Couples who got together from uni

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If you know of a couple (or perhaps you) who have met their other halves at uni, are they still together? Happily?

I got together with my DH at 18. I'm now in 30s and I sometimes wonder how things might have turned out otherwise.

My sister met her DH at uni and they seem very happy, they are in their 40s now.

By the way, they don't have to have gone to uni i just mean it as a shorthand for 18 to 21-22, because i think younger than 18 is too young and older than 22 is still sort of ok in my view to start a serious relationship

Within my group of 6 close girl friends who I lived with at Uni and have stayed in touch with since leaving (we are now all mid 40s), 2 are married to men who we were also at Uni with and who they got together with at age 19ish

They seem to be very happy as far as I'm aware (we don't live locally so don't often see them in company of their husbands) but no happier than those of if us who met our husbands after leaving Uni

I got with my dh when we were 21 and 22. We've been together 16 years. I think we got together at a good age. We'd had some experiences with other people (relationships and sex) and we'd both done a bit of travelling, he'd worked, I'd been to uni. Never had any doubts or 'what ifs'. It's been nice to mature together and experience new things. We were together over 10 years before we had children too which I'm grateful for. We got to do so much just us before becoming a family so I never really feel like I'm missing out now.

Not sure what you are getting at.
I know lots who got together at uni still together.
Some got together at uni and divorced.
Some were friends at uni, dated other people and several years later got together.
Some of my friends from uni met people at work, church, other social events and got married.

It's just called life. I don't think where you meet your partner has anything to do with how happy you are.

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stick hands up. Got together in Freshers, still together now (mid 30s) He’s my soul mate and we are very happy. We essentially grew up together so have that bond. Why is it settling too young? You do you. I wouldn’t change things for the world.

Met Dp at 17, still together aged 38. Not married, (my decision!)

DH and I met in freshers week and got together half way through first year. We were 18 and 19. Still very happy together in our mid-forties.

I met my husband at uni. We have been together ever since. I do have the odd wondering about what else might have happened, but on the whole we are very happy. Married, three kids, nice house, two stable careers (both in what we trained for at uni)

I am very lucky, I do try and make sure I remember that!

DH and I met straight after uni - that was nearly 24 years ago. One of my bridesmaids met her DH in the first term of uni, they're still together too.

Met at 20. Together happily for 13 years. Married 2 years ago.

Met at 19. Divorced him about twenty years later. (should have done it earlier).

I met my husband just before I went to uni at 19. I'm now 35 with 2 kids.

6 of us friends married our university boyfriends and all but one couple are still together 18 years later and all but one are happy.

I met dh while at university. We are still together. I’m late 40’s...

I think the university years are generally a time of growth, relationships when you've got together at 16-18 (or younger) can turn out later to be unhealthy, but meeting someone in first year and getting together a year or so later you probably already have that growth and it's not such an issue.

Was with XP from 19-21, defo an immature relationship for me. With DH 10 years now, we were 22 when we got together but knew him originally from secondary school so we were 11 when we first met.

I think maybe the op is reflecting on her life and thinking she may have missed out.

Met at 16 but didn't get together until 20. Married at 24, 10 years and 3 children later, still together!

My best friend got together with her husband aged 15, they are married with 2 children almost 20 years on.

Another friend met at uni, married at 25, still together 10 years on with 2 children.

But 2 other friends who met at 17/18 and were together for about 6 years, 1 married and divorced a year later, the other split up and had to sell their house. Both have since gone on to marry other people they met in late 20s and have a child recently.

I met my DH at uni but he was a mature student so a few years older than me. We have grown into adults together, had lots of fun, festivaled and partied together and now 12 years later we're very happily married with 2 kids.

I never really thought about it before but isn't uni the perfect place to meet somebody? It's a huge mix of people from many different backgrounds, you're bound to meet somebody you connect with!

Yes I do, my parents circle (late 80s/90s ) has a few couples who met at Uni and have celebrated Diamond wedding anniversaries!

But you do know that a long marriage doesn't necessarily mean a happy marriage ... it can mean that it's an OK relationship, good enough and just not worth the hassle of breaking up married over 30 years.

It's lovely that the majority of replies are in happy relationships.

Timeforabiscuit and nothingiswrong, yes I suppose i'm going through that 'have I settled down too young?' and thinking how I would feel if my DC settled down at that age.

Just counting up, I know 14 couples my age who met at university, married in the couple of years after and are still together today. We left university almost 30 years ago. I also know one couple who have been together since they were 14 - I still have the letter she wrote me detailing the evening they met at a birthday disco at the local rugby club.

About five married couples among my uni friends. What’s the issue?

DP & I got together at 17 & are still together 14years later.
My parents met at 15 & are still together 30+years later.
My sister & her husband got together at 17 & are still together 10 years later.

I will get flamed for this, but so many blokes I meet now (work in a male dominated industry) who married the girl they got with at 18/20, appear absolutely desperate to shag someone else as they approach late 30’s/40’s. The ones who got with partners at 30, seem very much in love and happy to be with that person forever. I think they hit peak attractiveness around 40, height of career etc and gain a confidence they didn’t have at 20. I guess it is a classic mid life crises!! I’m not saying all by the way before people say how loyal their DH is, just lots that I have met (and I’m fairly certain the wives have no idea!).

My DSis and her DP got together at uni. They are now in late fifties.
Friends of mine got together aged 16. Still very happy together in mid fifties. I match-made two mates at uni - they are still together - mid fifties. So all of these have been together for 30 years happily.

Another friend met his wife aged 16. They split up but live so closely in each other's pockets and get on so well, people still think of them as a couple even though they both have other partners. Also mid fifties.

Met at Uni at 20, married 4 years later. Been married 18 years now. I don't read anything into it. Some marriages work, some don't.