Couples who got together from uni

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If you know of a couple (or perhaps you) who have met their other halves at uni, are they still together? Happily?

I got together with my DH at 18. I'm now in 30s and I sometimes wonder how things might have turned out otherwise.

My sister met her DH at uni and they seem very happy, they are in their 40s now.

By the way, they don't have to have gone to uni i just mean it as a shorthand for 18 to 21-22, because i think younger than 18 is too young and older than 22 is still sort of ok in my view to start a serious relationship

I met DH in a gap year just before uni. We're still together 22 years later.

My Ex met his ExW at Uni, they were married shortly after graduating, had 4 DC together but split up after 14 years. From what he told me his ExW had no other relationships prior to him and then started to get restless after having the DC. To be honest she had a better degree than he did, he got a 3rd and she got a 1st but he expected her to forgoe her career so he could be the breadwinner when the DC came along. I can see why she was disatisfied.

I thought I'd marry the man i was with through uni. We were perfect in lots of ways, but really, I wanted someone older and more experienced. We were like brother and sister. I.cheated on him horribly and fairly extensively, then left him for an unemployed pot head 10 years older than me in my home town. Had 2 miserable years, hwich t h e Catholic in me thought I deserved, then escaped.

Met dh at 24 , who ticked all the boxes.

I honestly think age is irrelevant, it's about when you need your soulmate.

Met at school actually, but started going out when we had both finished our respective universities at 22. Together for 22 years, including happily married for 15 years, unhappily married for 1 year, separated then divorced for 9 years. He had a mid-life crisis and then an affair and is now married to her. They seem blissfully happy having met in their mid 40s.

Met in first year, been together for 34 years, married for 29. Three now grown up fledgling DCs, an allotment, a dog and a cat.

Probably sounds dead boring but we are happy.

I met DH at University but when we were doing PhDs. Everyone we knew split up from their BF/GF from their first degree in their first year of their PhD (we'd all moved cities) and then we all coupled up with other PhD students. Many of us married our BF/GF from our PhD University experience but many others didn't and met someone in their 30s or are still single. There's a couple of divorces but the vast majority are still married after 20 plus years.

Met at 21, married at 23. 38 years anniversary in august.
Best school mate, got with bf at 16, married for 39 years.

Met my DH at uni, I was 20, he was 19. Got married at 24. Very happily married having been together for 23 years and married for 18. We have grown up together. We share interests and love spending time together. Relationships work or they don't, I don't personally think age matters.

I have a colleague who met his wife in freshers' week. Still together 20 years later, two lovely children. They seem happy together but I know him at work and he makes the occasional comment that lets the world know he is not happy with the lack of experience he has with women. He's a decent man but I think he's vulnerable because of that. They are doing better than many who met later in life though.

I met my husband when I was 22. He was 31, though.

I was 22 Dh was 21, I had already graduated he was doing a 4 year course. Been married 20 years, very happy with two teenage sons. Certainly do not feel like we settled too young.

My parents met at university so when I broke up with my university boyfriend I wondered if that was it 😁

So glad I did had other relationships then was single for a while so when I met dh at 28 knew he was by far the best of the lot. I learned stuff from my other relationships glad I didn’t settle so young. But it’s a very personal thing

Yep, met my husband at my last year at university and have been happily married for 19 years. That said I did have boyfriends and many adventures before we met so I've never felt I missed out.

I am fortunately not with my uni boyfriend (as he was a dick), but I would say of my friends who got into long term relationships at uni , about half are still together and about half are not. There were a whole spate of divorces around the time we turned forty.

Perfectly normal. In my cohort of 6 closest friends at university (same college) 3 married university boyfriends, 2 met and married someone they met later - one through work one at the pub. The latter had a bit of a meltdown when she was single at 30 because she thought she was on the shelf and very much wanted to settle down. One has had a series of boyfriends, but is thoroughly independent and has never wanted to settle down.

Younger than 18 is too young????

I met my husband when we were both 15 and we are married and have been together 13 years and still going very strong

I met my husband at uni but broke up when he graduated from his masters before me. I did the traveling thing and dated other people but I knew deep down I’d already met the person I was looking for. We got back together mid 20s and are happily married with 2 children (another on the way). I think because we had those 2 years apart I’ve never had the feeling we met too young, I resented him for dumping me at the time but he did actually do us both a favour. I had an amazing time traveling as a single person! When we got back together we were both more mature and ready to settle down.

I know many couples who met at uni (it’s pretty common after all!) and only 1 has divorced so far (we are late 30s). They did grow apart, they met at 19 and I guess they ended up wanting different things, they were the couple you thought would stay married too, always rock solid. I guess people can just grow apart whether you meet really young or a little older.

Met DH at uni, got together a couple of years after graduating, married 6 years later and still together in our early 40s with 3 DC.

As someone said earlier in the thread, I love that we have so much shared history and have spent most of our adult lives together.

Agree that this is very normal.

My parents met at uni. Still very happy 70 years later.

Dh and I met on holiday abroad when I was 19 (he was a local). Still very happy 40 years later.

Niece met her husband in secondary schook. Still very happy 17 years later.

Friend met her husband when they were 15. Still happy 40+ years later.

I could go on...

Then again I know plenty of happy couples who met in their late 20s, their 30s, their 40s etc. Rather looks like there's no rules for this sort of thing.

We met at 17.5 years old.
So not sure if that's too young, ir doesn't feel it.
We got married when we was 21 had our first baby when we was 25 and the second when we was 27.
We're 28 now, have a 1yo and nearly 3yo, we're doing okay.
We didn't go to uni, financially we're doing okay but definitely not doing average or even above that.
DH has had a few mental health issues, mainly depression.
The only real time our relationship has been a bit worse for wear is during one of his severe, bleakest pits of depression. He worked through it.
But I'm genuinely very happy, I love him so much and I believe he really loves me too and would do almost anything to make me happy.
Its sometimes been hard with lack of sleep that comes with children, maybe snapped at each other when we knew we shouldn't have.
I'm very happy.
I do wonder occasionally where I'd be if our lives had taken a different route, but im really quite happy and love our boys.
Besides, everyone says no one else could put up with me 😅

Kind of a weird question but okay.
We met at 18 when we started uni but didn’t get together until we were 21. Now 30 and have been married 6 years, have 1 child, very happy! I don’t think that’s too exceptional though? I know a lot of people who met their spouses at a similar age (although not necessarily at uni)

Yep, me and DH met at uni - 25 years together this year, children, home, generally pretty happy

It's lovely that the majority of replies are in happy relationships.

That is because you are asking who met their other half at that age, so mostly people who are still together reply. If you would ask who met their ex at that age you'd get adifferent story.

Met when we were 20, married a year later and had our first dc, second dc came along shortly after, still together 10 years later.
I have a family member who are still with their partner from secondary school, they started dating at age 14, they are now married.