Is height really important ?

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Had a social distance date with a guy yesterday. Was a little disappointed to see he looked shorter than the 5'11 that was on his profile (I'm 5'7 so quite tall) but then when we got talking I found him a nice person and we seemed to get on great.

Just wondered others thoughts on height and those who have a partner what are your heights ? Does it bother you ?

I'm 5 ft so I've never had to think about it really as all men are taller than me but my dh is 6 foot 1. I don't fancy short men . 😬

I'm 5'11 and I have never gone out with someone smaller than me, but that is a reflection of my own insecurities. I've grown to love my height as I've gotten older though.
My partner is 6'1 and I love his height

Personal choice.

I am 5' 3 and have always preferred a taller man although have had an ,LTR with someone about 5'8 or 9.

I do think that people notice very short or tall people, with both sexes, and there is a societal expectation in a het relationship that the man is taller. So couples that break this can and do get looks and comments

If you like him and fancy him then definitely don't let it put you off!

I'm 5'8 and DH is 6'4. I have 2 exes that were the same height as me. As much as I love my DHs height, it wouldn't be a deal breaker for me. There are much more important qualities imo

It's personal taste I guess. I'm about 5'7+ and only ever liked tall men. I feel too lanky with men shorter or the same as me.
I would be more annoyed about the lack of honesty though.

Height wouldn’t bother me but lying about it would.

My partner is 5ft 6 and a brilliant guy. Lots of women dismissed him for his height in the past. Their loss. My gain.

Most men over estimate their height online. You can always shave two inches off lol.
I'm 5ft 10 and had dates with shorter and taller men. It is preferable if they're at least your height but I had fun on dates with shorter guys. I don't think it matters really,

Did he lie about his height? What else has he lied about?

I’m short and never dated anyone under 6 foot, not really by design, just how it’s happened. DH is 6’1. Too tall can be an issue. I dated a man was 6’7 and for a stiff neck trying to look at him while we were walking. Makes no difference when you’re lying down but you won’t always be in bed.

If they didn't they wouldn't even get a date. They figure that this at least allows you to meet them and (hopefully) realise you have chemistry/they have other charms which will then lead you to maybe give the height a pass.

@TossaCointoYerWitcher

Don’t you think it’s awful to lie to con someone into going on a date?

That would be an instant red card for me for lying. If height is important to the person then it’s her choice surely? She might be shallow, she might pass out on an opportunity and die old and lonely eaten by her dogs but it’s still her choice.

How do you feel about people pretending they are 15 years younger and use old pics? People who pretend they have a good financial situation but are ‘in between jobs’? People who are almost divorce but the wife doesn’t know she’s an ex yet? Are these ok too in order to con a woman to date them?

Personally, I am small. I would have no issue with a man saying he prefers a fuller figure. I’d gladly wish him luck. I would not want him to ask me out on a date as I would feel insecure I’m not his type.

I’m pretty small so I meet very few men who are my height or shorter, however I still prefer men at least 8 inches taller for some reason and often date guys 1ft + taller.

After a while being single I’m considering whether I need to be less shallow

I’m 5.10 always dated taller men or similar height.

Then I met my husband...he’s a lot shorter than me. We were friends for a long time and I fell in love with the person. My wedding photos still make me giggle as he stood on a different step to me. Never would have thought I end up with a shorter person but I couldn’t imagine not being with him .

I’m 5’4 and partner built like a BSH. Wide and tall - and if he was shorter? Smaller? Yes I would still have been attracted to him I think, so long as he was still significantly bigger than me. But the size of him does something for me I must admit.

I prefer tall men if I’m honest. I met a lovely guy once and he was really handsome and had so much going for him but he was 5ft 5 and I just couldn’t get past that. It’s the same height as me. I know how shallow that sounds. Current FWB is approx 6ft 4 and I love his height.

I'm 5'3 and I think 5'10 would be my upper height ceiling if I were single. DH is 5'11, but I'll let him off for being gorgeous. To be honest I've never enjoyed being loomed over, I prefer not to be staring up all the time.

How much shorter than 5 11? If he is 5.9 what is the problem. You fancy him or you don't. Try kissing him to check cos sometimes it is indeed in the kiss, as Cher said.

PS no height doesnt matter, attraction does.

If this were a thread of men stating they wouldn’t date a woman over a size 10 there would be uproar, such double standards!

Ah the point about him lying is a good one.

I get that online dating is cut-throat but an outright lie isn't good.

Was the height compulsory to fill in on the site? If so that's a bit more understandable.

Would be interesting to know how many men v women lie about stuff on old.

@ThoseBootsAreMadeForWalking

Don’t you think it’s awful to lie to con someone into going on a date?

Absolutely! Hence why I've never, personally, done it. But whilst I don't condone it, I guess I understand it - if you believe the alternative is not getting anything anyway, what have you got to lose?

They're all the same height lying down. 😉

I would not like to be with someone shorter than me.

However, there is too tall. We have a friend who is 6' 7. He is on the freakishly tall side, and known as Lurch.

My husband is 3” smaller than me. No issue at all, we’ve been together 21 years.

Height is important, I'm 5'6 and I don't date taller than 5'10. I can't stand tall guys.

Men lie about their height because if they don't they'd never get dates. I have a lovely male friend who is about 5' 5, and he just doesn't get any interest at all if he's honest.

Personally I don't like tall men. I'm 5' 5 and my partner is about 5' 7.

If this were a thread of men stating they wouldn’t date a woman over a size 10 there would be uproar, such double standards

Eh, she’s not said she won’t date a fat bloke. She’s asking about height..