Creepy things that males have said to you in any context.

[NoMoreDickheads]

One I saw a couple of times a while back- he seemed a nice guy so IDK why he came out with this.

Me:- I don't like X (sexual act) it just makes me feel ticklish.

Him:- I'm going to make you laugh and laugh.

!!!
Luckily he didn't go on to try the thing. Brr!

I’m very short and used to look young for my age.

When I was 19, a 30- something man tried to chat me up in the street. I was trying to fob him off politely. He asked me how old I was and I told him. “I thought you were 15” he said.

Two men in a pub, who told me which door was the women’s toilets, then said “can we come in with you?”

A very strange creep in the Netherlands, who approached me at a bus station. I was 19 or 20. He was hard to understand as he whispered and mumbled, but I realised he was offering me one euro in loose change to go around a corner with him. He kept saying “I only look”. He didn’t take no for an answer, and his expression and his weird staring eyes didn’t change, even when I shouted “NO!” at him. He just kept following me around and saying “one euro, you have”. At one point I think he whispered “do you have hair?” I was so relieved when I got on a bus without him.

My friend with one child (conceived naturally with her ex BF) now openly gay and living with a woman has lost count of the number of men who have told her " let me know if you want another baby" usually with a sly wink.

I've had loads but the one that sticks out in my mind is from when I was staying with my first boyfriend at his family home, I must have been about 19. Boyfriend got up early to walk the dog as his parents were at work and I stayed in bed and went back to sleep. I woke up to the feeling of someone getting on the bed and assumed it was my boyfriend. I turned round and it was his younger brother (who was 18 at the time) just lying there staring at me with a completely straight face. I don't know why I did this, think I just panicked but I just turned back round and moved away from him, right up against the wall and waited with my heart hammering in my chest until he eventually got up and left. I never told my boyfriend about it creeps me out every time I think about it.

Were you LivingThatLockdownLife
That would be creepier.

Age 14 in my first Saturday job and said by my boss "I've really missed groping your bum thiscweek"

Later, from a guy my own age
"Do you have any Italian in you? Do you want some?" The answer was no!

Not said, but done...Walking through the park to my now dh's house about 20 years ago carrying a boxed cake so my hands weren't free...passed a guy coming out of the gate as I went in and as we passed he shot a hand out to squeeze my breast. I was really shocked but stopped walking and shouted "That's sexual assault". He had continued walking the entire time and just turned and laughed in my face. Disgusting.

"You look so different when you are asleep".
Doctor on ward round, he assisted the consultant during my nine hours of surgery.

40 year old, beardy gym coach when I was 13:
Him: how old are you? Me: 13
Him: things start happening to girls’ bodies when they’re 13, is anything happening to you?

He also used to stick his hand between our legs and under our bums when we were practicing vault pretending he was helping us get in the right position. Nasty bastard, he was charged with sexual assault but my dad made the executive decision not to speak to me about it as he assumed he’d never touched me. Only found out a few years later.

Lots and lots of others sadly, I find the comments from people in a position of trust when I was a child the worst really.

Nastiest one probably creepy 30 odd year old on top deck of bus when I was 14 heading home from school. He moved so he was sitting right behind me, leant forward and whispered in my ear (mouth almost touching me, his breath right down my neck) all the things he was gonna do to me, that I was a bitch and he was going to fuck me up, etc. etc. He was drunk and after a bit was talking quite loudly. Not one person on bus stood up for me (all adults, mostly male). I just sat there in terror until my stop then got up and ran with him still shouting at me.

Tutor at uni gave us access to computer lab late one night, we were all female, as we were leaving he said we’d all be raped on the way home.

Most of mine happened at work in customer service. I was about 20 and a customer came in probably in his 40s he kept telling me I was gorgeous ect but he was staring so much I was really uncomfortable. Once he left I was seeing to someone else he pushed in front and said I dont need this but you do. He handed me a bit of paper with his phone number on. I then saw him in the street and he started asking me why I hadnt rang him. It was so awkward. Another time I was helping someone and he asked my name I thought it was because he was having a problem and he wanted someone from other company to ring me to try and resolve it but he wrote it on a piece of paper put it in his pocket and winked at me whilst saying that's for me to use later. A much older man kept asking about my make up and the colours I was using ( to a strange degree ) and told me I had inspired him to start painting again. This one happened in the street I vaguely knew this person he was standing in the street shouted my name and asked me to suck him for a fiver

My worst - do you want to go upstairs and writhe around in our own juices while I rutt you like an animal ?

Erm... no thanks.

Here's mine.
I was on holiday in Majorca when I was 7/8 maybe? My parents and I were getting off a coach to go on an excursion to the Caves Of Drach. The coach driver grabbed the back of my shorts and "pinged" them really hard. I don't think I told my parents as I was so shocked. He didn't say anything but I remember the look on his face

Random man in a shopping centre: "can I come on your shoes?" Um, no.

And I've had "can I spank you?" TWICE. Once on a station platform and once on my doorstep from a man who'd followed me home.

Ugh.

Mental health patient. I wish you were living at mine so I could come home from the pub and batter you.

It made me wonder whether some males see dv as a hobby

MissMarianHalcombe

re your comment:-

" I don’t think many people realise how some customers behave towards high street bank/building society staff. I used to work in one too".

I can concur.

I started work at a building society in the late 80s and without fail we all were gawped at or otherwise asked out by men old enough to be our own dad. Such behaviour did make us feel very uncomfortable and even now I do recall one of my colleagues also refusing to serve a particular individual ever again after she turned down his request for a date. Customers using our first name to address us (and at that time we were not wearing name badges) was actively encouraged by management.

Abortion clinic. Aged mid 20s. I had paid for anaesthesia because of the stress of it all.

When i came round in a chair in the recovery room, a healthcare assistant was looming over me. As he helped me to stand up, he leaned right in and whispered something in my ear, I was still groggy but remember pushing him away as he tried to hug me. He put a napkin in my hand. It had his phone number on it.

Something kicked in and i got the fuck outta there as fast as i could. In a panic i threw the paper away but was kicking myself later as I could have taken that proof to the management.

Fuck that guy.

"Describe to me in French .... your bedroom". My French teacher whilst rubbing a stick between his legs. Later made front page in the News of the World for taking porno pics of another teacher in the classroom after hours and sleeping with ex pupils.

"Anytime". My older driving instructor. I was 17 and inadvertently grabbed his knee instead of the gearstick.

1. Just started collage at 16 and a creepy man sat behind me on the bus, leans forward and starts talking to me. Telling me how he's just left his pregnant girlfriend and how he like to make me his next one. How I'm so pretty, where do I live ect. Had to ring my dad to meet me with our massive dog so I could go home safely.
2. 16th birthday in a restaurant. I took my baby niece to the baby change. When leaving a old creepy man looked me up and down saying 'my, aren't you a bit young to have that, naughty girl' while gesturing to my niece. Eww

There are others such as looking down my top (doesn't help that I'm very short with a large chest) PR brushing up against me on buses

Middle aged man crossed the street to say: "I just had to come and tell you that you look like a sex goddess"
I was 14.
And walking with my mother.

An ex said, “I wouldn't have wanted another child, but I would have liked you to have an abortion to me.”
I never spoke to him again.

How many of these are in the last 2-3 years...? Just feels like a thread of bashing men based on events from 2000s, 90s and 80s! The 90s are over 20yrs ago!

I completely forgot it was ok to sexually harass teenage girls 20 years ago...

Out on my lockdown exercise time few weeks back a biker pulled up in front of me and offered me a ride...and a stroke of his helmet

Said to me by a Met police officer after we had kissed but I told him I didn't want to go any further: 'it's a good job for you that I'm feeling so tired tonight'.

Three years ago, I was on dating sites and I was shocked at the things some men say to women on there. Some lovely men too, of course!

Hundreds from when I was a teenager/early 20s, 15+ years ago, but one that really stayed with me for some reason was a bus driver (around 50) saying a good hard shag would sort my headache out. I was 18. I think it was the first time someone my dad's age had spoken to me like that and it really upset me.

Oh and one that I remember because it is such a shocking example of how I used to "laugh and be polite until they go away" whenever I was made to feel uncomfortable: a man in his 50s/60s sitting next to me in a park when I was travelling on my own in Australia at 22 and he very quickly turned the conversation on to how to give the perfect blowjob.

Also had something put in my drink at 20 (the two men were around 40) which made my legs turn to jelly after two glasses of wine. Another example of allowing uninvited people to talk to me and my friend while we were out because I was too 'polite' to tell them to go. Now I'm deliberately quite abrupt and unapproachable!

I do hope it's better now, for my DDs' sakes. I think it's also more acceptable and expected to react strongly though, as I wish I had done and will encourage them to.

When I was about 16, I was hanging around in the city centre with my friend when a man walked up to me , stared at my boobs, then asked if he could have a feel..... reader I said no.

Did he really think anyone would say yes?!

It's not better now, there are so many examples of this sexist shit

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