. Poor sod never gets the chance! And I'm definitely not cheating.

In my experience, the meet as teenager/very early twenty something, get into serious, monogamous relationship, marry mid-late twenties, have kids by or around thirty etc. "structure" tends to suit more women than men (in terms of what they want, how they want their lives to be, what makes them happy & fulfulled, not feeling they have missed out etc.).

Of course there are some men it suits but less so than women in my experience/observation.

I've found a lot of them sneaky-cheat and/or get to around 40, when the combination of perceived missing out on sowing oats; and being quite attractive to women with a bit of money, success, status etc. (young women are rarely switched on enough to twig that only half of that money is his) and have an affair.

Of course there are some who don't, I'm aware we shouldn't tar them.all with the same brush.

TBF GilbertMarkham, I was recently extremely surprised to be undeniably propositioned by someone I really did think was an upstanding familyman, and to find out far more than I ever wanted to know about his sexual exploits, the same age and stage. . .

In my experience, the meet as teenager/very early twenty something, get into serious, monogamous relationship, marry mid-late twenties, have kids by or around thirty etc. "structure" tends to suit more women than men (in terms of what they want, how they want their lives to be, what makes them happy & fulfulled, not feeling they have missed out etc.).

Why would this scenario suit woman more? I waited 10 yrs to marry DH because marriage didn't interest me much & I then waited another 4 yrs before 1st dc because my career was important to me.

Ime men who will cheat once they get status will cheat regardless when they met their partner.

Quite a few of my uni friends are still with their uni boyfriends, some are now married with kids and others aren't. One couple stayed together all through Uni and he dumped her on graduation day, charming. I am 38.

We met in our first term of our first year of uni. Same faculty, but very different courses. Moved in together when I graduated. Married after 10 years later. Known each other 30 years now... We've had our ups and downs, but that's life.

@Roomba Durham?

Got together while doing postgrad degrees at 22 and 23. Very tempestuous start, but we're still happily together 11 years later.

Met my dh at 18, started dating at 20, married at 23.

I don't see why you'd think a relationship staring after 22 is only sort of okay. I know many people who have met their partners/spouses in mid to late 20's or older who are just as happy if not more so than the people I know who were settled years before.

@Peaseblossom22 - no, this was at Lancaster in 1995.

Me and dh met at work, but it was uni age, well first job after dh music college.
The job was a sort of college for me, we were 21.
Both 53 now and still together, celebrating 28 years of marriage and moved in together straight away or when our summer season ended we'd have had a long distance relationship.
No mobiles, internet, back then.
We wanted to be together, and were happy to see how far we got.

I was at uni, and he was a friend of someone else at uni, although he wasn’t there himself.
Married a month after graduation. 33 years in August. Regret it

Dh and I met at uni, he was in first year and me in 2nd year. Got together when I was 19 and him 20, married at 24 and are still very happily married 25 and a half years on, we had our Silver anniversary in December. He's now 50, I'm 49, the kids are growing up fast and things are good. Very good!

Met when we were 18&25, still together at 39&46. Married 17 years and 4 children, very happy.

We started dating at 15, have been together ever since - now 27/28, married, expecting first baby.