Is height really important ?

[fortunacookie]

Had a social distance date with a guy yesterday. Was a little disappointed to see he looked shorter than the 5'11 that was on his profile (I'm 5'7 so quite tall) but then when we got talking I found him a nice person and we seemed to get on great.

Just wondered others thoughts on height and those who have a partner what are your heights ? Does it bother you ?

I read an interesting article about this. fivethirtyeight.com/features/how-common-is-it-for-a-man-to-be-shorter-than-his-partner/

Spoiler: only 4.1% of heterosexual couples have the woman taller than the man.

Aslong as they are taller than me I couldn't care less.

only 4.1% of heterosexual couples have the woman taller than the man.

How many gay couples have the woman taller than the man?

I'm not touching that one! Leave it to FWR!

I'm 5 foot 7.y dp is 5 foot 4 and I love it. I've never wished he was taller.

Best bloke I've ever been with tbh.

What do live about him being 5’4’’......? I’m just asking because you say ‘I love it’ you love the fact you’re taller?

@DreamChaser23

I think a lot of women forget to realize that their height also has an impact on the child. Someone posted that song tend to be 5-6 inches taller than their mothers. From my personal experience I have seen many examples of this.

Friends brother 5 foot 9 their mother 5 foot 3 and dad 6 foot 2

Another relative is 5 foot 6 his mother was 5 foot 1 and dad was 5 foot 11

And another neighbour she's 5 foot 6 partner is 5 foot 8 and son is just under 6 foot

There does seem to be some truth in the 5-6 inch mothers height.

I am 5'4", ex is 5'7" and it looks like our DS will also be about 5'7". I have wished he gets another couple of inches, enough to overlook his dad. Because when ex and I were together, he kept going on about how I would end up being the shortest in the family, and surely I must hate that?

And he couldn't understand that no, I'm not bothered. So I think it was projection on his part, that he is the one who is bothered by being short. Which is why I'd love DS to be able to look over his head, it would piss ex off big time in a way that he couldn't actually say anything about.

I have preferences until I meet someone whose personality and person I'm attracted to, then it doesn't matter. The guy I'm seeing now is the same height as me, we get on brilliantly, he's amazing in bed and has a bigger penis than the 6ft 4 guy I was seeing last year. I remember last year loving being with such a big man but he really wasn't good in bed. Now, it doesn't matter if you put Chris Hemsworth in front of me, I would find the guy I'm seeing more attractive.

So, in my opinion, height doesn't matter when you get to know the person.

Yes and no. I am 6ft 2 and was happy to date shorter guys until it became an issue. He never wanted me to wear heels, got me to crouch down in photos and his family constantly commented on it. He had affairs with two petite women and is now married to someone who is 5ft.

The second guy also had a problem with it but just refused to go out to dinner with me or to take photos at all.

I am now married to a 6ft man who couldn't care less that I am slightly taller than him and cheerfully jokes about it himself. It is really refreshing. So it only becomes an issue when it is an issue for them.

I do remember dating a 6ft 5 rugby player though and feeling tiny.

Thought of another one. Stephen Merchant or Jamie Cullum?

Just googled them and I’m sorry but they’re both very unattractive guys!

Wolfgirl - neither.

I find it's me that's concerned about only dating men my height or taller (I'm 5 foot 11). Men don't seem to mind too much or that's the impression I get from online dating.

Baredbloom - glad you've now got a goodun the previous ones can't have made you feel good about being tall

Yes I love it because hes absolutely gorgeous to me. I find him really attractive and to be honest although hes small hes strong but soft as a brush..my ex towered over me and he was abusive and bloody horrible to me.

I dont know I just find him bloody attractive. Hes no pushover that's for sure and he just oozes confidence (even though sometimes he doesn't feel it) .my 6 foot ex never did and was not a man to me, never could stick down a job, never helped me and was an abusive twat.

Hes more of a man than my ex will ever be. Also brilliant in bed

Well I've just had date 4 with my guy n his height is really not an issue for me anymore as I've got to know him even more now...and the more I find out the more I like

I'm 5ft 5, wouldn't date anyone under 6ft. Not that I'm dating anymore, DH is 6ft2. At the end of the day it's personal preference

That's good to hear @fortunacookie
Personally I find it easier to share a bed with someone more my size. You don't end up rolling towards them because they've turned the mattress into a downhill slope. Also, you're more evenly matched when it comes to duvet hogging.

That's very true milervino 🤣

Dp is small and not very round unlike my ex who was tall and big

Hated sharing a bed with him, duvet and bed hogger, not to mention a terrible snorer

As a mid 40's man of 5"2 and now with the added bonus of thinning and greying, I've come to the conclusion that I will leave this mortal coil with my cherry well and truly in tact!

I gave up with OLD after years of either no replies or replies ranging from "sorry but that's too short for me" to "ha ha ha that's tiny!"

(and yes - I tried putting that I was taller, got more replies, only to get knocked back again as soon as I gave my real height - be that straight away or after exchanging a few messages and building a bit of a rapport.)

Or "I could never date a short man 'cos we'd look silly together when I'm wearing heels" - Can you imagine if a man said "I could never date a blonde woman 'cos her hair colour would look silly in my Vauxhall Nova!"

On the plus side, the money I've saved with not dating, having kids, etc. has meant I could retire early. And I often pass the time lurking here and chuckling to myself at all the posts about the lazy, feckless, cheating partners who are presumably much taller than me!

Seriously ladies - give us shorties a chance - Nobody wants us, so the chances of us having the opportunity to stray is even smaller than we are!!

I actually like best a man who is just a teensy bit taller than me. I'm nearly 5'8'' so I guess I like 5'8'' to 5'10'' in a guy.

I used to think I must have a talk guy but actually prefer almost the same height. Compact.

Someonem your post made me sad

I was 5'10", now closer to 5'9". OH is 6'11".
I actually found him too tall at first. But I've adjusted.

I've had partners ranging from 5'5" to 6'11" and I can honestly say height's never been that much of an issue.

I would be pissed about him lying about his height though.

OH jokes that I catfished him by an inch. We only found I'd shrunk at an antenatal appointment 😂

I love women who say they only like tall men, because my DP would have been snapped up before I got the chance. He's the complete package; he's kind and generous, thoughtful, amazing with my DC, beautiful, great in bed, owns his own house, has a good job, treats me like a princess, and is 5'8. He had been on OLD where he was told time and time again not to bother because he wasn't over 6'. And now I get to keep him because of those women who weren't interested because he's a little shorter.

I'm glad your dating is going well, OP.

I am just not attracted to men shorter than around 5ft 9. I'm 5 ft 6 and find this is my minimum. My first serious boyfriend was 6ft4, but I generally don't go for men this tall. But I do like men broader, taller and bigger than me. I also have a thing about hands, I like meaty hands. I'm weird

It bothered me. I am 5’10 and it was really weird dating one or two that were shorter and quite a lot are! My ex dp was 6’2 which was pretty good. When I was OLD before I met dh I put minimum height as 5’11. DH only just made the cut though, he is 5’11. It’s fine but I got married in flats as a few weeks before I went to a wedding in heels and the pics of us look a bit odd 🤣.

I agree it shouldn’t really matter but it did to me. I have a 6ft lady friend who married a 5ft2 bloke though, and they are very happy.

My experience of OLD is that men lie about their height because they want to date the tallest woman possible. So a 5ft 5 man will say he is 5ft7, to date a woman who is 5ft 6. If they just to,d the truth and dated women of the right height for themselves, they wouldn't have an issue. It's as bad as lying about their age