Random ways we discovered he is a cheating scumbag

[LifeBeginsWhenYouLetIt]

My stbxh sent me a text that was meant for a prostitute!

I was out with friends and he was texting to see if I was having a nice time, then text ‘yes Thursday at 2 for 30 mins’
I’d had a few drinks so didn’t really register it until the next morning. He was so flustered when I asked about it and was coming out with crap so I looked at the phone bill and googled the number.
I’m ashamed to say I wanted to believe his excuse that he had never done it before and had never intended to go. Until I stumbled across his google account which saved his internet searches.
Years of googling her! I could match the dates to when I was away with work.
I kicked myself for being so gullible, then kicked him out.
I was just thinking how he would have got away with it if it wasn’t for that one text, and wondered how other people randomly found out.

@KitNCaboodle. We had one meeting a week after I'd got back so I could return his stuff etc. He bought me the most disgusting 'sorry present' you can imagine. A cheap nasty stuffed toy holding a bottle of unheard of perfume. Honestly, you couldn't have made it up. Thankfully by then I was strong enough to tell him to keep his horrible present and that his apology was not accepted.

I saw them around sometimes. She was a nasty piece of work and once tried to scream abuse at me in a restaurant. By that point, I didn't give a fuck about him, and told her to calm down and that she'd done me a favour. They had a baby within a year and I think they stayed together for a couple more years after that.

It was a great lesson in trusting my gut.

Unbelievable. The brass neck of them.
It does make me laugh when the other woman feels the need to be vindictive, as if you as their ‘original’ partner was in the wrong.

@tarasmalatarocks can you also send me a how to

I borrowed his car. When I got out a stocking was stuck to my boot. It wasn't mine. I found everything else I needed to know on his phone later.

@ tarasmalatarocks please can I have the link too.
Thanks

@tarasmalatarocks bold fail above. Me too please.

Apologies ladies, I’ve had a ton of work this week, will do it over weekend . There is though lots on the internet if you google Open DNS. First thing to do is set an account with them, it’s free , you don’t need the upgrade, you will need your WiFi on though when you do it

He'd saved all his passwords on our 7yr old sons phone and was still signed into his Facebook messenger accounting it. Was lovely finding "I really do love you" messages to ow.

A facebook message from her telling me she was 16 weeks pregnant with his child and they wanted to be together so i should respect their decision and leave them to get on with their lives together. I can still remember the message word for word 7 years later.

@tarasmalatarocks could I have the details please

DD wanted some help with something and asked if he could help. He was preoccupied with his phone - grinning and smirking at it. She started crying and shouted at him asking if he could just stop messaging 'her' so that he could help.

Apparantly they were just friends. Although I don't recall shagging any of my friends....

Not until he had moved out, he didn’t have a car (we live in North London) so I was dropped bags at his new flat every few days. On one day a lady answered the door and asked if I was n name I said and she said lovely to meet you etc, so I thought she must be a flatmate. She then dropped in that I would probably miss being his flatmate, I said something like “ah, even been downgraded from the ex now” and the penny then dropped for both of us. They had been seeing each other for six months and she didn’t know he wasn’t single. I told her what a twat he was, showed her a nice foot print by my ribs and helped her dump the rest of his stuff onto the street.

@SimonJT oh my goodness me. I bet he had a shock later finding his stuff on the street. Good riddance for both of you.

Christmas day night, he left his wallet on the side and was on nights. We had been looking for a misplaced bank card for days so I looked without thinking much. Cinema tickets for a day months earlier when I was at a family event. He used his mental health as a excuse not to come.... our whole lives were built around his problems and he regularly told me how he was going to kill himself. Last thing I would have had him down as was a cheat.

He was at it with 3 different women I found out about in the end.

I only know the bits I did as I double bluffed him by saying I had left his old phone at the market with a phone man who has pulled everything of it onto his laptop and I'm off to go thru it all in the morning.

The phone was not there. He didn't know that. He squirmed and told me enough for me to know it was over.

@tarasmalatarocks please can I have the info too? 3 months of lockdown with emotionally absent ‘D’ H who’s been glued to his phone and work laptop have left me wondering...

I was recounting a date to a friend in a rather small expat community and as I was talking she was going whiter & whiter.

I'd met this guy at a party & we went out the next Sunday. Had a nice enough time but I found him quite distracted, and when I asked he said an old friend "Simon" was in town & he'd asked to meet up. I obviously said "go, meet your friend" but he didn't. Anyway, as I told my friend about the day & how he'd been texting his mate "Simon", she asked me to tell her more about the actual guy.

I said "mid forties, English, freelance photographer, named xxx" and she said "I was supposed to meet him for dinner but he told me he was out with an old friend who was in town, Simon!"

We got our revenge by confronting him at her leaving party & handing him our tab for all the g&ts we downed. Neither of us has ever seen him again.

My ex had been trying to call me, I hadn't answered as at work but he let it ring through to voicemail without realising and he left me a voicemail of him chatting with his friends about all the girls he had been with and that I was coming to visit the next week so to make sure nothing was mentioned in front of me!!

Wow @SimonJT. Good for you for telling the new woman the truth - and good for her for a) believing you and b) instantly dumping him.

His mobile account sent an email suggesting he ask person with number xxxxxx to move to them as he spent so long on the phone with her!

I received a text message from then boyfriend saying "have a lovely day at the zoo today babe" when I had no plans to visit the zoo that day...

@tarasmalatarocks

Apologies ladies, I’ve had a ton of work this week, will do it over weekend . There is though lots on the internet if you google Open DNS. First thing to do is set an account with them, it’s free , you don’t need the upgrade, you will need your WiFi on though when you do it

Hey, did you ever post this?

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He Asked for my log in details for my account on an airline website and paid to upgrade my flights for an upcoming trip.

He clearly forgot he was logged in as me.

And booked flight tickets for the other woman to fly over and land 2 hours after I departed and to leave a few hours before I was due to land back, with business class chauffeur booked for her to our house.

I got the email confirmation of my flight upgrades, plus her flight booking.

What. A. Bellend.

Chaffuered to your house.

Bloody hell. Vile.