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Couples who got together from uni

224 replies

SwahiliSongs · 26/06/2020 07:30

If you know of a couple (or perhaps you) who have met their other halves at uni, are they still together? Happily?

I got together with my DH at 18. I'm now in 30s and I sometimes wonder how things might have turned out otherwise.

My sister met her DH at uni and they seem very happy, they are in their 40s now.

By the way, they don't have to have gone to uni i just mean it as a shorthand for 18 to 21-22, because i think younger than 18 is too young and older than 22 is still sort of ok in my view to start a serious relationship

OP posts:
Prettybluepigeons · 26/06/2020 10:41

Met at uni. I was 2p, he was 23.
Been married 23 years, together nearly 30

hairycabbage · 26/06/2020 10:42

Met at 19 and 20, married at 22/23 and still together (happily) at 41/42

I8toys · 26/06/2020 10:46

Met when I was 20. Married at 24. Kids at 30. Now 48. Very happy although we are both working at home at the moment and it can be tense at times.

Stopyourhavering64 · 26/06/2020 10:51

Met husband at Uni...been together 38yrs, married for 33...several of my Uni friends also met their partners at same time and still together

bespokepaininthearse · 26/06/2020 10:52

Met when I was 17 at college, been together coming up 13 years, 2 kids and a house 🤷‍♀️

Defaultuser · 26/06/2020 10:53

I come from the other side. I met DH at 33 and often wish we had met earlier so we could have had more shared experiences and bought a house earlier etc. It would also have saved me a lot of heartache in my 20s . But maybe I wouldn't have appreciated him then!

nannyplumsmagranny · 26/06/2020 10:55

I did. Together for long time and happily married.

dementedpixie · 26/06/2020 10:56

Met at uni at age 19. Got married age 26. Still together at age 46 with 2 kids age 13 and 16.

kikisparks · 26/06/2020 11:00

Got together at school, apparently too young to start a serious relationship per your OP but we’re still together over 15 years later, been married for 4. Very happy apart from some health issues and infertility.

SnuggyBuggy · 26/06/2020 11:01

I know it's not necessarily the be all and end all but it must help that someone you meet at uni is more likely to come from a similar background and have a similar outlook to you. There are exceptions but I think these things can make a relationship simpler than one where you have a huge amount of boundaries and different expectations to work through.

MilerVino · 26/06/2020 11:28

*It would also have saved me a lot of heartache in my 20s . But maybe I wouldn't have appreciated him then!

I definitely appreciate my DP so much for having met later in life and having got to the stage when I thought I wouldn't meet anyone. I could wish we'd got together earlier and been able to have children together (I'm too old now) but since I cannot go back and change things, I'd rather appreciate what I've got now.

When I told a friend of mine I'd met someone her first question was 'is he very good looking'. Well no, he's not. He's fit and I find him attractive but he's not conventionally good looking. He is loyal, kind, devoted and very generous (emotionally, also materially but that bothers me less). Having been with men who were guarded and unable to give me much time and energy, I really appreciate the fact that he does.

bluemolly · 26/06/2020 11:29

@Defaultuser

I come from the other side. I met DH at 33 and often wish we had met earlier so we could have had more shared experiences and bought a house earlier etc. It would also have saved me a lot of heartache in my 20s . But maybe I wouldn't have appreciated him then!
I feel this way too! I’m sad that we didn’t find each other much earlier.
Angel2702 · 26/06/2020 11:31

I was 18 husband was 17 and at college when we met. We got married at 21 and 20 and have been married 16 years very happily.

minipie · 26/06/2020 11:33

it must help that someone you meet at uni is more likely to come from a similar background and have a similar outlook to you

Yes, and also a similar level of intelligence which to me is pretty important. Not saying you can’t find intellectually similar people elsewhere, but at uni they’ve been pre selected for you!

Mimimama75 · 26/06/2020 11:34

Yep! Smile met on first day of last year of Uni 23 years ago! I was 21 he was 24. Married 6 years later, 2 kids, a huge mortgage and now a puppy! A sense of humour helps a lot!

Roomba · 26/06/2020 11:44

I met my ex at uni and were were together with two DC for 17 years.

My best friend met her husband at uni, they are very happily married with kids 24 years on.

Another friend met her husband on their first day at uni. They were welded together from then on - neither had even kissed someone else before. Tbh most people assumed it wouldn't last after they left uni, just because it was so intense, but they're still very happy together 20 years later.

Also know a few people who didn't last after uni, once they were working they drifted apart or net other people.

Roomba · 26/06/2020 11:48

I still remember the speech given by our Vice Chancellor during freshers week. He said that at least a third of you will marry someone you meet here, very likely someone in this very room. At which point thousands of us looked around us at once, surveying the pool of candidates Grin

Campurp · 26/06/2020 11:49

We got together at 16 and 17, married at 26 and 27, our first child is turning 1 on Sunday and we’re now 28 & 29.
Who knows if it will be forever but we’ve grown together through some tough time’s and are still happy. Every relationship if different I guess

Pugsrus · 26/06/2020 11:54

Met at uni 27 years ago
Married ,still together

FunTimes2020 · 26/06/2020 12:31

Don't understand the point of the thread. Are you going to make a graph with the data? Confused

FlowerTink · 26/06/2020 12:49

I met DH at 18, he was 19. We're happily married and in our 30's with two children.

TJ17 · 26/06/2020 12:59

Me and my husband got together at 16 and are still together now at 29. Married, 1 DS and 1 DD on the way

HumphreyGoodmanswife · 26/06/2020 12:59

Met DH when we were 19/20, got married when we were 22/23. Had 9 years growing up together before children, travelling, experiencing new things, having a whale of a time. Now got 2 DC's and about to celebrate our 22nd wedding anniversary. Couldn't be happier. If anything we're more loved up than when we first got married. I feel we are so lucky that we met young enough to have a long time having fun together before growing up and having children.

mindutopia · 26/06/2020 13:12

I met dh when he was in uni. I'm a cougar, so I was not in uni anymore. Blush Very happily married in mid 30s ish now. I don't think dh feels like he missed out on anything as he really isn't the sort to have wanted to see out random hook ups or play the field. But I definitely had a very exciting time in my 20s and I think I would feel like I missed out if I hadn't done all that before settling down. I am glad I met dh when I did...after having all that fun.

But fwiw nearly all of our close friends met their now dh/dw in uni. All seemingly happy together, except for one who separated after about 15 years but are trying to make it work again. They are all massively sensible people though (I mean that in the sense that they are no drama, chose really lovely partners, really supportive relationships, no issues so I would imagine they are probably the ones who have had an easy time of it).

Gabrielknight · 26/06/2020 13:13

Been with DH since I was 15. Mid 30s now. Still very happy