Is height really important ?

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Had a social distance date with a guy yesterday. Was a little disappointed to see he looked shorter than the 5'11 that was on his profile (I'm 5'7 so quite tall) but then when we got talking I found him a nice person and we seemed to get on great.

Just wondered others thoughts on height and those who have a partner what are your heights ? Does it bother you ?

I like taller men. I’m 5”6 and my DP is 6”1. He has a preference for petite women

Is that not difficult for you? I think I’d feel weird if my partner Made it clear his preference wasn’t my type.

My husband is about 5ft 8, I'm 5ft 5 so he's taller than me but same height in heels and it's never been an issue.

Short men don't get dates in OLD. That is why men lie about their height. There seem to be a lot of women who won't even bother with a guy who isn't 6 ft tall.

I’ve gone out with men my height and shorter than me.

The idea that men have to be taller comes from the same place as the idea that they should be older/earn more/have higher status jobs.

That place is the past.

@Hopoindown31 I understand but some women like myself are short & height is not an issue! If you got a cute face to me you’re in !

short cute bloke over ugly tall ones ALWAYS

So to lie is unneccessary. With online dating the way I see it you’re trying to find someone online who, if you spotted them in real life, would be attracted to them.

So if you lie about a physical feature you are really deceiving someone straight off the bat !

Also insecurity is really unattractive - especially in the ruthless world of online dating. People who lie about their physical attributes tend to have a victim mentality “well just give me a chance!!!”

My dating choices are not a charity or equal opportunity scheme.

I wouldn’t date a man shorter than me but at 5ft 3 that is unlikely. I hate feeling like that because I’m certain my son is going to be short

It wouldn’t cross my mind. My DH is quite talk, 6ft something, but that had nothing to do with my choosing to marry him/being attracted to him.

It’s all the same on the horizontal!!!

Height doesn't bother me but I'm sure there would be a cut off. I'm about 5'2 so 99% of men are taller then me anyway. I'm not sure I could date someone even smaller than me.

I find shorter blokes more attractive. My DP is about 5'5 and I much prefer that to my ex who was 6'2. I constantly had neck ache from looking up at him, he had to bend down to kiss me and from the back I'm pretty sure it would look like he was holding hands with a kid.

My dad and brother are both in relationships where they are shorter than the woman. It doesn't seem to bother them at all.

I’ve always preferred taller guys (I’m 5’ 2”) and it’s always been my preference, but I felt like I was being judgey and unreasonable. A few years ago I met a guy who was definitely MUCH shorter than my usual type and I found it off-putting, initially, but was determined to give it a go as I knew it was my issue (and he seemed a nice guy) ..but I just couldn’t get past it 🤷🏼‍♀️ There were plenty of other issues too, which obviously didn’t help, but the height was a big thing. He turned up to take me out one night and I had dressed up for the occasion. However, in my heels I was just slightly taller than him, so I said “I’m gonna go and change my shoes” because I felt weird and he started ranting that I couldn’t be taller than him in my heels because he’s 5’8”....well I know they were heels but they weren’t 7” high!! Absolutely ridiculous, very off-putting and another nail in the coffin!!

I'm not attracted to guys that are a lot taller than me, I like them a couple of inches taller - there's kind of a narrow height range that appeals to me. More important is general physique - I prefer solid to rangy. I love that my bf's wrists are about twice the thickness of mine.

@PumpkinP

I don't agree that there would be an uproar if it was a man posting about not dating women over a certain size. Trust me A LOT of men won't date bigger/overweight women , that's very common and not a new thing

True. I won't go near anyone over a size 10. My ex wife was 47kg as was another lover. Even size 10 I've been turned off after a while as there's a wide spectrum of body shapes with that. I would never explicitly declare it in a dating profile or say it to someone though. You can't help what you're attracted to.

I normally go for taller guys but if I fancied someone and they ticked all the boxes personality wise then it wouldn't matter. I have actually dated some short guys, I'm short myself so there wasn't a problem. However I'm not really into petite men where they are just overall small and very thin.

Physical attributes are always important in some way. Up to you who you discriminate against based in physical appearance. Don't blokes do this all the time based on boob size?

@Normalmumandwife In truth I think most blokes are happy with what they can get to be honest.

I won't go near anyone over a size 10. Isn't a blanket ban a bit weird, as height makes a difference?

I think slightly taller women tend to be slimmer. If you gain a stone, it is going to be a lot more noticeable on a 5'2 than on a 5'7.

I always seem to see couples where the bloke is tall and lanky and the woman short and bigger, maybe it's a case of opposites attract.

@Normalmumandwife I agree, theres nothing wrong in saying so. Personally I would not date a man who was bald or balding, nor a man who was very skinny. I like a good build & thick hair.

I like a good build & thick hair.

Yes I love good hair, it seems to be rare though particularly amongst older men.

I am 5ft 3
DH is 5ft 7 (though he likes to say he is taller)

I used to like tall men but realised it is the person who counts, not the height

Its a shame that we all have these red lines as it really limits the field. Guys with full heads of hair, good build and over 6 foot- not so many as you get older.

I'm probably swiping left on 90-95% of profiles. Its depressing.

@bigboosh I never did OLD and am engaged now so hopefully will never need to! But of course chemistry comes first, if I had great chemistry with a balding man it wouldn't be a deal breaker.

@vikingwife DP has a couple of shorter friends who are dating at the moment, both lovely guys. They are struggling as women like you are very much in the minority it would seem. One of them actually showed us the abuse he got from one woman who accidentally swiped right on his tinder profile. He also showed us the huge number of female profiles that had clear statements around preferred heights and all were for taller men.

DP is a genuine 5ft11, I am 5ft9. Height has never been a factor for me, my ex was shorter than me and I had dated men well above 6ft. There was no correlation with how safe I felt with them or any embarrassment either. Luckily OLD was a very different thing last time I was on the market.

I don’t think the lying would bother me too much. Most fat women hide their weight in their profiles, I think it’s the same thing.

@hopoindown31 that’s really quite ugly behaviour... a real shame for anybody to be shamed for their height - what are they meant to go to Russia for that leg breaking op to gain a few inches ? Am still an old romantic & believe the right person who will click with you is out there, someone will find you attractive who you fancy too - online dating seems to move so quickly. Actually having a real romantic connection is a rare, special thing

I think at least it’s a good detector to know someone has a nasty streak, fine to have a presence but not ok to say “you’re too short sorry buddy” - if men spoke like this to woman & said “sorry you’re actually quite a few KGs heavier in real life & am not into chubby girls.” If you think something like that you should keep it to yourself

Arguably Blokes will get further by playing it up with a witty profile - have seen some awesomely funny profiles from short blokes - confidence & a “five zero fucks” attitude WILL get right swipes. But it’s hard to be “confident” about something which is being made fun of by society !

There was a post here recently about a father who was treating his son badly because he was short & the father is over 6 foot tall & disappointed/ashamed by having a short son - what in the hell? Even a female poster above made a comment about worrying her son would grow up to be a short man.

We need to change the narrative - this deserves to be talked about more. Women should arguably be the ones to instigate the conversation that this is NOT ok because it is something about our collective character they do not like or appreciate - understandably so

Women who would do this are only perpetuating that we as a “team” are a bunch of bitches & adds fuel to the Men’s Rights/Red Pill movement