Couples who got together from uni

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If you know of a couple (or perhaps you) who have met their other halves at uni, are they still together? Happily?

I got together with my DH at 18. I'm now in 30s and I sometimes wonder how things might have turned out otherwise.

My sister met her DH at uni and they seem very happy, they are in their 40s now.

By the way, they don't have to have gone to uni i just mean it as a shorthand for 18 to 21-22, because i think younger than 18 is too young and older than 22 is still sort of ok in my view to start a serious relationship

Met at 21 and married at 30. No breaks or tough periods really. As others have touched on, you change a lot in your 20s and the key is we grew up together - our values, goals, beliefs, etc all stayed aligned. Part of that was good communication, part of that was blind luck.

Been with my DH since teenagers, 30s now. Very happy. We've had our ups and downs, it's been a journey really getting to know each other while we are getting to know ourselves! I think it's an age where you either end up growing up together or growing apart, for us it was the former.

To anyone in a young relationship like that I say it's vitally important you fulfil your own ambitions and don't hold each other back. I went to university hours away and I studied abroad, DH didn't go to uni but joined the military. Even though it meant lots of absence, if you don't fulfil your ambitions you will resent each other eventually. And if you truly love each other your relationship will withstand it.

I think it's incredibly special to have a person I have shared my life with since such a young age, it's rare, I understand not everyone gets it but I appreciate it every day. That said, it shouldn't mean you're stuck if you aren't happy, people do change and it's more likely in a relationship spanning that age range.

Close friends of mine met at Uni in 1982 - they met me too - still happily married

older than 22 is still sort of ok in my view to start a serious relationship

That’s a relief 😅

@TomNook

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I got together with now dh at university aged 19, married 5 years later and now been married nearly 13 years with two kids. Still happy.

I met dh at uni and we’re still happily married at 40.

Got together in our final year. 10 years later now, 1 toddler and another baby on the way. I feel very fortunate. There have been a few moments where my single friends lives seemed so exciting, but really I also felt relieved to be settled and without the stress.

We met at 20, married at 24. Been together now nearly 40 years. Had periods of being apart early on cos of work. Living together wasn't really done then, I do think now we wouldn't have married so early but definitely would have moved in together after uni.

We got together at 17 and 18, married five years later. Still happily married after almost 38 years. Although we married at 22 and 23 we didn't have children until our early thirties. Most of our friends who are our age (around 60) got together as teenagers and married in their early twenties - that was the norm then, in my circle anyway. Out of my close friends only one has been divorced - had been married at 16 because a baby was on the way. All the rest are still happily married, most didn't rush to start a family though. Like us, several had been married nearly a decade. We all got on the property ladder very early. I know that people say young marriages don't last but that hasn't been my observation - I think you are not as set in your ways so it can work better. My own children are now several years older than we were when we got married and I can see now how young it was but it didn't seem like it at the time. When I see people marry at 25 or 26 now that seems young.

A family friend met his wife at Uni. When I set off, he said to me, "Watch out for the boys you meet in Freshers Week because you might end up marrying one of them." And that's exactly what happened!

An old school friend of mine has been with her now husband since she was 14, they married straight after graduating and are now mid 50's, still together and very happy.

Met my husband when I was 16. Been together for 22 years and married for nearly 14 years. Would have got married sooner but wanted to graduate first and save a bit.

DH and met at the very end of uni. Married, 2 kids now.

I'd say 50% of our friends met their other halves at uni and are now married to them.

I agree with nothereagain - although we met at school we went to separate universities and spent a lot of time apart so didn't restrict each others plans.

met when we were 18 and 22 (married at 22 and 26) and we're going strong 6.5 years later. we've had many life experiences to bring us closer together but we had a lot to deal with in our childhoods so we had grown up a bit already when we met.

I got together with husband when I was 21 and he was 22. I was at uni he wasn’t - he was recently split from his wife and had a 3 year old.

We’re now 37 and 38 with kids of our own, DSS has 5 sibs between us and ex-wife.

Do I think about what my life might have been like if I’d not settled for this one? Yes, often. But I am broadly content and often happy.

I met my DH on the first day of sixth form so we were 16/17. We got engaged before we went to different universities. We got married on our 10 year anniversary and now have two children.

My PIL got together young too and most of DH's family settle down early. My DM was concerned for us getting engaged so young because she married young and got divorced

None of the couples I was at university with stayed together for more than a few years, bar one, still going strong 22 years later.

Although I was madly in love with the boyfriend I was with from 19-22, I was personally far too young to know what I wanted out of life and had we stayed together, we would have stifled each other.

I met my DH at 32 when I'd grown up enough to know my own mind. We're still happily together 10 years on.

From another perspective I had a wonderful BF when I was at Uni, we had two very happy years together but I felt 'restless' and just assumed it would be really easy to find someone else I would get on with as well so ended it so that I could have 'fun' with other men.

In all honestly I have never had such a great relationship as that one, even though I've been married twice , and been with my second DH over 30 years. I don't know if maybe I look back on it with rose tinted glasses but it was just a great relationship and yes I have tried to look him up on social media .

I met DH my first night at uni! We moved in together 3 days later (he was sofa surfing as the uni had mixed up his accommodation), married after 5 years and had two DDs after another nine years.
Sadly he died when they were both still in nappies, but we had 16 wonderful years and I still miss him nearly 29 years later. He was my soulmate, and irreplaceable. I never remarried, and raised the DDs alone.
My sister met her first DH at uni and he was a violent alcoholic (later became a professor). The marriage rapidly ended in divorce.
So it seems that meeting young or at uni is just as variable in outcome as meeting at any other stage of life. Which one would expect!

I have quite a few friends who married people they got with in the first year of uni. We’re all in our early thirties now and they seem happy.
I know what you mean by that comment about under 22 being too young for that level of commitment. It was never going to be the route I took (I had wild oats to sow) but my friends all seemed content in their relationships throughout my “wild” years and still don’t seem to have had anything to “get out of their system”.
Sorry for all the cliches. I think everyone is different. Some people only want committed relationships. Some want a few years of sexual freedom first. Some never want to commit to just one person.

We didn't go to Uni, but met when we were 19 and 20 and 11 years later we are still together with a mortgage and 2 kids

Couple 1) got together in first year of university in 1979/80. Married a few years later. Still together

Couple 2) got together in 4th/5th year of university (medics) in early 80s. Married a few years later. Still together

Couple 3) met in 1st year at university in 1979/80. Were friends but never a couple there and got together at 10 year reunion do. Married soon after. Still together.

Couple 4) got together in first year of university in mid 80s. Married a couple of years after leaving. Divorced after 7 years.

Met at 20, still together 20 years later. I know a handful of couples the same.