Anyone want to start a self-care / self-love / personal development thread?

[Blurpblorp]

I'm not 100% sure how to describe what I mean. I'm a proud mum, divorced, and newly-single and keen to stay that way and figure out who am I after my heart's taken a good bruising these last few years.

Is anyone interested in a thread concerned with self-care / personal development? The things I'm thinking are:

learning to value myself
accept my body for how it is
eat food for nourishment and pleassure, not mindless chomping
commit to moving my body for fun, not brainless calorie burning
work out what I really want out of life
challenge my white privilege
activism for causes that matter to me like climate change and racism
try and understand why I place such emphasis on validation from men
learn how to set and maintain barriers
understand where my 'imposter syndrome' comes from
change things I don't like about my personality and if I can't change them, accept them.
get a proper skincare regime
consider my spirituality
save money
finish up the DIY projects at home and get my house as I want it

So many things. Would anyone like to join? If so, what are your circumstances and what's on your list?

Hi @Iggypoppie and welcome I really empathise with finding it difficult to do some self-care. Hence reason for this thread. Why don't we prioritise outselves more? rhetorical question Yours is a great list. Why don't you start with just a couple of them... mentally high five yourself... then add more over time?It's Monday at least, top of the week and chance to try and set the tone for the week

You're very welcome @LuckyLinda3 can you tell us more about you / your goals?

@Blurpblorp thank you. My husband of 20+ years left in January. I'm coping well but would like to:

Rediscover myself
Build up my self worth and self esteem
Detach my self worth from my relationship
Fall in love with the simple things in life again
Live in the moment not in the past
Enjoy finding myself and all the things that make me who I am

All help appreciated 💐

@Blurpblorp - how cool! I am 3 months in now with my hair - it's so silver! And so cool. I can't wait for it to grow out. It feels like it's my true self coming out of me for everyone to see. Very empowering and slightly badass :)
I have moved out of my B&B room into a very nice apartment in central London! I am still unpacking boxes but I am so very happy! It hasn't sunk in yet properly that I am having a home of my own (sort of).
A year ago I would have never imagined that all this would happen and now - look at me :) I just need to find a way to earn money so I don't have to go to Foodbank once my savings run out.

@Iggypoppie - I have the same goals as you. I have forgotten them, since so much has happened to me recently. But reading your list - I could relate to every one of your goals. I need to get back there.. I am sure we can do it. Even if we do just half of the things on the list - that already would be a progress. :)

What a great thread, I've read the whole thing and want to join you inspiring lot!

I have been through what I can only describe as 4 years of hell (think marriage breakdown after being cheated on with my 'friend', PTSD, full mental breakdown, multiple bereavements including the horrific suicide of my best friend last year, miscarriage, money worries, children with SEN, multiple house moves etc etc).

Anyway, I'm now in a lovely house with a garden, my children are settled and it's time to take care of myself.

So, Yoga with Adriene most days.
Will start Couch to 5k
Have really got back into cooking
Slowly working again
I'm sure I can think of something else 🙂

Hello! How is everyone?

I found myself recently feeling like I am floating through life absolutely aimlessly. Unable to commit fully to anything. Having great plans and ideas, but not actually doing anything about them, mainly, because I could already foresee a failure.

I have lost my job a couple of months ago and then decided to start my own business. It is all nearly there but then I just stopped working on it as I am afraid I will fail and then won't have the confidence to start anything again, ever. I have lost confidence applying for jobs in my field, because I don't have enough experience. As I drift away from my field - I soon won't have a field, and all my education will become irrelevant..

I feel like nothing will get accomplished in the next few months anyway, because of pandemic and Christmas and us still settling into our new lives in a new home. And maybe I should just let myself be, lay low and see where the current takes me.
As I suspect that the time before January will be a write off anyway - I have (finally) signed up to a writing course :) It starts on Monday and I am terribly excited :)

Also, about the time I start my Christmas cake. Last year I made it for the first time ever, and it was delicious. I fed it (and myself) with Amaretto - going to do the same this year!