Found BF back on dating site need to be sneaky!

[Whatalife14]

I’ve been with my boyfriend for a year. Everything was great or so I thought. I had a gut feeling just to check he wasn’t on the site we met. Well there he was username changed but definitely him. I’m heartbroken devastated. We had a talk about the site and how we haven’t been on since we met just this past week. So to have him lie to my face makes me so mad and disappointed. He has just met my children after a year of dating because I was certain this was it. I want to just call him but I don’t want him to twist it and know I was on there. I have trusted him this whole time, I’m not sure what made me look. Has anyone any ideas about how I can call him out sneakily. I think I’m prolonging the fact I need to end this just hurts to know I’ve been used and we were a lie.

Haha yes you have GOT to say sorry I saw you and you’re not my type 😂 cor, that would hurt ... haha

Dating profiles are basically bullshit a lot of the time.
He is not unique on that I'm afraid.
I would have done what you have to be honest.
I like your next step plan!
Go for it!

I'd also be asking him what he has read lately and how far he runs every day. What time does he go for his run because it's really hot out there... blah blah blah!!
You could have such fun!

He’s just said and I quote...

“It’s so hard to find genuine people on this site. Why do people feel they have to lie to become more attractive to others. BE YOURSELF”

What an idiot. I am worried though that I am only enjoying this because I am still talking to him. I’m finding I have butterflies when he replies followed by extreme sadness.

If it makes you feel better arrange a date and stand him up (I would!)

Then get on with your life and think you dodged a bullet!

Ha! No, arrange a date. Cancel. Rearrange. Cancel. Repeat. What fun you can have. You know what buttons to press. Be flirty & sexual...that'll keep him hooked. Good on you!

Oh I would have to play this game. Reel him right in.

What an epic cunt.

Oh my! Is there any way that he can find out that this is your friends profile, because you could have some fun with this.
Sorry OP, what an utter arse hole! Was he planning on meeting people during lockdown even??

OP I'm worried this is just hurting you more than him because you are delaying having to face the reality of the breakup?

I agree with @flittingabout, I think this is will end up hurting you more. Message him back and say it's me you twat, your so full of it. And block and delete. Heal your heart and grieve. And than you can move on to someone much better. X

I don’t think I’ll ever trust anything a guy ever says again. @backseatcookers that is crazy. Men are truly special.

Bloody hell he's horrible. I agree with others you should block and delete don't do the whole set up thing - honestly I know while you're so angry it feels like revenge but all it's doing is letting him keep your headspace instead of healing and moving on.

And while loads of them are (as are loads of women - I speak as someone bi!) NOT all men are wankers and there are good ones, I promise.

So while you should absolutely take lessons from everything and maybe be cautious as a result do not let him ruin your perception of relationships as a whole.

I have so much fun with my other half - he's basically a best mate I also fancy loads. It took three abusive relationships for me to get to where I am now because I thought the choice was somehow shitty abusive relationships or being single.

There are good, decent, fun, kind men out there. Now your radar for the ones who aren't those things can be more finely tuned. But don't let him put you off dating in future - have a long stretch of being single and pampering yourself, then dating without pressure and see how you feel.

He really does sound like an insufferable cunt and I'm glad you're rid of him. Now go and delete that profile and stop giving him headspace.

The best revenge isn't anger or getting your own back being petty, it is sheer and utter indifference. My god when you get to the genuine indifference stage with an arsehole you really feel like a queen 👸🏻

I am worried though that I am only enjoying this because I am still talking to him. I’m finding I have butterflies when he replies followed by extreme sadness.

You're right - please do stop it now.
You have proof he's an absolute cunt and that he's not giving you a second thought. So don't give him any more of your headspace of time in this way.

I’m finding I have butterflies when he calls followed by extreme sadness.

I would stop the game now, OP. Break the link for good so the healing process can begin.

OMG what a fucking twat hahaha.

Him not you op. I know its not funny to you now but its going to be very funny someday. The pure audacity of him.

@Whatalife14
He is a tosser. Please stop messaging him.

I am finding your approach quite amusing OP, well done for making a mug out of him. Love how he is claiming to be reading books and running when he's mostly sat on his arse taking selfies and huffing his own farts.

All I would say is, look after yourself. If this strategy is making you feel better then all power to you. He deserves to be made a fool of, but please look after yourself and don't do anything too rash.

I would be dropping a date and arriving to it. If nothing else you'll fuck online dating up for him for a while!!

He Just asked for my kik username. I didn’t even know what that was. I downloaded it and he’s been on there 1054 days. He never even mentioned this app to me.

Hm. Kim is all about the anonymity according to 'tinternet and doesn't require a phone number. Video chats etc.

Kik is the ‘want to have fun without giving out my real number’ chat app. Like WhatsApp but more anonymous. Lots of sexting and flirty chat.

what is KIK ?

He is not worth this much investigation OP.

Drop the rope.

Every new thing you learn is going to be either hurtful or shocking.

Why did he ask you for that OP? That’s odd. Kik is generally a sex talk app, a secret one

OP I don't think it's good for your mental health to be messaging him from a fake account. Sorry to be blunt, but you need to try to forget about him and cut all contact. Easier said than done, but it's the best thing for you to do.