Random ways we discovered he is a cheating scumbag

[LifeBeginsWhenYouLetIt]

My stbxh sent me a text that was meant for a prostitute!

I was out with friends and he was texting to see if I was having a nice time, then text ‘yes Thursday at 2 for 30 mins’
I’d had a few drinks so didn’t really register it until the next morning. He was so flustered when I asked about it and was coming out with crap so I looked at the phone bill and googled the number.
I’m ashamed to say I wanted to believe his excuse that he had never done it before and had never intended to go. Until I stumbled across his google account which saved his internet searches.
Years of googling her! I could match the dates to when I was away with work.
I kicked myself for being so gullible, then kicked him out.
I was just thinking how he would have got away with it if it wasn’t for that one text, and wondered how other people randomly found out.

My jaw is on the floor.

Chauffeur car to your house 😱

Jesus fucking christ, what a weapons grade tool.

@tarasmalatarocks

Apologies ladies, I’ve had a ton of work this week, will do it over weekend . There is though lots on the internet if you google Open DNS. First thing to do is set an account with them, it’s free , you don’t need the upgrade, you will need your WiFi on though when you do it

@tarasmalatarocks Did you do this?

I had a feeling he was up to something, looked on his phone and he had a lot of numbers blocked on WhatsApp, I could only put a name to one and saw that he had blocked her on Facebook too. I messaged her asking how they knew each other and she immediately got defensive and messaged him saying ‘your mrs is asking questions’ he then changed his whole phone and number (after loads of texts coming through). Anyway I pursued asking this woman and she finally said ‘he got fucked out’ to which he denied. A couple of weeks previous to speaking to this OW he was getting random lifts of someone at work (didn’t know his last name and walked quite a while for these lifts) when I found out a woman who he worked with took the exact same week off as this ‘man’ he also shaved randomly down there, which he did the very first time we had sex!

He disappeared for a weekend, then finally got in touch to say he'd been mugged and was in hospital. Turned up fine, with a slight limp, with the mobile phone he said they'd taken from him. But also posted a status on facebook (that he blocked me from seeing) that he'd been with a girl and they'd visited a farm- pictures of them holding baby rabbits. As you do...
I think it was a couple of weekends after that he left me in a club to go home with someone else. Not sure if it was the same girl.

Another one- I left to go to uni, he was working in my home town. I was aware that we were becoming quite distant and told him so. He burst into tears, sobbing down the phone that unless I quit uni and moved home he "couldn't do it anymore". Yet wasn't willing to relocate for me, and my degree which had literally been a way out of an absolutely shit life, which he knew. When I told him no, he dithered and whinged until I told him fine, he was being a dickhead and could consider himself single. Hung up on him. He got together with a co worker the next day.

Let's just say it was a video of a residential course. He was inadvertently caught in the background of an interview holding hands etc. with someone else. At that point during the viewing he looked awkward but knew he had the rest of the video to get his story together.

Video continued. Interview next morning with (as I now know) OW - he'd done the same distinctive and annoying thing to her hair that he usually did to mine in bed - it was completely plain (to me) what had happened. I just turned and looked at him and he about fainted because he knew there was no way he could lie his way out of it.

I couldn't say anything as other people were present but it wasn't necessary.

DD toddler came home from a walk with ex and started telling about the lady friend they had met on their walk.

Hi, would anyone be able to send me the link To the open dns instructions that taramasalatarocks made please.
I tried messaging her but I don’t think she has seen it.
My friend looked in her husbands history and saw adultworks and viva street. The poor woman has already been gaslighted half to death so I’ve told her to keep quiet this time and watch. I can’t work out how to do that thing though! Thanks.

Please PM me your email address. By the way adultworks and viva st are only very rarely pop ups— usually means they have been looked at if in history

@tarasmalatarocks I replied to your pm

tarasmalatarocks Well done for the detective work ! Do you work in IT? If i was in your shoes, i'd be sorry i posted, due to the sheer volume of requests you've had on MN from people who envy your knowledge.
As a pp has stated, these examples are of cheats who were randomly caught out, how many of them are still getting away with it?
@Slightlyjaded "Looking back, I wonder why on earth he didn't just finish with me and get together with her properly" Unfortunately cheats usually like the intrigue, it boosts their ego that they can lead a double life and deceive people.

@tarasmalatarocks would you mind sending me a pm with the opendns instructions please? I'm so not techie lol

Not me but I remember a mate of mine was certain her boyf was cheating. We were all like , no, no he's so into you.

Fast forward to lunchtime and I'm wandering around in my lunch hour and see wonder boy walking out of Clinton cards, with a Thornton's bag in his hand and a bunch of flowers, grinning like an idiot. That's her sorted then I thought.

Gets back to work. Waits. Sees mate. I don't mention anything. Wait till home time. Still no mention from her Figured he'd taken them home and give her them at night...

Morning after? Nothing mentioned at all from her.

They split up for some other reason a few months later but I reckon he'd been playing around months before that!

When I was 20, I had reason to believe my boyfriend had been ‘talking to’ a girl he’d met at a club we often went to with our friends. I can’t remember how I first became suspicious but there were multiple clues weaving a story as time passed. He vehemently denied any wrongdoing and had some kind of explanation for everything but in the end, he couldn’t explain away: a photo of this girl pulling her top up to expose her cleavage in a bra which he said was a Bluetooth mishap 😂 and her phone number in his phone, along with multiple calls and texts to her. I discovered the calls and texts when I asked him for his phone bill and he scanned and edited it to remove all evidence of her - but it was a terrible job with horizontal lines down the ‘bill’.

Another boyfriend met a girl on a night out and swapped numbers with her. I woke up to his phone more or less under my head/pillow from where he’d obviously passed out when he hit the deck and there was a text on the screen from the girl, saying how great it was to meet him!

@EmbarrassingAdmissions the OW’s initials aren’t LH are they? Part of a property investment thing?

Many moons ago, I was with an absolute arse of a 'D'P.

We were in a pub one night and an ex of his was there that I'd been suspicious of for a while.

I went to the toilet with a friend and when I came back, neither of them were there.

He'd gone round the back of the pub for a quick shag (classy pair).

1. Wife invited a couple over for dinner. I was quite friendly with the husband. Kids got on well. Kids went to sleep, eventually I went to bed. His wife went to sleep on a sofa, but woke up to catch her husband and my wife heavy petting in the hallway. His wife was brilliant: she told my wife "if you do not tell him, I will".

1. Wife asked if she could go to a female friend's house for the evening; friend's mother poorly in hospital, so I said yes. "I'm not sure if I'll stay over or come home". By midnight no sign, so I texted her "are you OK?" Instead of replying, she made a pocket call inadvertently to me. I heard her talking to our son's football coach, then brush their teeth etc., then start shagging him.

Thankfully I am now divorced and happy, but worry about being able to trust anyone in the future.