Couples who got together from uni

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If you know of a couple (or perhaps you) who have met their other halves at uni, are they still together? Happily?

I got together with my DH at 18. I'm now in 30s and I sometimes wonder how things might have turned out otherwise.

My sister met her DH at uni and they seem very happy, they are in their 40s now.

By the way, they don't have to have gone to uni i just mean it as a shorthand for 18 to 21-22, because i think younger than 18 is too young and older than 22 is still sort of ok in my view to start a serious relationship

I think the point is that a lot of people change so much in their 20s, so you could end up with someone completely different than who you started a relationship with.

I actually met DH at 14, started going out at 16, engaged at 25 and then broke up for 2 months. I think I was easy to become complacent and feel unappreciated long term with any relationship. We got back together and worked on our relationship rather than just plodding along. Now very happy at 31 with a 1 year old and pregnant with 2nd

Yes we met at uni both slightly older turnt 21 the year we started but still together 12 years on, married for 8 years 2 kids and on the whole happy.

Was, now not. 25 years

I met my now husband the first day we moved into halls of residence during freshers week when we were 18. We were official by the Friday. We're now turning 32 with 3 kids and another on the way.

older than 22 is still sort of ok in my view to start a serious relationship WTF??? Sort of ok? So sort of not ok?

So, in your view, what should a single person aged 23+ do with their lives? Become a nun maybe?

@Babdoc

I met DH my first night at uni! We moved in together 3 days later (he was sofa surfing as the uni had mixed up his accommodation), married after 5 years and had two DDs after another nine years. Sadly he died when they were both still in nappies, but we had 16 wonderful years and I still miss him nearly 29 years later. He was my soulmate, and irreplaceable. I never remarried, and raised the DDs alone. My sister met her first DH at uni and he was a violent alcoholic (later became a professor). The marriage rapidly ended in divorce. So it seems that meeting young or at uni is just as variable in outcome as meeting at any other stage of life. Which one would expect!

This brought a real lump to my throat (your story, not your sister's).

🤷‍♀️ been with my husband since our mid teens. Married early 20's, 3 dc and happy as ever. Don't miss...what? Sleeping around, being broken hearted? Other people are always fascinated and want to ask a million questions 🤦‍♀️

Turning 50 this year. No plans to swap each other for someone else.

We met at 21, now 30.

Very happy, house in London, toddler together and getting married next year! Xx

We met at uni at 21*

@lottiegarbanzo I think what the OP meant by that is that starting a relationship after 22 is perhaps not seen as a "young" relationship and at less risk of missing out due to having 18-22 either single or with other people. (Not necessarily saying I agree with that, but don't think the Op meant you need to be shackled by 22, the opposite!)

Met at the start of our last year at uni when I was 20. He was a few years older. This year we've been married 5 years and together 9 and last year we had our first baby

My sister met her DH in student halls in the 90s. They had a wobble at the 10 year mark but are now up to 25 years and going strong.

(I’m on husband number 3 in the same time period 😂)

Met DH at uni, we were in the same halls of residence and have been together ever since. We are very happy, just had our first baby and married 3 years ago. His parents also met at uni and have been happily married for over 40 years!

One of the happiest couples I know met at 18 and still going strong (both turning 40 this year) with 4 kids.

I think there is something refreshing about keeping that dream of love alive. When I look back there were maybe 2 guys around this time where I really still believed in a lasting love and I feel if that had been responded to by a like-minded person I would never have looked back. It's almost as if you miss your slot, get jaded and then too cynical to let it in. Maybe a bit deep for this thread

Met dh when I was 16 and he 17. Married when I was almost 19.Just had our 60th anniversary. My friend also married at same age and has had a long marriage. Relatives met at uni and are still together after long marriages and adult children.

@SandysMam

I will get flamed for this, but so many blokes I meet now (work in a male dominated industry) who married the girl they got with at 18/20, appear absolutely desperate to shag someone else as they approach late 30’s/40’s. The ones who got with partners at 30, seem very much in love and happy to be with that person forever. I think they hit peak attractiveness around 40, height of career etc and gain a confidence they didn’t have at 20. I guess it is a classic mid life crises!! I’m not saying all by the way before people say how loyal their DH is, just lots that I have met (and I’m fairly certain the wives have no idea!).

Absolutely agree - this is my experience of 40 year olds in the City. All gagging for affairs, it's gross.

Met my husband when we were 10 years old. Close friends until 15 and we started going out. Married and have 2 children. We're mid-thirties now.

Met my husband at work when I was 19 and he was 25. Now 9 years later we are happily married and have a nearly 3 year old.

I can think of 5 couples I know from school and university, who got together at university and are still married in their early to mid 50s. Interestingly, all 10 of them are very committed Christians, and met through church/Christian societies. Of the 10 people, 4 are clergy (including 1 bishop!).

We're still together 20 years later - as are many of the other couples we knew at the time - though not all.

tsrmatters.com/blog/one-fifth-of-british-students-meet-the-love-of-their-life-on-campus/ Some stats here though how reliable they are I'm not sure.

Actually, make that 6 couples and 5 clerics. My school seemed to do a good line in producing vicars' wives.

Met at uni age 20. Married at 22 and 23. Just had our 32nd wedding anniversary. Still very happily married.

Got together at 17, still together now at 29. I hope it continues to work out. Some people do, some dont. I'm not sure it necessarily matters when you meet. I know couples who met at 16 and still together at 60, I know people who met at 50 and I know people who met and married within 6 months and it worked. There are no guarantees in life

Got together at 18, married at 25. Now 28 and 2 children later. Still very happy.

I know of about 5/6 couples who all met at uni when I studied there with them. Only one have split. DH and I met just before we moved to uni but did study end up near each other (think same town, but different unis) and we are still together 20 years later.