A little suspicious - any knowledgeable WhatsApp users around?

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I think DH might be blocking and unblocking me on WhatsApp.

He works away midweek. I noticed randomly a while ago that his profile pic on WhatsApp had changed to nothing. Before it had been a pic of us all.

Then noticed on sons phone a while later (he was showing me messages) it was a pic of the kids.

I didn't think much of it. Then I was whatsapping someone and his pic was of the kids on mine too. Basically thought I must have been mistaken and promptly forgot all about it. We very rarely WhatsApp each other, we mainly use iMessage but he uses WhatsApp with the kids and other family/friends. I use it for the kids and workmates mainly.

Fast forward to last night. Was on WhatsApp and saw the picture of the kids. He is quite high up on my chats list.

For some reason I screenshot it. Then this morning, went to WhatsApp my sister and the pic is back to nothing again. It's of the kids on my sons!

I WhatsApped a message and it's just got one tick and has for ages. But on a group kids chat we are on it went to two straight away for him when I messaged this morning.

This is just weird!

It can't be that he wants to hide his last online as he has that set so nobody sees that anyway. He wouldn't need to block me for that.

Any ideas as to why?

I know the right thing to do is ask. I don't really want to do that right now.

Next time he blocks you go and ask him to hand his phone over? Then he can't deny you're blocked as it will be there in front of you. He may also have other messages on there he doesn't want you to see. Is there anyway you can access his phone?

Whatever's going on.. It really doesn't look good. I can't actually think of any innocent explanations for what he's doing.

He's blocking you. He can turn his last online and delivered and read ticks off, so it's not to to stop you seeing if he's online.

Is there other suspicious behaviour? Does he use his phone excessively when he's at home? Have you looked at online banking records? I must say I think it's really suspicious and don't believe there's a WhatsApp bug that would cause this.

• * One tick – means message is sent (to the Whatsapp server) but still not delivered.

At this state, the message has moved from your mobile device to the server.

And now it is the server’s turn to deliver the message to the recipient.

After the message delivered to the recipient, it turn to double grey ticks.

If your message is stuck with this one grey tick, there are several reasons :

Recipient’s device is switched off

Recipient’s device is offline (no internet connection)

He/she might have already blocked you

I have a friend who, when I WhatsApp her, it stays in on tick for a short while. She fully turns her phone off when not using it. Proper shut down.
As soon as she turns it on, I get 2 grey ticks and two blue ticks very soon after.

Is he in meetings at work? Is he turning his phone off fully- proper shut down (not just the side click if it's an iPhone )?

Or... Is he using 'Do not disturb' ?
I get no messages through when I use that function.
When I switch do not disturb off, it takes a minute or so for the server to update and deliver the messages to me.

he in meetings at work? Is he turning his phone off fully- proper shut down (not just the side click if it's an iPhone)

If that were the case then the family chat would also show one tick

If I were to guess I’d say he has blocked you so that he doesn’t accidentally send you a message meant for someone else. If he’s cheating it can be a subconscious thing to text the wife because the guilt niggle is at play. So while he is texting another woman his guilt niggle has put you in his head without realising and he sends it to you instead.

How very bizarre. Sorry you are going through this OP.

You can check next time you're blocked by getting your sister to check for you

OP
You can get the SIMS for £1 @ Wilko.

Stick his number into WhatsApp and you'll be able to see. If his Last Seen shows up on one phone and not the other that is a clear indicator you're blocked.

You can even check the same using your kids' WhatsApp. See whether he shows his Last Seen.

And to a previous poster, yes it will not let you add a person who's blocked you to a group. It says x cannot be added.

Wish I didn't have to know all this stuff but at least it might help you...

I'm sorry, I know how heart breaking it is.

I hope there is a innocent or silly explanation in your case.

Hi, you can buy another random number without getting a sim/another phone and login to WhatsApp with that number. I've used the app Vyke and it's about £4 for a new number for 1 months use.

You can also install the app Parallel Space which allows you to have two copies of WhatsApp running at the same time with two different numbers. Useful when you want to prove you have been blocked and what their usage is like when your number is blocked!

The profile picture change is a definite give away. My DH did that when he was in full blown affair. It's to play down that he is married and to suggest he is separated from you. Sorry you are going through this. People that do this are low life cunts. x

@Artroomproblems do you mean Airplane? I get whatsapp messages through when I've got Do Not Disturb on.

My best friends husband was doing this to her when working away mon-fri. He was blocking her around 9/10pm every night (it took her months to figure it all out) because he was video calling other women via WhatsApp. It’s a common thing and there’s a specific website for it. It’s basically live video sex via WhatsApp/FaceTime.

You can try the adding him to a group chat thing with your dc phone. Just wait for the dc to be asleep and then block yourself on your dc phone. Then try and see if you can start a group chat.

He does use airplane settings when charging.

What do you mean a website? Like people on there to hook up with that you don't know? Or a place for people that know each other to use?

The things you learn

But he messaged me on iMessage so the airplane mode thing doesn't fit. I wish it did.

Then all of a sudden the pic was back. A fair amount of time after getting the iMessage.

OP how does he mainly communicate? I’m guessing WhatsApp. Hence he’s probably done hide alerts on your iMessages so they don’t come up on the screen and then blocked and archived your chat so if he opens WhatsApp there’s nothing from you on there.

That would be my gut feeling anyway.

But why hide me?

To pretend to some other were not together?

Yes I'd say he uses WhatsApp the most

Sounds too late now but you can delete messages that haven't yet been read on WhatsApp. Select the message, then 'more' then 'delete', then 'delete for everyone'. It shows both ends as deleted but you could explain by saying you wrote it to him by accident.

Sounds like your spidey senses are prickling.

There's also Mac/PC/tablet versions of WhatsApp but after you've downloaded the App you have to scan a QR code with the phone and the phone needs to be on for you to read but if you can do that when he's around you'll see everything.

You can share your profile pic with contacts only, so could it be possible that sometimes you are recognised as a contact - and not at other times - e.g - when he is connected to WiFi??

I think he would simply ‘hide his status’ - if he was up to something??

What do you mean a website? Like people on there to hook up with that you don't know? Or a place for people that know each other to use

Basically, it’s similar to dating/hook up sites but where the people on it are interested in live chat with men/women where they can masturbate while on WhatsApp to each other. So like phone sex but with video. Some of the sites are just where you can pay a woman to do a video call with you and she will basically do whatever you want on the call, using toys, pleasuring herself etc.

My friend found evidence of loads of sites and stuff that her ex had been doing behind her back. He was video calling a different woman practically every night. He was arranging hook ups in parks with strangers, going to orgys etc. Honestly, it’s awful and an absolutely miracle she didn’t catch anything.