Creepy things that males have said to you in any context.

[NoMoreDickheads]

One I saw a couple of times a while back- he seemed a nice guy so IDK why he came out with this.

Me:- I don't like X (sexual act) it just makes me feel ticklish.

Him:- I'm going to make you laugh and laugh.

!!!
Luckily he didn't go on to try the thing. Brr!

In the high street:

• Would you like to go for a drink?

• I'm 15

• That's ok, we can have a soft drink

My friend’s dd is 15 and she’s started to get various disgusting comments from men. My friend and I both sighed and said ‘here we go’ and told her it will probably carry on til she’s mid 30’s, as was both of our experiences.
So it hasn’t stopped and continues.

God where to begin!

Last year a man sat next to me close enough to touch on an empty bench and started talking to me. I politely said I just wanted to eat my lunch in peace and he said 'you should speak to a man when he is talking to'...started shouting and swearing

When I lived abroad men would sometimes pretend to cum or mimic cunnilingus as I walked past

A popular guy in a group hobby used to do asking another guy in the group 'if that girl asked you to rape her would you??'

"Ah the things I'd love to do to you". I was 13, said to me by a member of staff in Air Cadets.

I've remembered another air cadet one. It was a sports day type thing and a member of staff asked me and another girl if we'd do naked mud wrestling. We were about 13 or 14

Flutteringkite- Ewww!

@Maria53 Sounds like you've had some scary experiences. xx

@Perisoire Oh, brother!

Christ flutteringkite. That's awful.

"I've always seen you as a sex option"

said by an ex colleague who always behaves like shite to everyone in the office professionally, but was decent socially, and took it upon himself to message me 3 years after I had left that job to try it on. He was at my wedding and knew I was very happily married with young kids.

While eating a twister ice lolly (in a normal way) a man who looked to be in his 40’s asked me if he could test my gag reflex. I was 14

I was 18 walking through town to my job, my grandad had passed away a week earlier and I guess I still looked sad. A man probably late 30’s told me to ‘cheer up love or I’ll give you 9inches to cry about’

No words used but:
There was also a park near my school that was overlooked by a blocks of flats. From year 10 you were allowed to leave the school grounds for lunch. We often sat on the park with our dinner. One day we found some Polaroid’s scattered around with close up photos of a man with his legs spread and his flaccid penis jus there like a mug shot. We laughed at them of course and I remember one of us setting them on fire with a lighter. We returned to the park the next day and I noticed a guy Watching us over his balcony.
He put his hand to his mouth and simulated oral sex between his fingers. He must have been watching us for months

At a major industry social event. About a thousand people there.

A man who owned a very well knowN company received a life time achievement award. Known for being very religious.

During the evening I saw him watching me in that kind of Lecherous way and I remember thinking “ not so religious after all” his table was opposite mine.

Later on, when the event was finished, I came out and got in the lift with a colleague, this man suddenly appeared and got in the lift with us. Myself and my colleague headed to the hotel bar.we were all staying in the hotel.

We got our drinks and went to sit with everyone else. The senior manager present nearly shit himself because this man decided to join us. You can’t even get in the door to see him. So for the manager it was a really really big deal.

There was about twenty of us, and he was no where near me, so no conversation between us.

It got to about one in the morning, so we’d been there half an hour or so, and I said I was going to bed, goodnight, he stood Up and said yes so am I. And proceeded to follow me out. There was nothing I could do obviously. We got in the lift together, and I pressed my floor, and said which floor are you on, so I could press the button and he said yes same one.

I then got out the lift said goodnight, and turned left, but he came with me. We walked along and I got to my room, so I said this is my room so goodnight again , being polite.

What I’ve written is the only words I spoke to this man. Literally. He was a total and complete stranger to me.

And he said “ are you going to invite me in” so I stupidly responded with “no of course not, why would I do that” And actually laughed. And he said

“ because I’ve decided I’m going to take my time over you”

I’m not shitting you. That’s exactly what he said. Still gives me the ick when I think about it. Clearly I didn’t invite him in.

I then saw him again a few months later, another work social event, a big sporting one, and he came into our hospitality as his son was with us (adult son), he sort of did a double take when he saw me. And then stood mutely for about thirty seconds staring stoney faced at me. Bizarrely I did the same thing. I stared back, As everyone sort of looked confused at us. Then he turned back to his son, continued his conversation and simply left.

Odd as fuck.

When I was ten me and my little mate on bus. Dad behind me. We were just starting to show the beginnings of needing a bra but not enough to wear one.
This creepy old man was staring down our tops and my dad yelled at top of his voice and the guy jumped up and dived off bus. I felt dirty and ashamed.

Apparently I was flashed (I don't remember thankfully) by our old next door neighbours mate when I was about 7 (I'm unsure) I told my dad and he went around to tell the lad's dad. I don't remember seeing him for years but because I know what he did, when I did see him a few years ago as adult I felt sick. He was sat there with his young daughters in a eatery and I just felt cold. Baring in mind he was up to 6-8 years older than me.

When I was 16, me and my friends left college and we were walking towards our bus stops which were the bottom end of the city centre. These eastern European guys followed us from the too all the way to the bottom, cat calling us making comments and shouting. They followed us for a good 20 mins. We were so scared and they only got lost when we were ended ip shouting and screaming at them near a busy bus terminal.

At same bus terminal, probably around the same age, I was with my friend and we were just going home. This creepy guy came up to us and started talking sexually to me. I don't quite remember how the conversation went as it was so long ago but this man looked in his 30s and it was something to do with having sex with him. I declined and my mate was like tell him you're on and he was like so you're on red rag then really loud
Again felt really dirty.

It is weird to recount so many things. I'm sure there are more.

Oh and there was the time a taxi driver thought it fine to run his hands up and down my thighs.

Taxi drivers are really bad for sleazing in my experience (at least in the Midlands.) This will sound weird to most of you maybe, but I never thought of sitting in the back. I sit in the back now on the opposite side to the driver, so it's a bit better. Also less of it now I'm in my 40s.

God, so many.

Being chased whilst out running, multiple times.

Being approached by random men asking where I lived / did I have a boyfriend so many times.

Being shouted at in the street by random men.

Being hit on by a 20 something man who subsequently admitted he thought I was a schoolgirl.

That's all apart from the actual assaults, of course.

Wht do men do this? How would they feel if someone did it to their daughter/wife/sister/mum? It makes me feel sick. I know NAMALT, but I'd say a good portion of society are.

I had a man stare at me whilst I was about 8 years old doing handstands on the street with my friends. I've been sexually assaulted, and raped. I bet so many of us have. It's a common occurrence and it's so sad.

'I'd like to see that bent over with her flaps out'. Said about me by a random outside a bar.

A man who must have been in his 30s at the time, approached my friend and me in the street when we were both 15. He asked us if we had ever tried modelling and said we looked perfect for his agency and to come back with him and he could take some test shots for free. We declined and he gave us his card which said something on that didn't click at that age. Later on realised it was glamour modelling/porn! Lucky escape.

By my most recent boyfriend.... ‘you are a prime person to control’

He said it referring to my exes. But as a result of my exes I’m slightly wiser to it these days. Of course he tried to do the same.

I have a few;

Being flashed by an 18 year old in a park when I was 13-14

When I was around 14/15 me and my friends use to get drunk and fall asleep at one of our houses. Our group of friends were boys and girls. Our regular house to stay at had 3 beds in my friends room so we would share usually without any problem or feeling uneasy as we were all friends. One night I got into bed a bit tipsy and my male ‘friend’ was trying to stick his hand down my pants but I kept my legs firmly clamped shut. He actually scratched my vagina with his long nails he was pulling at me so hard. It was awful. He thought I was asleep but didn’t stop when he couldn’t get any further down due to my legs being clamped shut. Started to drift away from them after that.

Growing up, walking past groups of guys and them shouting ‘suck me off’ I’d of been under 16 at that point

I use to work in a bar who was owned by a European man and he had a lot of his creepy European friends living above the club. He use to make me mop the floor but the main dance floor (after hours) and id turn around and all of his creepy mates including him were watching me do it. Felt sick. The owner eventually drugged and raped me in his office. I never reported him as I thought I had somehow brought it on or being up for it and it’s only recently I recognised it was rape.

Being at a friends house when I was 17 and her boyfriend cornering me in the bedroom upstairs asking me to sleep with him even though my friend was downstairs and also pregnant. I somehow got the blame for this even though I was pleading with him to let me go back downstairs.

Another one. 'You have blow job lips'. Said by a stranger at a party. I left soon after that!

When I was a young girl I was in a bus station and a creepy old man kept walking past asking me to come with him and showing me a kitkat. Can still see his creepy smile now 🤮

Oh my god, Bother. A guy said the same to me about blowjob lips. So unoriginal.

First experience of catcalling was from older teenager boys when I was running past a park aged around 12 or 13.
When I was 17, I was waiting for a friend outside a museum with the very recognisable lanyard of the local college (and my name on the ID card) around my neck. Old man comes up to me, asks what I study at college. Thinking he's just being friendly, I tell him English literature. He asks if I like Shakespeare. Yes. Then tells me that in Shakespeare's time, when a man was hanged, he got an erection due to the blood flow and rigor mortis. Creepy af. Escaped into the museum and was so relieved to find my (male, martial arts trained) friend.

Fancy giving me a wank with your lips? Said to me by a 20ish year old reveller when I stepped off a bus (I was similar age).

Plus too many others to mention.

The worst, a taxi driver telling me it was difficult to ask customers out who he found attractive because they might ‘cry rape’ mightn’t they? Said to me after my friends had vacated and I was last one in taxi. Awful :(

. I know NAMALT, but I'd say a good portion of society are

Agree, I'd suggest a majority. This thread makes me feel sad, and angry, in equal measures. The sheer lack of integrity, morals and respect is infuriating.

For me it's the thought of what the fuck is going through their heads when they say this crap.

A few years ago I gave a homeless guy some change after a night out. He told me I needed to wear a longer skirt because I was just asking to be raped and would make an innocent man get into trouble. My skirt was just above the knee and I dress quite conservatively.