Is height really important ?

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Had a social distance date with a guy yesterday. Was a little disappointed to see he looked shorter than the 5'11 that was on his profile (I'm 5'7 so quite tall) but then when we got talking I found him a nice person and we seemed to get on great.

Just wondered others thoughts on height and those who have a partner what are your heights ? Does it bother you ?

@Penguinice I must admit it would be nice to get a response from any over a Size 10, who expressed a preference for 5'11+ as to whether my (hypothetical) example was fair play too (I'm a slim guy - so if, by the same token, would you think there'd be nothing wrong with me rejecting you and all woman over a Size 10, no matter how much chemistry we otherwise have going on?) Is what's good for the goose good for the gander?

(@ThoseBootsAreMadeForWalking@ThoseBoots - appreciated your thoughts, however I'm taking from your response that your a Size 10 or below anyway?)

personally think I'd be stark raving bonkers to reject someone I felt I "clicked" with over something so completely inconsequential as a dress size

I think you’re on the wrong thread. This isn’t about weight it’s about height.

Eh, she’s not said she won’t date a fat bloke. She’s asking about height..confused

Umm... both are physical characteristics neither sex have any control over (some would argue moreso in the case of height, so, eh, yes, there is equivalence...)

Height is part of attractiveness so a short guy would have to be better looking than a tall guy for them both to appeal equally to me. I would have no problem dating Tom Cruise or Josh Hutcherson though.

Tossa you can reject any person for any reason you feel like.

Are you short by any chance?

No height is not an issue.

When you click you get beyond that.

I'm 6ft and my DH is 6'1" - so not much of a difference at all. Makes hugs, handholding and kissing easier though 😉

I always go for taller men but DH is 5.5 same height as me.

My previous boyfriend before him was 6.2 so when I met DH on the 1st date I was a bit like nope!

He was so kind and so lovely though I just forgot about his height - we've been together 13 years now with two DC, he was brilliant with my three eldest too and is an amazing stepdad.

both are physical characteristics neither sex have any control over

You think people have no control over their weight like their height?

Well I'm 5ft2 so a guy even the same height as me would be pretty small. I don't think I'd mind though as long as he was actually taller.

I think some of that is because men are a bit weird about women who are taller than them and can be really awkward about it (or overcompensate in weird and unappealing ways).

As opposed to the women who are weird about men who are shorter that them

Bluntness - it’s the same thing. Ruling out a relationship with a person on their physical appearance is so shallow! I have never once heard someone who has been married for a long time say ‘it’s been a wonderful marriage all because they are so tall/slim’.

@Bluntness100

Are you short by any chance?

Depends what you mean by short. I'm 5'10 so an inch above average height for the UK. Whether that's short in OLD terms, of course... shrugs

What's your dress size by the way?

TossaCointoYerWitcher - I can guarantee if you had come on and started a thread of your hypothetical example you would have been bombarded with responses saying how unreasonable you are.

You think people have no control over their weight like their height?

I did said some people would argue against that...

I’m 5ft 7” and my husband is 6ft 1” but I had boyfriends before him that ranged from also 5ft 7” to 6ft 6”. And in fact, other than my husband the best sex was with the one who was the same height as me 🤷🏼‍♀️ It did mean however that I was taller than him in heels, but he never cared and neither did I to be honest. Maybe I’m unusual in not caring though.

I’m 5’9 and my husband is 5’8. My previous long term relationship was with a man who was 5’5 and it didn’t bother me or him. I think being tall makes you less bothered by men’s height. It would be very unusual for someone 5’2 to meet men shorter than them, but us taller girls meet loads who are the same height or smaller. It’s all about chemistry in my book.

Ruling out a relationship with a person on their physical appearance is so shallow

Seriously? Then colour me shallow because I’d not shag a man I don’t fancy and I don’t fancy men who are shorter than me. And I’d not have a relationship with someone I don’t feel physically attracted to. That would be just friendship for me.

More than happy to be classified as shallow because I won’t shag men I don’t fancy, whose physical appearance doesn’t do it for me.

This isn’t going to help. I remember attending a relative’s wedding as a teen and the groom was much shorter than the bride. He needed a stool to do the vows and kiss the bride. That moment is etched in my memory. They’ve been married since, I calculate 20+ years.

Tossa I’m a ten to a twelve and five foot eight. Why?

Personally I'm quite tall and I've not dated anyone that hasn't been the same height as me or taller (I love being able to tuck under a guys chin for a hug) but I know plenty of great couples where the guy is shorter and nobody really bats an eyelid. They're happy, what does it matter what anyone else thinks?

TeeBee not really!

I'm 5'3 and my tallest BF was 6'5 and I can assure you it made a difference horizontal, things are more out of reach!

I’m 5’1” so pretty much every man is taller than me, dh is 5’11”. Have had a bf who was 5’7” which was personally a bit short and 6’1” who was too tall!! It’s personal preference, if it bothers you go for someone taller.

The height wouldn’t bother me, but blatant lying would. I’d wonder what else he was lying about.

@Bluntness100 Well, you did ask if I was short. Just wanted to return the favour.

I personally wouldn’t be attracted to someone shorter than me, but once they are taller, it doesn’t matter by how much iyswim?
I’m 5’8” and have been with someone who’s 5’10, and someone who’s 6’6” and all sorts in between. I have to admit I did used to find myself much more drawn to taller men, but my 5’11” husband is quite perfect as he is