Is height really important ?

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Had a social distance date with a guy yesterday. Was a little disappointed to see he looked shorter than the 5'11 that was on his profile (I'm 5'7 so quite tall) but then when we got talking I found him a nice person and we seemed to get on great.

Just wondered others thoughts on height and those who have a partner what are your heights ? Does it bother you ?

Sorry but yes height is important to me I wouldn’t date someone who was short but I know my opinion will be unpopular though

Dsis is 5.11. Her husband of 25 years is the same height as you.
Probably just as well as otherwise all their kids would be giants!

It would bother me, because I'm 5'9 and lots of people are shorter than me. I just don't feel particularly attracted to people I tower over, even if they are nice. I think some of that is because men are a bit weird about women who are taller than them and can be really awkward about it (or overcompensate in weird and unappealing ways). Fortunately, my dh just happened to be both lovely and 6'5 so problem solved.

I just generally think it's a physical attraction thing though. I'm not particularly attracted to men with blond hair and light eyes and fair skin either, so I tend to steer away from them.

Surely it's an individual opinion thing? I'm 5'4" so most men are taller than me. However I'm not sure I've dated anyone less than about 5'10", but that's not on purpose.
I would hate to discount a lovely partner just because of their height, which they had no control over whatsoever

I think I'd be more annoyed at him lying than the fact he was on the short side. It seems to be all the rage for men to lie about their height, it's happened to me a few times now. No idea why they do it, it's quite an obvious lie to unpick! I'm quite short but I can't deny I tend to find taller men more attractive, something evolutionary maybe?!

Am 5:10, person I’m seeing is 5:8. No it doesn’t matter as long as they’re nice to you 🤷‍♀️

Er yes height is a big deal to me tbh, I'd hate a guy to be shorter than me. Likewise tiny hands 😱

My DP is shorter than me. He's a really great guy in other ways so it's never bothered me. Personally I think it's a bit of a shame to pass on someone just for that, but it's a personal thing.

Height is not a consideration for me.

So long as he’s the same height or taller than me it’s not an issue.
DH is 5’ 8” and I’m 5’ 5”.

I'm 6' on the nose. I've dated men much shorter than me, and it didn't bother me as long as it didn't bother them. My partner is all of one inch taller than me.

BUT physical attraction is very personal, so if it bothers you I would probably just move on.

I’m 5’6” and I find myself drawn to short guys a bit! I have no idea why! That said I don’t think I’d go shorter than my own height.

There’s only 3 or 4 inches difference between DP and I and if he’s ever up higher for some reason (like on a step beside me) I hate how much taller than me he is and that I am looking up his nose!

I don't have many preferences- I've been with fat, thin, muscly, ginger, dark, bearded, long hair, shaved head.

The only think I've ever really been bothered about is height. I've always preferred men over 6ft. Not sure why, I'm only 5ft 3.

It’s up to you if you are attracted to him.

I wouldn’t get past the lying though. If height is important to you and you agreed on a date based on certain criteria you found attractive and he conned you into a date, I wouldn’t take it further. What else is he going to lie about? Telling you what you want to hear?

God yes especially because I'm tall myself.

I'm 5ft2 (rounding up ) and the shortest I ever dated was 6ft 1. DH is 6'4", and I always joke when people ask why I like him that I needed a genetic boost for the heights of children. I think it's fine to like what you like, and so if that's not for you - move on, plenty of taller men about. I agree that the lying and timewasting is a huge no no. I don't understand why people do this, it's surely a form of catfishing?

I'm 5'10, I've dated one guy shorter than me by about a couple of inches. I was daft for him, but me being taller than him made me very self conscious and I wouldn't wear heels anywhere, he was a dick anyway, but I was young and stupid.
DP is 6'3 and now I'll comfortably wear heels to go on nights out with him.

Yes he needs to be taller. Im 5ft0 so never been a problem

Haven't found any men put off by my height. Why the sexism by us ladies?

Well, I'm a slim guy - so if, by the same token, you think there'd be nothing wrong with me rejecting all woman over a Size 10, no matter how much chemistry we otherwise have going on, then we're all good.

For what it's worth, I personally think I'd be stark raving bonkers to reject someone I felt I "clicked" with over something so completely inconsequential as a dress size (okay, maybe if there were extreme differences, however that's not what we're discussing - this guy isn't even shorter than you).

It seems to be all the rage for men to lie about their height, it's happened to me a few times now. No idea why they do it, it's quite an obvious lie to unpick!

If they didn't they wouldn't even get a date. They figure that this at least allows you to meet them and (hopefully) realise you have chemistry/they have other charms which will then lead you to maybe give the height a pass. Bear in mind, the average height for a guy in the UK is 5' 9'' - which going by the responses on here means the vast majority of single guys get an Instant Swipe Left unless they add a couple of inches. I've not done it myself, by I can sympathise - better to risk being rumbed and/or fail to win someone round than never get any opportunity in the first place,

I’m tall and always go for men over 6ft . If I liked someone a lot not sure it would be a deal breaker but it’s never happened because I’d assume subconsciously iv not being attracted to shorter guys . The taller the better !!

I'm 5ft5 if I fancy someone, I fancy them. But I'd probably be slightly put off if they were smaller than me. I'd get over it, sure, but it'd be immediately off putting.

He is taller than you.

You said he was nice and you 'got on great'.

Would you rather a tall bloke that wasn't nice and you didn't get on well with? I mean seriously?

Tall isn't the golden ticket

I’d struggle to be attracted to a man who I was “bigger” than. So yes it would bother me. I couldn’t be doing with someone reaching up to kiss me.

*but I can sympathise - better to risk being rumbled and/or fail to win someone round than never get any opportunity in the first place.

I'm 5'7 and DH is 5'10. Doesn't bother me, in fact the other great love of my life was about an inch shorter than me.

I've also dated men of 6' and over. It's personality that does it for me, over and above everything else.